May sound like a stupid question but i'll preface it with a story...
So when i walk down the street, i generally don't get females attention either because their not interested in me, my "aura" and/or facial/body language might be off putting or im just naive. All things that i have been told. Nonetheless, a few weeks ago I decided to go for a stroll with no particular goal other than to just grab some fresh air and move my feet. I was just walking and feeling good and while walking i was approaching a women who was coming towards me who looked to be about my age. Didn't really think anything of it. She was walking towards me but was looking down at her phone and when she looked up she saw me and she looked completely shocked and stared at me almost as if she knew me. But being that i knew i didn't know this woman from adam, i took it that she was attracted to me. As i got closer to her I said Hi and she looked completely shocked and caught off guard at the thought of me talking to her and she literally went open jawed like "holy honeysuckle he spoke to me!" At this point i passed her and keep walking with the biggest smile on my face. It was awesome. It made me feel great.
Fast forward to today and since then i haven't been able to recreate that kind of moment or anything close to it. So being that that one instance got my self esteem up, even just for that moment, not having that positive reinforcement be continually present, i feel MORE crushed and disappointed then had it not happened at all because i had grown used to the idea of it not happening.
So i ask, are small fleeting success better than no success at all?
So when i walk down the street, i generally don't get females attention either because their not interested in me, my "aura" and/or facial/body language might be off putting or im just naive. All things that i have been told. Nonetheless, a few weeks ago I decided to go for a stroll with no particular goal other than to just grab some fresh air and move my feet. I was just walking and feeling good and while walking i was approaching a women who was coming towards me who looked to be about my age. Didn't really think anything of it. She was walking towards me but was looking down at her phone and when she looked up she saw me and she looked completely shocked and stared at me almost as if she knew me. But being that i knew i didn't know this woman from adam, i took it that she was attracted to me. As i got closer to her I said Hi and she looked completely shocked and caught off guard at the thought of me talking to her and she literally went open jawed like "holy honeysuckle he spoke to me!" At this point i passed her and keep walking with the biggest smile on my face. It was awesome. It made me feel great.
Fast forward to today and since then i haven't been able to recreate that kind of moment or anything close to it. So being that that one instance got my self esteem up, even just for that moment, not having that positive reinforcement be continually present, i feel MORE crushed and disappointed then had it not happened at all because i had grown used to the idea of it not happening.
So i ask, are small fleeting success better than no success at all?