This is incredibly long. No one has to read it or anything. I'm just really upset right now and need to type everything out. I don't know. Sorry about it being so long and whiny and pathetic.
If anyone is in an abusive or verbally abusive relationship right now, or has gotten out of one, please pm me. I'm in desperate need of help.
I've been with my boyfriend 3 years. 3 years this has been going on. I can't really talk to a lot of people about it because people won't understand, or they'll think poorly of me for not leaving, or something.
I ******* hate myself. Everything he says to me, everything he does to me, I'm starting to believe I'm as worthless as he tells me.
There is so many things to say. So many things that I haven't really typed out before.. Our fights consist of me begging him to stop hurting me, to stop treating me so badly, to treat me like a person.. to stop treating me like a dog.. and he sits there and screams in my face, tells me I'm an idiot, that I'm messed up. I'm not messed up. I'm not messed up.
He's dragged me out of a car by my leg across gravel, when I got up he pushed me down screaming he hated me, that I was ******* worthless, that I meant nothing.. he's pulled his car into some unknown neighborhood sometimes hours away from my home and left me at 2, 4, 5 am by getting out of his car and running off. Just left me. In the freezing cold car. I called out to him, asking him to at least shut the window because it was so cold, he said "No, fresia you." I said how am I supposed to get home? He said ******* find your own way home.
He'd drive really fast in the car, slam on the breaks in the middle of the road, and drive really fast again.. if I told him to slow down he'd scream "shut your ******* mouth, just shut the fresia up, stop telling me what to ******* do".. He has screamed hateful things not even an inch from my face.. that no one liked me, that his family or friends didn't like me, that I was pathetic, that no one will ever like me.. that no one wants me..
I would beg him to just calm down. The only thing I'm ever mad at him for is how he treats me, how he lies, how he screams and hurts me so much and ignores me. He'd just get mad, ignore me for days, pick up the phone and scream at me and hang up again, when ALL he has to do is just text saying he's angry and needs to calm down and he'll talk to me later - and then I wouldn't contact him again until he wanted. But no, he just continues to ignore me, and I completely lose it and just try to work things out.. because he makes my life a living hell when he's angry.. says things like "I'm going to break up with you and you're not going to like it" "I ******* hate you and who you are" "You're a ******* idiot, you're stupid"..
Of course he spends one day with me with things being "calm" and he's back to normal, back to "I love you" "I'm so sorry I hurt you" "I'll never hurt you like that again..", all of those things. He's broken so many promises to me. He has sex with me, tells me he loves me, and then gets angry at something small 20 minutes later and says he ******* hates me and I'm nothing. I ask him "How can you say that when 20 minutes ago you said you loved me?" - He'll scream back "The past doesn't matter. That's your excuse every time."
He's thrown chairs across the room, pushed me into walls, grabbed my arm and twisted it, digging his fingernail as hard as he could into my skin.. the only scar I have. He's thrown extremely hot pizza all over me, burning my arms and hands really badly.. Sometimes I have to beg him to apologize because he feels he did nothing wrong. He said me getting burned was a consequence for being frustrating. He said "I ******* burned my hand too, you know, so stop complaining" - when he burned his hand because he picked up the pizza to throw at me! He's say "I had to walk back in the freezing cold too you know" when he was the one that left me in the car in below zero weather telling me to find my own way home.
He says I don't know how to argue. I don't say the right things. I don't "get" anything. I try my best to understand what I apparently don't "get" and he just says "it's been 3 ******* years, if you don't know by know you never will", or whenever I have a point or whenever I try to stick up for myself, he screams that he "doesn't want to deal with this honeysuckle anymore" and he's "tired of me and all our problems".. "You always have to ******* defend yourself. I wish you would just shut up." He says I can't handle anything. It's completely reversed. If I say anything that is wrong with how he handles things, he'll scream at me and hang up and ignore me for a few more days.. It's just so painful.
