Locke
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I've had some awful things happen in my life, and I blame myself for some of it. I am trying to let go of the pain and guilt that I constantly feel, but its interfering with my relationship and friendships. I'm having a difficult time opening up to people and talking about my past. I'm fine talking about it online, I can take my time and only say as much as I'm comfortable with. Having a conversation about it with someone is different though. My girlfriend wants me to share things with her, but she doesn't understand how hard it is to talk about. I think that she believes that I don't want to be closer to her - I do. I had a similar problem with a good friend recently (although it was completely my fault, and my friend is really understanding and patient with me).
I have already talked about this with a few people. One person said that I should concentrate on healing a little more before I can be in a healthy relationship. They also suggested that I find support groups, read self help books and do whatever I can to begin the healing process. Great advice, and I've started working on it. Another person told me that talking about traumatic events isn't always healthy, unless I want to talk about it. It can feel like reliving it. It makes sense, and I agree.
I think I know how I'm going to move forward from here, but I wanted to see if anyone had any insight that I may have missed. I know this isn't a mental health forum, but there are some people who I really like and respect here, so any advice or thoughts would be welcome.
I have already talked about this with a few people. One person said that I should concentrate on healing a little more before I can be in a healthy relationship. They also suggested that I find support groups, read self help books and do whatever I can to begin the healing process. Great advice, and I've started working on it. Another person told me that talking about traumatic events isn't always healthy, unless I want to talk about it. It can feel like reliving it. It makes sense, and I agree.
I think I know how I'm going to move forward from here, but I wanted to see if anyone had any insight that I may have missed. I know this isn't a mental health forum, but there are some people who I really like and respect here, so any advice or thoughts would be welcome.