the first step in the 12 step program...such as codependency...
I'm powerless over , people, places and things and my life had become unmanageable.
It's pretty straight forward and simple....
But lets say if you been exposed to living with a drunk or an alocholic a lot of your life....
you're thinking becomes twisted or unhealthy...
It's insane to think and worry about what a drunk thinks about you...lmao ( I can laugh at myself now...it's healing)
But there's such a strong emotional attachment....let say if one of your parent is a drunk
or your partner is a drunk..
They'll just blurr out stuff that's not in your best interest and a lot of times hurtful things...and forget the next
day....but the co-dependent will take it to heart.
If you where a child growning up in an alcoholic home...you're parent or care taker is bascailly your GOD or authority.
A drunken god...can really mess up a person or kid. A child seeks love, approval and acceptence from the parent.
In this way...a codendency becomes mentally and emotional damaged.( sick)
Then a child grows up physically and simply seeks out a partner that has simular traits as the child's parent.
Becuase living like that was NORMAL to them...lol ( We are products of our enviorments to a certain degree).
To break that cycle...is like getting reborn. GETTING WELL is like going against the grain.
A codendent has an extreem case of seeking twisted love...lmao
The **** devil with a blue on dress looks might smexy to me..
Applying the principle of being powerless over people (alcoholics love ones)...simply free you from the attachments or insanity. In this way your thoughts and emotions won't get strung alone by an alcoholic.
Recgonitions is the first step. ( no longer living in denial).
It's simply becomes a matter of breaking the chains or habits.
It also depends on the indiviual.....the vari degree of obsession and complusive an indiviual may have.
When a person trys to break a habit...(any habits)...that indiviual will go through a degress of withdraws..
Mental and emotional withdraws...
Just like ...Nykimos stated in about her co-worker...
"LOOKING GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE AND ALL messed UP ON THE INSIDE"..
An alocholic has an extreem chase of that character...lol
A codedendent is sicker than the alcoholic sometimes (enabling).
The codendent helps the alocholic cover up the crime sceen.(seeking approval from the alki) lmao
To break the cycle...it all comes back to LOVING OURSELVES first and formost.
The more we love and accept ourselves...the less we worry about what others thinks of us.