Hello to all...

[JasonM]

...I think I've been staring at the screen for about twenty minutes now trying to figure out what to write. I stumbled upon this forum while searching for support groups in my area and since I am not exactly good conversing with others face to face I thought this would be a better option.

I suppose I'm here because I've had a major change to my life over the past year and I'm feeling isolated and in unfamiliar territory, more so than the usual amount. See I've never really felt completely comfortable around others, not family, not girlfriends. Have you ever seen Invasion of the Body Snatchers? Well I'm Kevin McCarthy pretending to be an alien, pretending to be human. I keep hoping that some day I will find another of my kind, but days have come and gone as if some sort of concept for recording the passage of time had been invented, I would call it a calendar and find some way to make millions off it.

Anyway I thought it would be good for me to communicate to the outside world in some way before I turn into a total hermit...so hi.

 

[Barbaloot]

Hi, welcome to the forum.

 

[MissGuided]

Hey there and welcome to ALL.

 

[jetsuo]

Hey dude welcome. Where u from?

 

[Wessik]

Given the elaborate way in which you comport yourself, I am tempted to think you a member of the aspie species. > Time may tell more accurately than I ever could right now. Speaking of right now, however, I hope you might think well enough of me to answer a few questions.

First, and foremost, you have said here that you feel like Mcarthy pretending to be an alien pretending to be human(I won't bring up the incredibly fascinating metaphysical system that such a situation may be based on, though I will say that it is definitely worth devoting time to explore the subject). I can only assume that you might feel like you operate on a different wavelength than other people. Socially awkward? Does your lack of a social life correspond in any way shape or form to a lack of shared interests?

Are you seen as quirky by others? Do you find it easy to understand what others might be thinking? Do people tell you that you overthink things? Make things too complicated? Are you often committing small acts of social transgression? Strange eating habits?

Out with it now. And don't hold nothing back, you hear? Well get to the bottom of this, Mr allison! I assure you, we will! (Did you notice any changes in diction and tone in the previous paragraph?)

Oh. Sorry, I feel I must apologize. In my haste to ponder, I rudely did not introduce myself. XD Hello! Welcome to a lonely life! Refreshments are over there, and there. Your complimentary goodie bag stuffed with comic book figurines and digital copies of increasingly shameful pornography can be found in the shelves over there. Don't strain yourself too hard to fit in with us jokers. It's likely you'll improve to fast, and then where would we be? Hmm?

Welcome. Welcome to the forum.

 

[fox]

Welcome to ALL JasonM
I think you came to the right place

 

[JasonM]

I can only assume that you might feel like you operate on a different wavelength than other people. Socially awkward? Does your lack of a social life correspond in any way shape or form to a lack of shared interests?

Well I suppose one could say as such. I think it ends up being a communication issue; I don't think what I say is really interpreted in the manner I intend it to be. Writing things down is much easier as I can reread and fine tune it. Still it seems that there are often breakdowns in the conversation. As per my general socialization skills, I just don't feel comfortable around 99.9% of the people I've ever met. Sure shared interests are a factor, but I believe it has more to do with the way I reason matters out. It's not an easy thing to explain.

Are you seen as quirky by others? Do you find it easy to understand what others might be thinking? Do people tell you that you overthink things? Make things too complicated? Are you often committing small acts of social transgression? Strange eating habits?

Quirky would be an understatement. I understand the reason or logic to how others have arrived at a conclusion, but not the 'Why' of them taking the path they do. I think people make things far too complicated and difficult for themselves, half the time sabotaging themselves. Over think things? Yes, but I don't agree. Where I see people obsessing about Should I, Shouldn't I, Should I, Shouldn't I, I see the issue, envision every probable choice and the path it would lead to, and pick the most likely to be beneficial. Ok, so when I lay it out like that it does sound like over thinking, but it doesn't feel that way. It's taken me time to accept things, but I like the way I am now; it's not something that I would change. Social transgressions? Strange eating habits? Not really I just tend to keep on my side of the island because it's just easier that way. However there are times when I wish I had someone of like mind to share the experience with.

So to give some background on the actual situation. Even though I am a very independent person, I've been in one relationship after the other for the past two plus decades now, lets just say I am one of those hopeless romantics. Five months ago I ended an eleven year relationship. It was not for lack of love, but rather a choice that needed to be made between the memory of what used to be and the future of possibilities. Lets just say that watching tv, sitting on opposing ends of the sofa we held more resemblance to the table lamps than two individuals actually in a relationship. We were in the same space, but we were not there together. So now five months later I find myself retreating to such solitude that I know it will be a difficult road to pull myself out of when I do meet someone again. And with winter coming I can feel my seasonal depression creeping up on me. So that's about that. Thanks to all for the greetings and taking an interest enough to reply.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Hi JasonM. Welcome to the forum!

 

[Wessik]

I can only assume that you might feel like you operate on a different wavelength than other people. Socially awkward? Does your lack of a social life correspond in any way shape or form to a lack of shared interests?

Well I suppose one could say as such. I think it ends up being a communication issue; I don't think what I say is really interpreted in the manner I intend it to be. Writing things down is much easier as I can reread and fine tune it. Still it seems that there are often breakdowns in the conversation. As per my general socialization skills, I just don't feel comfortable around 99.9% of the people I've ever met. Sure shared interests are a factor, but I believe it has more to do with the way I reason matters out. It's not an easy thing to explain.

Are you seen as quirky by others? Do you find it easy to understand what others might be thinking? Do people tell you that you overthink things? Make things too complicated? Are you often committing small acts of social transgression? Strange eating habits?

Quirky would be an understatement. I understand the reason or logic to how others have arrived at a conclusion, but not the 'Why' of them taking the path they do. I think people make things far too complicated and difficult for themselves, half the time sabotaging themselves. Over think things? Yes, but I don't agree. Where I see people obsessing about Should I, Shouldn't I, Should I, Shouldn't I, I see the issue, envision every probable choice and the path it would lead to, and pick the most likely to be beneficial. Ok, so when I lay it out like that it does sound like over thinking, but it doesn't feel that way. It's taken me time to accept things, but I like the way I am now; it's not something that I would change. Social transgressions? Strange eating habits? Not really I just tend to keep on my side of the island because it's just easier that way. However there are times when I wish I had someone of like mind to share the experience with.

So to give some background on the actual situation. Even though I am a very independent person, I've been in one relationship after the other for the past two plus decades now, lets just say I am one of those hopeless romantics. Five months ago I ended an eleven year relationship. It was not for lack of love, but rather a choice that needed to be made between the memory of what used to be and the future of possibilities. Lets just say that watching tv, sitting on opposing ends of the sofa we held more resemblance to the table lamps than two individuals actually in a relationship. We were in the same space, but we were not there together. So now five months later I find myself retreating to such solitude that I know it will be a difficult road to pull myself out of when I do meet someone again. And with winter coming I can feel my seasonal depression creeping up on me. So that's about that. Thanks to all for the greetings and taking an interest enough to reply.

Haha! You are so an ASPIE!! Welcome brother! It is always good to meet a fellow of the cloth! (By the by, I reccomend you google "aspergers syndrome". Given your age, you wouldn't have been found out as a kid. Also, don't go to autismspeaks, whatever you do. Those bastards only spread unsubstantiated bs.)

 

[leece]

Hello fellow newcomer

 

[Bei]

Hello, Welcome