Tinderleaf
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Hi everyone. As a 23 year old who has relatively low self esteem, my issues stem from the fact that my family members alongside siblings are overly critical of me. However its fair to say that i deserved to be criticised due to having slight ADHD symptoms of being forgetful and clumsy at times which results in a lot of silly mistakes from me, which such mistakes go to hurt my self esteem. For example, forgetting to losing someone's valuables to forgetting things that are needed to be said and done as a matter of not being able to pay attention and keep aware on a proper basis.
Of course, I have accepted that i would make mistakes and that I'm far from being a close to perfect person who's able to handle themselves well. However in the interest of this topic, i have to say that it can be difficult to get any sort of self esteem when you're living with family members or society for that matter that overlooks your every move, calls you stupid for making even the simplest of mistakes like forgetting something to thinking i said something wrong and should shut up. Also for such mistakes, there are also times in which i felt that i was treated like an outcast through my families backchatter in addition to not being able to get over certain mistakes which would hurt my self esteem as well.
Even when i look at the positives like being more social and pro active with my life plus being easier to talk to than my siblings. Not to mention working and saving money for myself and for family members i.e parents and siblings as well as almost finishing uni, it can still be difficult to get some self esteem out of it, knowing that I'm still judged for my imperfections particularly my slight ADHD symptoms of being forgetful, clumsy, slow and not being able to concentrate on a proper basis like a normal person can and that this is despite trying to shake off such imperfections.
Of course, despite it being difficult, i have managed to keep calm and not argue with family members should i get criticised but i still stress quite a lot over the mistakes i make due to my slight ADHD symptoms and that all the time, i feel pressured to try and not make such mistakes again. And yes, i have repeated mistakes before particularly being forgetful and well it sucks. Oh and no, i don't take any medication or drugs to help me deal with my issues and i try my best to learn from them in the hope of minimizing mistakes.
So my question to everyone here is, how do you deal with people in your society who are overly critical of you? And what advice can you give me to keep my head up in life? Thanks and kind regards.
Of course, I have accepted that i would make mistakes and that I'm far from being a close to perfect person who's able to handle themselves well. However in the interest of this topic, i have to say that it can be difficult to get any sort of self esteem when you're living with family members or society for that matter that overlooks your every move, calls you stupid for making even the simplest of mistakes like forgetting something to thinking i said something wrong and should shut up. Also for such mistakes, there are also times in which i felt that i was treated like an outcast through my families backchatter in addition to not being able to get over certain mistakes which would hurt my self esteem as well.
Even when i look at the positives like being more social and pro active with my life plus being easier to talk to than my siblings. Not to mention working and saving money for myself and for family members i.e parents and siblings as well as almost finishing uni, it can still be difficult to get some self esteem out of it, knowing that I'm still judged for my imperfections particularly my slight ADHD symptoms of being forgetful, clumsy, slow and not being able to concentrate on a proper basis like a normal person can and that this is despite trying to shake off such imperfections.
Of course, despite it being difficult, i have managed to keep calm and not argue with family members should i get criticised but i still stress quite a lot over the mistakes i make due to my slight ADHD symptoms and that all the time, i feel pressured to try and not make such mistakes again. And yes, i have repeated mistakes before particularly being forgetful and well it sucks. Oh and no, i don't take any medication or drugs to help me deal with my issues and i try my best to learn from them in the hope of minimizing mistakes.
So my question to everyone here is, how do you deal with people in your society who are overly critical of you? And what advice can you give me to keep my head up in life? Thanks and kind regards.