I just want things to always go back to everything being okay - he's a great guy when he's not angry, and the moment he gets irritated about something everything he ever felt for me just goes out the ******* window and he feels he can treat me however the hell he wants.
Yeah, I'm sensitive. I'm over-emotional. He's screamed at me "I don't care about your stupid ******* insignificant feelings".. "I could care less about you".
I know this is one sided.. but I swear, I don't do anything to deserve all of this. He's angry that I get angry at him for hurting me so much. For getting irritated with every little thing, for ignoring me and blowing me off, for lying to me, for refusing to discuss our problems.. He has it in his mind that I'm controlling him, when it's completely not like that at all - he thinks because I called him while he was with his friends (I didn't know he was with him) and asked if he wanted to hang out after they had to leave or whatever, he'd accuse me of trying to take him away from his friends - when I try to tell him it's not like that at all, he'll say "What the fresia ever, I'm sick of this honeysuckle" and hang up and the whole process of ignoring me, treating me like honeysuckle, etc, etc, until he calms down and spends 10 minutes with me, and all of a sudden he's back to loving and considerate and respectful. It's a cycle that he accuses me of starting all the time - I can't get it through to him that if he treated me with respect none of this would be happening!
I found out I was pregnant.. You know what he said? "I don't want you anymore", "You're ******* worthless".. I miscarried, which was ******* horrible. It was so goddamn horrible, no one has any idea. I needed someone - anyone to help me through it, but I was afraid to tell someone. I needed him the most. I needed him to be like how he is when he's fine - but he told me to go ******* deal with it myself. That he didn't care.
He told me that it was better off that it happened, because then that means he wouldn't have to be nice to me during the pregnancy.
20 minutes ago, on the ******* phone he said "You're a little ******* baby who cries all the ******* time. I should have left you years ago. All you do is ******* sob and whine whenever I hurt you like a stupid immature child. You don't get anything. You're a ******* idiot."
I begged him to stop putting me down, to just please stop, and he just kept insulting me and kept saying cruel, evil things.. One time, I flat out asked him "Why do you do these things to me when you're angry? Am I really so worthless to you? Do you just see me as trash or something?" and he looked at me, and said "yes, you are trash."
I'm not like that. I'm not trash, and I'm not an idiot. I'm really not an idiot. I'm not a ******* idiot. I'm not..
I'm so stuck. It doesn't matter what I say or do, it doesn't matter. He just keeps doing these things to me. He promises me he'll change, and then pulls the same honeysuckle over and over again. I have no ******* clue why I stay. I can't pull myself away - when he's great, he's one of the greatest guys ever. But when he gets angry, he's so goddamn hateful and cruel.. I don't understand it. I don't understand how someone can be that way.
He hit me last week for the first time. Actually just flat out hit me. We were driving, he got mad at whatever, stopped and pulled the car over, got out of it and ran off. I didn't know where I was.. I couldn't get out of the car.. and even if I did he'd just call me and be like "What the fresia is wrong with you? Where the hell are you?".. I get out once he is walking back to his car, I don't say a WORD and all of a sudden he screams at me and throws his phone down saying "Why are you the way you are? Why can't you just shut the fresia up for once? You just have to keep talking and whining about how much I hurt you".. For some.. bizarre reason I just calmly bent down and picked up his phone saying "you'll break this if you throw it" and he all of a sudden just hit me. He just flat out ******* hit me. He still hasn't apologized. If the topic comes up, he just breathes really heavily and gets irritated and says he doesn't want to ******* hear it.
I can't take this anymore. I have no idea what to do to stop him from doing these things. I can't get it through his head. I have tried leaving, he came crawling back and I gave him a second chance. I feel so attached to him - I care about him so much and it just ******* hurts so much that he does these things to me. I can't handle it.
I'm sorry. I needed to type this out somewhere. I know it's long, and you guys don't have to read it, but I needed to type it out nonetheless. I really just ******* hate everything he does to me. I just want it to stop.. I just want everything to be okay.. I hate this so much.
