marginallymental
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Can you people make out what goes on in my head? I've never understood it, and I've only recently become aware I even do this.
After my mother initiated a messy, frightening divorce from my moderately abusive dad, something really spontaneous went out of me as a six year old. I became increasingly socially isolated--teased unmercifully at school for years and not supported much at home--and now I do the weirdest thing. I LONG to be in a group, and I'm not a bad leader, but then.....
Well, THEN, I do the most self-destructive things, and I'm going to try to articulate it for the first time on paper. Bear with me. I renege on agreements, I forfeit what power I have, I find fault with people (albeit silently and in my head), and before you know it, I'm out. Just like that. Happens in friendships, clubs, work, almost everything.
I'm curious how I can curb my pathological need to be an outsider-at- any-cost. Why on earth would I do such a destructive thing to myself and others? And how could I be blind to it for almost 50 years?
I can't believe I've even mentioned this--it's frightening being so naked. I'm glad you all don't know my name.
After my mother initiated a messy, frightening divorce from my moderately abusive dad, something really spontaneous went out of me as a six year old. I became increasingly socially isolated--teased unmercifully at school for years and not supported much at home--and now I do the weirdest thing. I LONG to be in a group, and I'm not a bad leader, but then.....
Well, THEN, I do the most self-destructive things, and I'm going to try to articulate it for the first time on paper. Bear with me. I renege on agreements, I forfeit what power I have, I find fault with people (albeit silently and in my head), and before you know it, I'm out. Just like that. Happens in friendships, clubs, work, almost everything.
I'm curious how I can curb my pathological need to be an outsider-at- any-cost. Why on earth would I do such a destructive thing to myself and others? And how could I be blind to it for almost 50 years?
I can't believe I've even mentioned this--it's frightening being so naked. I'm glad you all don't know my name.