Guzheng
Well-known member
Has anyone else ever noticed this paradox? In high school, college, or even at work?
The people who seem really intelligent, on top of their game, and would probably be good influences never have time to hang out. They respond to your messages but you get busy shortly after they do and you never create more than a surface level connection with these people.
The people who seem less intelligent and are always whining about some problem or other ALWAYS have plenty of time to sit down with you and ask for your help and advice. They don't seem focused on their goals and have a variety of bad habits that they never seem to be able to kick. I'm a good listener and I've started to fear that this second type of person will cling to me (one individual is already doing that) while all the others that I want to hang out with, who fall into the first category, will drift away (as nearly all of them have over the years), leaving me in a lose-lose situation where I either hang out with people who influence me for the worse or avoid socializing with anyone at all.
When you think of people who influenced you for the better, how do you keep yourself focused on those people and not the less helpful ones that are constantly vying for your time and attention?
The people who seem really intelligent, on top of their game, and would probably be good influences never have time to hang out. They respond to your messages but you get busy shortly after they do and you never create more than a surface level connection with these people.
The people who seem less intelligent and are always whining about some problem or other ALWAYS have plenty of time to sit down with you and ask for your help and advice. They don't seem focused on their goals and have a variety of bad habits that they never seem to be able to kick. I'm a good listener and I've started to fear that this second type of person will cling to me (one individual is already doing that) while all the others that I want to hang out with, who fall into the first category, will drift away (as nearly all of them have over the years), leaving me in a lose-lose situation where I either hang out with people who influence me for the worse or avoid socializing with anyone at all.
When you think of people who influenced you for the better, how do you keep yourself focused on those people and not the less helpful ones that are constantly vying for your time and attention?