Good job, great abilities, girlfriend; so why do I feel empty?!

[SeekingAdvice]

Hey guys,

Hope you are well and thanks for reading this. I'm pretty much going balls out on this because I don't really know what else to do with it!! I have a good job that I'm performing well in, a girlfriend, and am able to turn my hand at most things, but at the moment I feel very lonely, slightly paranoid, lack motivation, self esteem, confidence and spark!! I used to be a bit of a socialite and was often introduced as the funny, good looking one, but now I feel increasingly down and cut off from everything. I'm also getting quick to anger at people! I seem to be doing okay really as I'm good at just cracking on however I feel, but I really want to be happy again. Has anyone else felt a similar way at a time of their life that they shouldn't do? It's not that I'm not grateful for what I have and recognise that I have it better than many, but I do want to get rid of this inexplained feeling of unhappiness. It does affect me and I'm getting increasingly less social. I feel trapped behind a glass wall of under-confidence which holds me back from being really what I could be!! Is it depression? Is it something else? Just hearing from someone who may feel similar will help me I think!

And if I can ever do anything to help you, please just ask. Even if it's for a beer and chat if you fancy that!!

Thank you and good luck,
Phil

 

[IgnoredOne]

What do you think is your goal in life? Do you think you're getting to it?

A lack of a sense of purpose often causes people to be extremely unhappy, even when they seem to be otherwise satiated.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Reading the title of this thread my instant answer before even reading your post is exactly what IgnoredOne said.

 

[Pheenix]

IgnoredOne has it.

For me, what helps is to sorta simplify your life. Stop thinking of life as a system of jobs and expectations. If you just ask yourself what you want to do and do it first, then try to make it fit into a job / living system later, you might find happiness.