Deal Breakers

[zibafu]

Football*

Manchester United, Arsenal, Chelsea... I don't care which one you "support" - a sheepish passion for sport of any kind is irritating to me. Unless you actually play it yourself, then you are excused.

Generally this, I mean don't get me wrong, enjoying a sport is fine, but religiously following something you have absolutely no part of is pretty bizarre.

Football is the worst, I used to be a "fan" of football, I used to support man u from like the age of 8 up till I was like 12, then I discovered skating, my dad is still mad even now because hes a liverpool fan and I betrayed him by switching whom I supported...

Really dumb considering he bought me a liverpool kit when I was like 5 years old, I'm sorry but a 5 year old doesn't know what football teams are, a 5 year old just copies daddy !

So yeah, enjoy sports by all means, but don't cry when the team you like doesn't win, don't hate the other teams - makes no sense cause without those other teams there would be no sport

 

[Littlesecret]

Loving a sport so passionately you cry when they lose and if your overly confident/arrogant.
Men that think they're too good for others, if you are not very intelligent but think that's cool and If you don't read books.

 

[edgecrusher]

My deal breakers more or less are:

- wants or has kids
- is religious
- is loud and/or talks too much
- does drugs
- drinks heavily
- has a large circle of friends they frequently hang out with
- is a social bar/club/party person
- feels the need to always go out somewhere
- is not nerdy/geeky
- bad personal hygiene
- is materialistic
- is big into sports
- hates video games

 

[MrPaul]

Well, I'm quite placid, so having someone laid back would kinda of make sense :3 calm, pleasant and cuddley So my deal breaker would be: -

- Drunken Party Animal

xD

 

[Bob Arctor]

Them not being Freddy Mercury in that wig.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Them not being Freddy Mercury in that wig.

 

[Rainbows]

People who don't read.

Sorry not sorry.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Idk, I mean, I am not a huge sports fan myself but I certainly see how someone could be interested in it. So that isn't necessarily a dealbreaker in and of itself. In fact, I wouldn't mind going to a game or two here and there of any given sport just as something to do. But I don't follow the teams too closely though, like a lot of people do. It's not really a dealbreaker, it just isn't something that I have a lot to say about because I would only watch casually. The problem is that so many girls around here are only interested in food, drink, tv, and what the teams are doing, and that's it. It's okay for most guys, because that's usually all they are interested in as well. But for me, I don't watch enough sports to talk about it, I only watch 1 TV show and it's going downhill, and food and drink are idk, not enough to me to really bond with someone over. It's not so much dealbreakers as it is that I don't have much in common with most people, so we can't have conversations that excite us mutually.

 

[Nightwing]

Men that think they're too good for others,

You do realise that this implies you think men shouldn't have standards when it comes to what they'll accept in a woman, right? XD

 

[Littlesecret]

Men that think they're too good for others,

You do realise that this implies you think men shouldn't have standards when it comes to what they'll accept in a woman, right? XD

I guess if you want to take it that way then I suppose your right, I just mean someone down to earth. I should have phrased it better really.

You trying to fight me Nightwing?.... Cos I'll take you on

 

[Nightwing]

I guess if you want to take it that way then I suppose your right, I just mean someone down to earth. I should have phrased it better really.

You trying to fight me Nightwing?.... Cos I'll take you on

I'm happy without the slap thanks

It just got me thinking about the whole thing. The idea of having a deal breaker could be seen as being arrogant or being perfectly reasonable (depending on what viewpoint you feel like taking) and I just thought about the comeback to someone who turns you down being along the lines of "oh yeah? Well I don't want you because you think you're too good for me. Arrogant jerk!" It made me chuckle.

I suppose we all draw our own lines where we please and interpret everyone else in our own little way. Though it begs the question of us... would someone who has unrealistically high expectations in a partner take any interest in us in the first place? (Assuming we're reasonable and realistic people naturally.) So what would it matter? It's an interesting one to mull over.

