TheWalkingDead
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I really loathe Facebook, but the fact is most people use it and for some of my acquaintance it's the only way to keep in touch about some of my interest groups as they are not on Meetup or other contact.
But have noticed that it's ruining my few real friendships. Well it's already ruined one - when someone has stopped texting you and arranging to get together with you, but is posting on FB every 5 minutes (literally) interacting with other people, posting pics of meeting with other people, you can't just say to yourself "Oh I haven't heard from them, maybe they're at work or just busy" - it becomes clear you have just totally dropped off the face of the earth as far as importance to them is concerned.
Now I have another friend who has been probably my closest friend in the last 5 years. But she has just started to use Facebook, and when you are feeling like crap and haven't heard from someone, and you happen along to Facebook and their latest post is about the amazing night they're having with their amazing greatest friend ever (that isn't you) it's just about soul crushing. Add to that about 4 or 5 BS memes posted, yet no time to spend 30 seconds checking in with the poor b**tard who thought they actually cared.
I'll have to defriend her on FB - I don't mind being casual acquaintances with someone on FB who is a casual acquaintance in real life, but as soon as this starts happening with "real" "friends" it becomes toxic, it's like someone is just shoving the fact you aren't in reality that important to them right in your face And yet if they find out I've defriended maybe that will ruin it altogether too, unless the damage is already done.
Anybody else experienced this?
But have noticed that it's ruining my few real friendships. Well it's already ruined one - when someone has stopped texting you and arranging to get together with you, but is posting on FB every 5 minutes (literally) interacting with other people, posting pics of meeting with other people, you can't just say to yourself "Oh I haven't heard from them, maybe they're at work or just busy" - it becomes clear you have just totally dropped off the face of the earth as far as importance to them is concerned.
Now I have another friend who has been probably my closest friend in the last 5 years. But she has just started to use Facebook, and when you are feeling like crap and haven't heard from someone, and you happen along to Facebook and their latest post is about the amazing night they're having with their amazing greatest friend ever (that isn't you) it's just about soul crushing. Add to that about 4 or 5 BS memes posted, yet no time to spend 30 seconds checking in with the poor b**tard who thought they actually cared.
I'll have to defriend her on FB - I don't mind being casual acquaintances with someone on FB who is a casual acquaintance in real life, but as soon as this starts happening with "real" "friends" it becomes toxic, it's like someone is just shoving the fact you aren't in reality that important to them right in your face And yet if they find out I've defriended maybe that will ruin it altogether too, unless the damage is already done.
Anybody else experienced this?