If anyone is in an abusive or verbally abusive relationship right now, or has gotten out of one, please pm me. I'm in desperate need of help.
I've been with my boyfriend 3 years. 3 years this has been going on. I can't really talk to a lot of people about it because people won't understand, or they'll think poorly of me for not leaving, or something.
I ******* hate myself. Everything he says to me, everything he does to me, I'm starting to believe I'm as worthless as he tells me.
There is so many things to say. So many things that I haven't really typed out before.. Our fights consist of me begging him to stop hurting me, to stop treating me so badly, to treat me like a person.. to stop treating me like a dog.. and he sits there and screams in my face, tells me I'm an idiot, that I'm messed up. I'm not messed up. I'm not messed up.
He's dragged me out of a car by my leg across gravel, when I got up he pushed me down screaming he hated me, that I was ******* worthless, that I meant nothing.. he's pulled his car into some unknown neighborhood sometimes hours away from my home and left me at 2, 4, 5 am by getting out of his car and running off. Just left me. In the freezing cold car. I called out to him, asking him to at least shut the window because it was so cold, he said "No, fresia you." I said how am I supposed to get home? He said ******* find your own way home.
He'd drive really fast in the car, slam on the breaks in the middle of the road, and drive really fast again.. if I told him to slow down he'd scream "shut your ******* mouth, just shut the fresia up, stop telling me what to ******* do".. He has screamed hateful things not even an inch from my face.. that no one liked me, that his family or friends didn't like me, that I was pathetic, that no one will ever like me.. that no one wants me..
I would beg him to just calm down. The only thing I'm ever mad at him for is how he treats me, how he lies, how he screams and hurts me so much and ignores me. He'd just get mad, ignore me for days, pick up the phone and scream at me and hang up again, when ALL he has to do is just text saying he's angry and needs to calm down and he'll talk to me later - and then I wouldn't contact him again until he wanted. But no, he just continues to ignore me, and I completely lose it and just try to work things out.. because he makes my life a living hell when he's angry.. says things like "I'm going to break up with you and you're not going to like it" "I ******* hate you and who you are" "You're a ******* idiot, you're stupid"..
Of course he spends one day with me with things being "calm" and he's back to normal, back to "I love you" "I'm so sorry I hurt you" "I'll never hurt you like that again..", all of those things. He's broken so many promises to me. He has sex with me, tells me he loves me, and then gets angry at something small 20 minutes later and says he ******* hates me and I'm nothing. I ask him "How can you say that when 20 minutes ago you said you loved me?" - He'll scream back "The past doesn't matter. That's your excuse every time."
He's thrown chairs across the room, pushed me into walls, grabbed my arm and twisted it, digging his fingernail as hard as he could into my skin.. the only scar I have. He's thrown extremely hot pizza all over me, burning my arms and hands really badly.. Sometimes I have to beg him to apologize because he feels he did nothing wrong. He said me getting burned was a consequence for being frustrating. He said "I ******* burned my hand too, you know, so stop complaining" - when he burned his hand because he picked up the pizza to throw at me! He's say "I had to walk back in the freezing cold too you know" when he was the one that left me in the car in below zero weather telling me to find my own way home.
He says I don't know how to argue. I don't say the right things. I don't "get" anything. I try my best to understand what I apparently don't "get" and he just says "it's been 3 ******* years, if you don't know by know you never will", or whenever I have a point or whenever I try to stick up for myself, he screams that he "doesn't want to deal with this honeysuckle anymore" and he's "tired of me and all our problems".. "You always have to ******* defend yourself. I wish you would just shut up." He says I can't handle anything. It's completely reversed. If I say anything that is wrong with how he handles things, he'll scream at me and hang up and ignore me for a few more days.. It's just so painful.
