NeedSomewhereToWrite
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So, I'm having issues realising the fundamentals of why I care about some people and if I really should be caring about them, all to do about girls/women etc.
generally I find it quite easy to care about girls in general. As it stands at the moment, all my previous friends have moved to university or doing some kind of further education or generally moved on to the next part of their lives, I now don't talk to any of them and none of them talk to me. This generally doesn't bother me because I to have moved on to another part of my life studying at another college doing a different course.
In this class is a bunch of people I have never spoken to, and after three months of being there I've gotten to know them all and they a good social group to be a part of. In this class is one girl, now I have never had any luck with relationships, never been in one and the closest I thought I had got was with one of the previously mentioned friends that I don't talk to, and was generally pushed away whenever the subject was brought up and just friendzoned in general.
At this time, I have gotten to know the girl in my new class and we seem to get along, and it feels like I'm developing feelings and generally caring, I don't like seeing her, or any girl for the most part, upset or sad.
But I feel I have to ask myself why? is it because she's the only girl in our class and I feel like she's the only chance I have, is it because I have actually developed some kind of emotion towards her, this is what I'm struggling to figure out.
What is it that I actually want? is it that I want a relationship because really I want someone to care about me for once instead of it always being the other way around, or is it because I want to closer to the girl because they are actually feelings for her and not the idea of having someone.
any ideas or help gratefully accepted
I'm just confused
generally I find it quite easy to care about girls in general. As it stands at the moment, all my previous friends have moved to university or doing some kind of further education or generally moved on to the next part of their lives, I now don't talk to any of them and none of them talk to me. This generally doesn't bother me because I to have moved on to another part of my life studying at another college doing a different course.
In this class is a bunch of people I have never spoken to, and after three months of being there I've gotten to know them all and they a good social group to be a part of. In this class is one girl, now I have never had any luck with relationships, never been in one and the closest I thought I had got was with one of the previously mentioned friends that I don't talk to, and was generally pushed away whenever the subject was brought up and just friendzoned in general.
At this time, I have gotten to know the girl in my new class and we seem to get along, and it feels like I'm developing feelings and generally caring, I don't like seeing her, or any girl for the most part, upset or sad.
But I feel I have to ask myself why? is it because she's the only girl in our class and I feel like she's the only chance I have, is it because I have actually developed some kind of emotion towards her, this is what I'm struggling to figure out.
What is it that I actually want? is it that I want a relationship because really I want someone to care about me for once instead of it always being the other way around, or is it because I want to closer to the girl because they are actually feelings for her and not the idea of having someone.
any ideas or help gratefully accepted
I'm just confused