2fresh4youx
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I don't get the whole relationship rules thing. I've only had one girlfriend and I remember the entire time, she would always go on about how relationships are based on rules that the male must follow and things MUST happen a certain way. Things like making it to second base by x number of dates; The guy must initiate the kiss; the guy must ask the girl out; the guy must impress the girl. Is it just me or is this just a whole bunch of immature garbage? I feel as if women have these huge expectations from a man and that man should be thankful that a woman is taking notice of him, and that he must work hard to get her. Why can't a relationship be as simple as being honest with one another with no pressure whatsoever?
And as a male, why can't I deserve to be "Swept" off my feet by a woman? I see a girlfriend as just being a really really good friend with extra benefits. No pressure and all fun. The way society makes these rules seems like it is a massive task to just get a woman and that he must act in a certain way to get her. I don't know but all this added pressure just spells recipe for disaster. The man tries to act so "wonderful" and "Dreamy" for the woman, that months into the relationship the woman realises that he is not what he was at the start.
And (Not trying to be sexist here at all) then there are women who will be annoyed at the man for not being able to read their minds, like they should act in a certain way in certain situations that conform to the so called "rules".
I think a relationship should be a natural flowing phenomenon and that work should be put in on both sides. It should be based on the personality of the two individuals and not these so called "rules" that society makes up and that most people seem to adhere to so religiously.
I don't play games and I refuse to play anyone elses game. I think a lot people have a lot of growing up to do. Sorry for the rant, but what are your thoughts on this people?
And as a male, why can't I deserve to be "Swept" off my feet by a woman? I see a girlfriend as just being a really really good friend with extra benefits. No pressure and all fun. The way society makes these rules seems like it is a massive task to just get a woman and that he must act in a certain way to get her. I don't know but all this added pressure just spells recipe for disaster. The man tries to act so "wonderful" and "Dreamy" for the woman, that months into the relationship the woman realises that he is not what he was at the start.
And (Not trying to be sexist here at all) then there are women who will be annoyed at the man for not being able to read their minds, like they should act in a certain way in certain situations that conform to the so called "rules".
I think a relationship should be a natural flowing phenomenon and that work should be put in on both sides. It should be based on the personality of the two individuals and not these so called "rules" that society makes up and that most people seem to adhere to so religiously.
I don't play games and I refuse to play anyone elses game. I think a lot people have a lot of growing up to do. Sorry for the rant, but what are your thoughts on this people?