I was briefly reminded of another deal breaker. Violent women. So not tolerating that. Not after what my cousin went through.

 

[Littlesecret]

I guess if you want to take it that way then I suppose your right, I just mean someone down to earth. I should have phrased it better really.

You trying to fight me Nightwing?.... Cos I'll take you on

I'm happy without the slap thanks

It just got me thinking about the whole thing. The idea of having a deal breaker could be seen as being arrogant or being perfectly reasonable (depending on what viewpoint you feel like taking) and I just thought about the comeback to someone who turns you down being along the lines of "oh yeah? Well I don't want you because you think you're too good for me. Arrogant jerk!" It made me chuckle.

I suppose we all draw our own lines where we please and interpret everyone else in our own little way. Though it begs the question of us... would someone who has unrealistically high expectations in a partner take any interest in us in the first place? (Assuming we're reasonable and realistic people naturally.) So what would it matter? It's an interesting one to mull over.

I was briefly reminded of another deal breaker. Violent women. So not tolerating that. Not after what my cousin went through.

I think everyone has at least one deal breaker, may it be before they have met their potential partner or even whilst in a relationship with them.
Like you said before about men having standards when it comes to accepting a woman, obviously standards are subjective to the individual and some may be arrogant and some may not. I just think having a deal breaker doesn't necessary make you arrogant just makes you different.
Also if someone has incredibly high expectations in a partner, I'm sure the person pondering whether they would be interested in them probably already knows the answer.

Do yo think my deal breakers are too harsh?
To be honest I picked those ones through trial and error through the years, when I was 17 I had no deal breakers but I think now I need them so I can find the best match for myself.
I would also like to add bad breath.

 

[Case]

My dealbreakers.

Inability to grasp a beer bottle firmly enough to hand it to me.
Ability to form more than two word sentences.
Expresses any desire to dance.
Expresses no desire to watch porn.
Expresses no desire to allow me to snort coke off her naked body parts.
Inability to make me a sandwich while I watch the game.
Has the desire to keep the toilet seat down.
Would rather not give her milk away for free.

Oh, wait. Sorry. I mistakenly put up Charlie Sheen's list instead of mine. Never mind.

 

[jaguarundi]

Surely dancing would be OK providing it was semi-naked and featured a pole in the performance?

 

[nerdygirl]

The older I get, the more deal breakers I have. The things I find important aren't the societal norm, so it isn't as though I'm unrealistically expecting the stereotypical Prince Charming. I'm simply quite self aware, and am unwilling to settle for less than my ideal. I'm sure it's a good thing that I'm quite alright with remaining single for the rest of my life.

 

[Zett]

This one pet peeve (close to a deal breaker) I have is when people say "that's just my nature or just the way I am" in order to excuse their poor behavior.

I understand we're not-perfect, one of my flaws is that I have a quick short temper but when it flares and I do not hold it back I am most certainly apologetic. However, I have the attitude that it can be controlled and can be improved upon. If I did not have this outlook I would still be screaming every time someone upset me as this was the way I behaved when I was close to Kindergarten age.

Every person is capable of improving themselves, to stop and say that this is the way they are as a reason to stop trying really does my head in.

 

[Nicolelt]

The older I get, the more deal breakers I have. The things I find important aren't the societal norm, so it isn't as though I'm unrealistically expecting the stereotypical Prince Charming. I'm simply quite self aware, and am unwilling to settle for less than my ideal. I'm sure it's a good thing that I'm quite alright with remaining single for the rest of my life.

This....is unfortunately me. And guys keep saying that I am a "Not Nice Lady Name" because of it. But I have been with crap, I tried crap, I don't to be with crap.

 

[Disaffected]

A penis.

 

[sk66rc]

I guess I'm no different than anyone else here... I can't stand cheating, lying, entitlement, high horse, among others... Plain stupidity gets on my nerves, too... Have a little bit of common sense...

 

[WildernessWildChild]

Yesterday I learned there were more than I realized. I'm pretty easygoing but there's things I simply cannot tolerate...