--Lanie-- said:
I sometimes think maybe I'm better off being the way I am, because at least I'm genuinely me.
i on the other hand would want to be told what to do.. The more precisely the better. I actually searched the internet hoping to find something. The closest result was "a glam girl's life" or something.. But those were mainly books too, and if not it was mainly advices on how to dress only... and i would like something like every day schedule, including the number of hours for homework, the number of times a week to hang out with friends, well maybe dress too (tho i've read a lot about it and don't have a problem with that particular aspect), EVERYTHING!
I think there's nothing for me to lose, apparently my personality hasn't been "shaped" entirely yet so i'm trying to "choose its shape". Like all of my friends have some bright personality, like some "image" to them -- one is totally glamour, another is kind of harsh and boy-ish, the third one is a kind of a "bad girl".. and i'm the only "nothing in particular" person..
Hi Lanie,
Well I went to a counsellor/psychologist/Psychiatrist whateve rtag you want to give them. It really depends on their approach to your problem. sometimes helps you see why you are what you are. Mine basically thought my reaction to what happened in my relationship was normal and it is my wife who should be seeing her!!! I totally agreed but my wife refused! So i stopped going, sometimes i felt more upset after a session cause, like another member mentioned, I know why i am like i am at this time and i know what i need to do to overcome it. It just takes time in my situation, doesn't make it any easier. Lanie you seem to need someone to tell you how to structure your life? Well i suppose all things in moderation is a good idea to start with but as a father of a 17/18 year old who is finishing college this would be my advice:
1. Concentrate on your school work, this will be the foundation for the rest of your life. Study hard and do your homework, absolute priority. You can always party another day.
2. Be yourself and do not try to be like others around you or who you see on TV.
3. Help around the house! If you don't already. Wherever you live with parents or friends do your share.
4. Look after yourself, do some excercise or walk/run regularly and eat a healthy diet. Maybe cook for the others in your house once a week?
5. By all means party, but you are in a different place now. When my daughter eventually goes to the UK she will also get a shock as she has so much freedom here and it is safer for her too, she will have to adjust.
I could go on but i am sounding like a nagging parent!
Stop worrying about how your time should be split up you will soon have your own schedule, doing what you enjoy, which others will have to fit in with.
Stop worrying, you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Take Care
John XXX (aka nagging parent! LOL)