ardour
Well known loser
Okay, not sure why anyone should care, but some time ago I posted a topic (“called a creep at my workplace”) about this.. person here. Since then things have snowballed and it seems I’m the subject of a rather nasty rumour campaign characterizing me as the archetypal threatening male who harasses women. I have supposedly harassed her friend after shifting into her former department, even though the ‘harassment’ of said friend consisted of half a dozen fumbled attempts at conversation over 5 months, plus a friend request to her facebook account (God knows why she accepted it, I deleted myself from her profile after it became clear how upset she was)
A friend and colleague of two years just deleted me after becoming close with the person spreading the rumours. Obviously they are pals now. I’m wondering who’s next around here. Worse, the instigator is enrolled in the same qualification and in the same classes as me! I can’t seem to get away from her or her influence.
Some context; I wasn’t particularly friendly when she started, not responding well to hellos and so on. It wasn’t personal, a family member had died and I couldn’t handle getting to know anyone new, but now she permanently has it in for me. Result: a clique of 4 women revolving around her, who gossip about me as if I were some sort of predator. They make a big deal of avoiding me even though I’m hardly ever around, and they aren’t going anywhere soon. In a few years they could be in management roles. Aside from confiding in a couple of friends, I’m not sure how to handle this situation. Guess I should be happy I have a job at all.
I’m sure a few people will say I must have done something for this to have happened. Go for it, sometimes I think that too.
A friend and colleague of two years just deleted me after becoming close with the person spreading the rumours. Obviously they are pals now. I’m wondering who’s next around here. Worse, the instigator is enrolled in the same qualification and in the same classes as me! I can’t seem to get away from her or her influence.
Some context; I wasn’t particularly friendly when she started, not responding well to hellos and so on. It wasn’t personal, a family member had died and I couldn’t handle getting to know anyone new, but now she permanently has it in for me. Result: a clique of 4 women revolving around her, who gossip about me as if I were some sort of predator. They make a big deal of avoiding me even though I’m hardly ever around, and they aren’t going anywhere soon. In a few years they could be in management roles. Aside from confiding in a couple of friends, I’m not sure how to handle this situation. Guess I should be happy I have a job at all.
I’m sure a few people will say I must have done something for this to have happened. Go for it, sometimes I think that too.