I guess the update should be first! Those who don't know, I had a baby February 6... Those who did know - FINALLY! -_- though it was a lot more unpleasant than it should have been. Plainly putting: immediately starting at 2.5 minutes apart for contractions, major blood loss (they were so wrong on her weight... She was over 10 pounds... And she is my first...), inability to remember a lot of it because of it, 3 days in the hospital and nurses downplaying my pain and discomfort. :/
That said, I do wish some (many) people would shut up. Or at least think before they speak. I remember being smacked upside the head when I was a kid for blurting out stupid things - but I don't think people would take that kindly nowadays lol.
I don't exactly feel like I have any self esteem anymore. Between the pressure people are putting on me, and not feeling like I exist? It sucks. My opinions obviously don't matter. In their eyes these people only see what THEY want, assume, demand and believe.
My Nana acts like we are terrible parents because (as she calls her) our "pagan child" is obviously doomed since we are not religious. Plain and simple: she can believe whatever the Hell she wants! She ends up Christian? Okay. Turns out Athiest? Sure. Something else? Whatever. I made that known. But I feel talking to the wall makes more sense because at least I could pretend it could hear me...
Ladies: I also have afterpains; that lovely thing for post partum memories. Except it is me huddled on the bed/couch/floor/whatever is closest, clenching my hands against my abdomen, crying and wailing because it feels like a never ending labor contraction (straight 30-50 minutes of pure agony), incapable of moving, standing or walking... Followed by feeling weak and bruised for the whole day after it passes. But sympathy is overrated... People downplay it. I MUST be exaggerating. Then they get angry at me and bash me for for being afraid to pump milk or nurse my child because I don't want to lay there in absolute agony with no one else there, feeling useless and worthless as my child cries to be fed/held! -_-
And the feeling of nonexistence. Which began closer to the end of pregnancy and though has slightly improved... Is still happening. I don't remember the last compliment, or the last time I was hugged/cuddled by my SO without me trying to instigate it (I stopped trying... What's the point?!).
So hypocrites, pushy people, and a complete lack of sympathy from family... Plus my self image depleted (thank them for that too...), and haven't gotten to leave the house... I'm feeling quite down. Unfortunately this may end up in post partum depression, if this keeps up.
Oh, and it's frigid Canadian winter. So not like I can walk it off or whatever either. That and I only recently have been able to move around more than a couple minutes at a time -_- I am hoping warm weather comes soon... I can at least improve my fitness again, which will help.
That said, I do wish some (many) people would shut up. Or at least think before they speak. I remember being smacked upside the head when I was a kid for blurting out stupid things - but I don't think people would take that kindly nowadays lol.
I don't exactly feel like I have any self esteem anymore. Between the pressure people are putting on me, and not feeling like I exist? It sucks. My opinions obviously don't matter. In their eyes these people only see what THEY want, assume, demand and believe.
My Nana acts like we are terrible parents because (as she calls her) our "pagan child" is obviously doomed since we are not religious. Plain and simple: she can believe whatever the Hell she wants! She ends up Christian? Okay. Turns out Athiest? Sure. Something else? Whatever. I made that known. But I feel talking to the wall makes more sense because at least I could pretend it could hear me...
Ladies: I also have afterpains; that lovely thing for post partum memories. Except it is me huddled on the bed/couch/floor/whatever is closest, clenching my hands against my abdomen, crying and wailing because it feels like a never ending labor contraction (straight 30-50 minutes of pure agony), incapable of moving, standing or walking... Followed by feeling weak and bruised for the whole day after it passes. But sympathy is overrated... People downplay it. I MUST be exaggerating. Then they get angry at me and bash me for for being afraid to pump milk or nurse my child because I don't want to lay there in absolute agony with no one else there, feeling useless and worthless as my child cries to be fed/held! -_-
And the feeling of nonexistence. Which began closer to the end of pregnancy and though has slightly improved... Is still happening. I don't remember the last compliment, or the last time I was hugged/cuddled by my SO without me trying to instigate it (I stopped trying... What's the point?!).
So hypocrites, pushy people, and a complete lack of sympathy from family... Plus my self image depleted (thank them for that too...), and haven't gotten to leave the house... I'm feeling quite down. Unfortunately this may end up in post partum depression, if this keeps up.
Oh, and it's frigid Canadian winter. So not like I can walk it off or whatever either. That and I only recently have been able to move around more than a couple minutes at a time -_- I am hoping warm weather comes soon... I can at least improve my fitness again, which will help.