LGH1288 said:
Lonely_girl said:
Besides my issues, when I do have the odd good day or if I feel to be happy, I cant be happy because I have this fear of death and it will always make me feel upset and drag me down
I believe in God, always pray, Iam Catholic but maybe not that confident in it. I dont know... Im scared to be happy because if Iam then you hear about bad stuff happening in the news to people, too many people dieing and it gets me upset again. And then Im scared whats after this life, is it just nothing or do we really go on pass over somewhere? Im terrorfied the thought of just dieing and thats it, nothing.... Its so scarey, Im confused. And I be wondering where are the people now who have died, I hope they are liveing on some place, but where and how? I have had this problem for 2 years now, it wont go away
Learn about "thanatophobia". It is an abnormal fear of death. Ask any doctor where to get help because you may need medicine. DO NOT WAIT! Please listen to my advice. LG
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THANATOPHOBIA
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Thanatophobia, or fear of death, is a relatively complicated phobia. Many, if not most, people are afraid of dying. Some people fear being dead, while others are afraid of the actual act of dying. However, if the fear is so prevalent as to affect your daily life, then you might have a full-blown phobia.
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Religious Issues
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Many people’s fear of death is tied into their religious beliefs, particularly if they happen to be going through a period of questioning. Some people think that they know what will happen after death, but worry that they may be wrong. Some believe that the path to salvation is very straight and narrow, and fear that any deviations or mistakes may cause them to be eternally condemned.
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Religious beliefs are highly personalized, and even a therapist of the same general faith may not fully understand a client’s beliefs. If the fear of death is religiously based, it is often helpful to seek supplemental counseling from one’s own religious leader. However, this should never be used to replace traditional mental health counseling.
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Fear of the Unknown
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Thanatophobia may also have roots in fears of the unknown. It is part of the human condition to want to know and understand the world around us. What happens after death, however, cannot be unequivocally proven while we are still alive. People who are highly intelligent and inquisitive are often at greater risk for this type of thanatophobia, as are those who are questioning their own philosophical or religious beliefs.
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Fear of Loss of Control
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Like knowledge, control is something for which humans strive. Yet the act of dying is utterly outside anyone’s control. Those who fear loss of control may attempt to hold death at bay through rigorous and sometimes extreme health checks and other rituals. Over time, it is easy to see how people with this type of thanatophobia may be at risk for obsessive-compulsive disorder, hypochondriasis and even delusional thinking.
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Fear of Pain, Illness or Loss of Dignity
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Some people with an apparent fear of death do not actually fear death itself. Instead, they are afraid of the circumstances that often surround the act of dying. They may be afraid of crippling pain, debilitating illness or even the associated loss of dignity. This type of thanatophobia may be identified through careful questioning about the specifics of the fear. Many people with this type of fear also suffer from nosophobia, hypochondriasis or other somatoform disorders.
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Concerns About Relatives
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Many people who suffer from thanatophobia are not nearly as afraid to die as they are of what would happen to their families after their death. This appears to be especially common in new parents, single parents and caregivers. They may worry that their family would suffer financially or that no one would be around to care for them.
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Related Fears
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It is not uncommon for people who suffer from thanatophobia to develop related phobias as well. Fears of tombstones, funeral homes and other symbols of death are common, as they can serve as reminders of the main phobia. Fear of ghosts or other entities is also common, particularly in those whose thanatophobia is based in religious factors.
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Diagnosing Thanatophobia
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As there are so many possible causes and complications, it is important that thanatophobia be diagnosed only by a trained mental health professional. He can ask guided questions and help the sufferer figure out exactly what is going on. She can also recognize the symptoms of related disorders and prescribe the appropriate course of treatment.
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Treating Thanatophobia
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The course of treatment largely depends on the client’s personal goals for therapy. Is she trying to resolve a religious conflict? Does he simply want to be able to attend Halloween events without panicking? The therapist must first determine the client’s expectations before designing a treatment plan.
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Depending on the circumstances, a variety of talk therapy solutions may be appropriate, ranging from cognitive-behavioral to psychoanalytic. Supplemental religious counseling, medications and other therapeutic alternatives may also be used in conjunction with therapy.
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Coping With Thanatophobia
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Whether or not to seek treatment for any phobia is a very personal decision. Regardless of whether you choose to get professional assistance, coping with the fear of death can be an ongoing daily struggle.
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PLEASE SEE A DOCTOR!
