onmyown1979
Active member
Before I write just wanted to say I appreciate these forums because most of the things I write on here I'll never be able to say to my family or friends. On to it then...A few days ago I'm at home talking with my mom after I got off of work. We were basically talking about how her family always communicated when she was a kid about whatever and it was always open. So I was about to take a shower when she said "I want to ask you a personal question, sit down". I asked her what it was and again she asked me to sit down so I did. I already knew it was coming. "Are you a virgin?" Yikes! I couldn't answer right away and she saw the look on my face. It crossed my mind to just be truthful but before I could answer she said in a kind of exacerbated tone of voice "You're almost 34 and it never happened?" Given her tone and the situation I felt I had to lie. I told her I had. So she starts grilling me on how old I was, what was her name, what race was she even, did it mean anything to me. At that point I asked her why bring it up and she said she was always curious. I just said ok and went about my business but it got me down because it reminded me of my situation and that family members much younger than me are having sex and also kids. it's gotten to a point where I'm starting to withdraw from big family events because the question always comes from somebody "When are you going to get a girlfriend?" "You're not getting any younger, when are you starting a family?" It's extremely frustrating when I do try to find someone to be with it always backfires. I feel bad for lying but I knew how the conversation was going to turn out. I do think my mom knows I lied to her because she knows me, but the good thing is that I didn't have to explain why I was a virgin. This sucks.