Hey,
So i have spent a lot of time analysing myself. And one thing i dont like about my self is my fear of rejection or boring people.
I want to know, how i can talk and not think in the back of my head that i am a boring twat and this person is only listening to me for the sake of it?
Now the thing is, I have a friend who talks allot more than me (well more than most) and he is able to make others feel relaxed all night long without running out of things to say. And tbh its not all that interesting sometimes, but people will listen regardless as its nice to hear someone talk in a group.
I just want to know how i can get rid of the voice in my head that convinces me that i am boring. I know i am not boring, but i just want to stop thinking it!
Or i want to have a conversation and to stop thinking in the back of my head that they want to walk away. When i think like this, it prevents me talking about more stuff and going into more detail.
I think this comes from childhood expierance. When i was a kid, my voice didnt matter and people always talked over me. That doesnt happen anymore but the psycological affects remain.
So i have spent a lot of time analysing myself. And one thing i dont like about my self is my fear of rejection or boring people.
I want to know, how i can talk and not think in the back of my head that i am a boring twat and this person is only listening to me for the sake of it?
Now the thing is, I have a friend who talks allot more than me (well more than most) and he is able to make others feel relaxed all night long without running out of things to say. And tbh its not all that interesting sometimes, but people will listen regardless as its nice to hear someone talk in a group.
I just want to know how i can get rid of the voice in my head that convinces me that i am boring. I know i am not boring, but i just want to stop thinking it!
Or i want to have a conversation and to stop thinking in the back of my head that they want to walk away. When i think like this, it prevents me talking about more stuff and going into more detail.
I think this comes from childhood expierance. When i was a kid, my voice didnt matter and people always talked over me. That doesnt happen anymore but the psycological affects remain.