labelsorlove3
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So I've been in a 'relationship' since the beginning of August, so almost 8 months. We actually met 5 years ago, went on one date and at the time I really wanted a long-term relationship and hes against marriage and having kids-- so we lost contact. Then last summer out of nowhere he text me and I found it really weird (he is not the type to attach or care much about anyone). I agreed to go to dinner with him, which turned into a movie and then drinks after- (thats all that happened). I actually had a really great time and I'm in a point in my life where I'm trying to start my professional career and become financially stable so I'm alright not having a committed relationship.
I assumed this meant that it would be the type of relationship he has- where he dates a girl, they are intimate, he still treats her with respect- but its private and lasts a few months. For the last eight months though, we spend the entire weekend together, at least two nights a week, holidays, birthdays, ect. I continue to introduce him as a friend because he says he needs someone that fits better with his lifestyle. I do not understand what that means- we have a lot of the same interests, we never fight, the sex is great, my entire family loves him, he constantly wants to be around me. We agreed that we can date other people when this whole 'relationship' started but he hasn't dated anyone. I'm confused because I care for him a lot but its just as a friend and sexually really. I don't get butterflies at all.
Its gotten to the point where I'm happy around him. I don't feel in love but I feel safe, I know that whatever we do- neither of us will be miserable- and I know that he genuinely cares about me. I'm not sure if many guys on here also do not want to get married or have kids (or tend to live loner lifestyles by choice) but are his actions just friendly because we are so close as friends? Or is there potentially something more on his end?
Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
I assumed this meant that it would be the type of relationship he has- where he dates a girl, they are intimate, he still treats her with respect- but its private and lasts a few months. For the last eight months though, we spend the entire weekend together, at least two nights a week, holidays, birthdays, ect. I continue to introduce him as a friend because he says he needs someone that fits better with his lifestyle. I do not understand what that means- we have a lot of the same interests, we never fight, the sex is great, my entire family loves him, he constantly wants to be around me. We agreed that we can date other people when this whole 'relationship' started but he hasn't dated anyone. I'm confused because I care for him a lot but its just as a friend and sexually really. I don't get butterflies at all.
Its gotten to the point where I'm happy around him. I don't feel in love but I feel safe, I know that whatever we do- neither of us will be miserable- and I know that he genuinely cares about me. I'm not sure if many guys on here also do not want to get married or have kids (or tend to live loner lifestyles by choice) but are his actions just friendly because we are so close as friends? Or is there potentially something more on his end?
Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.