I just want things to always go back to everything being okay - he's a great guy when he's not angry, and the moment he gets irritated about something everything he ever felt for me just goes out the ******* window and he feels he can treat me however the hell he wants.
Yeah, I'm sensitive. I'm over-emotional. He's screamed at me "I don't care about your stupid ******* insignificant feelings".. "I could care less about you".
I know this is one sided.. but I swear, I don't do anything to deserve all of this. He's angry that I get angry at him for hurting me so much. For getting irritated with every little thing, for ignoring me and blowing me off, for lying to me, for refusing to discuss our problems.. He has it in his mind that I'm controlling him, when it's completely not like that at all - he thinks because I called him while he was with his friends (I didn't know he was with him) and asked if he wanted to hang out after they had to leave or whatever, he'd accuse me of trying to take him away from his friends - when I try to tell him it's not like that at all, he'll say "What the fresia ever, I'm sick of this honeysuckle" and hang up and the whole process of ignoring me, treating me like honeysuckle, etc, etc, until he calms down and spends 10 minutes with me, and all of a sudden he's back to loving and considerate and respectful. It's a cycle that he accuses me of starting all the time - I can't get it through to him that if he treated me with respect none of this would be happening!
I found out I was pregnant.. You know what he said? "I don't want you anymore", "You're ******* worthless".. I miscarried, which was ******* horrible. It was so goddamn horrible, no one has any idea. I needed someone - anyone to help me through it, but I was afraid to tell someone. I needed him the most. I needed him to be like how he is when he's fine - but he told me to go ******* deal with it myself. That he didn't care.
He told me that it was better off that it happened, because then that means he wouldn't have to be nice to me during the pregnancy.
20 minutes ago, on the ******* phone he said "You're a little ******* baby who cries all the ******* time. I should have left you years ago. All you do is ******* sob and whine whenever I hurt you like a stupid immature child. You don't get anything. You're a ******* idiot."
I begged him to stop putting me down, to just please stop, and he just kept insulting me and kept saying cruel, evil things.. One time, I flat out asked him "Why do you do these things to me when you're angry? Am I really so worthless to you? Do you just see me as trash or something?" and he looked at me, and said "yes, you are trash."
I'm not like that. I'm not trash, and I'm not an idiot. I'm really not an idiot. I'm not a ******* idiot. I'm not..
I'm so stuck. It doesn't matter what I say or do, it doesn't matter. He just keeps doing these things to me. He promises me he'll change, and then pulls the same honeysuckle over and over again. I have no ******* clue why I stay. I can't pull myself away - when he's great, he's one of the greatest guys ever. But when he gets angry, he's so goddamn hateful and cruel.. I don't understand it. I don't understand how someone can be that way.
He hit me last week for the first time. Actually just flat out hit me. We were driving, he got mad at whatever, stopped and pulled the car over, got out of it and ran off. I didn't know where I was.. I couldn't get out of the car.. and even if I did he'd just call me and be like "What the fresia is wrong with you? Where the hell are you?".. I get out once he is walking back to his car, I don't say a WORD and all of a sudden he screams at me and throws his phone down saying "Why are you the way you are? Why can't you just shut the fresia up for once? You just have to keep talking and whining about how much I hurt you".. For some.. bizarre reason I just calmly bent down and picked up his phone saying "you'll break this if you throw it" and he all of a sudden just hit me. He just flat out ******* hit me. He still hasn't apologized. If the topic comes up, he just breathes really heavily and gets irritated and says he doesn't want to ******* hear it.
I can't take this anymore. I have no idea what to do to stop him from doing these things. I can't get it through his head. I have tried leaving, he came crawling back and I gave him a second chance. I feel so attached to him - I care about him so much and it just ******* hurts so much that he does these things to me. I can't handle it.
I'm sorry. I needed to type this out somewhere. I know it's long, and you guys don't have to read it, but I needed to type it out nonetheless. I really just ******* hate everything he does to me. I just want it to stop.. I just want everything to be okay.. I hate this so much.