KyleS732 said:
I need to know how to overcome all my issues.
One at a time, or all at once. That's how.
KyleS732 said:
How do I make friends and get a girlfriend?
You go up and just start talking to people about stuff.
Friends/Girlfriends are when they enjoy talking to you. So before they go, if the conversation has been pleasant enough, you ask them if they 'would like to chat again sometime' and get some info from them to make that possible.
And yes, I mean literally walking up to and talking to strangers. Out of nowhere. For no reason at all.
You don't make friends/girlfriends by keeping to yourself or being afraid. Communication is necessary, and that does mean taking a risk that you might be rejected. But without risk there is no reward. The more you risk, the greater chances of that reward.
KyleS732 said:
I just cant take being alone anymore. I'm on the edge of breaking
In my experience it seems that what some people need to do is just break.
Just let things go, stop restricting themselves, and just stop being afraid.
Just break. Fall into pieces. Crumble.
Know there is nothing left.
... Then build yourself up again, from nothing.
When people speak of breaking, they often mean to say they want to kill themselves. But it isn't that they want death for themselves, but simply want the person who they are now to die.
And sometimes that is what must happen, if they are to be reborn as the person they want to be.
Suicide is simply not an answer to anything. But sometimes we do need to kill who we are as an individual in order to save the life that is being held captive by this individual.
Do you understand what I mean?
Not to break and fall apart with pointless actions like hurting ourselves or trying to commit suicide, but to simply believe that who we are is dead and that there is now nothing that can hold us back from our freedom. To separate ourselves from our past so that there is a future. To murder our captor, destroy him completely, and venture out of the cave we have been held into the blinding light. To accept all of our fear, but to overcome it completely.
It means to break away from the fear that binds us together, to fall apart and simply accept that we do not know what truth is and we do not have any answers for ourselves, and to then embrace and accept that we are walking blindly. Walking straight and true. Not with courage, but simply without fear. To simply stop believing in anything, because it is those beliefs that created us, and those beliefs that killed us.
Sometimes we, as individuals, need to break.
Once the dam cracks, it's only a matter of time before it goes. So we have a choice, wait and take the chance that it might happen when we are unprepared for it, or to simply accept the inevitable and to prepare now for the flood that will be unleashed by our own hand.
You have that choice. You have that power. Your weakness can be your greatest strength.
... Or maybe all of this is just utter nonsense, and I'm the only one who can make any sense of it. Maybe no one should ever listen to me. I'm not even sure I really care anymore. I don't claim to be perfect or wise. I am just me.
But if all you really want is a girlfriend... Just start chasing girls. Let the dam break another time.
Go up and chat with them, for no other reason than because you want to. You'll get turned down a lot, but that's just life. Eventually, and what will give you strength to carry forward, is that eventually one of these girls will like your company.
Don't ask what to talk about, either. You just talk. It doesn't matter what you talk about. You just talk. Shut your brain off for a while and just let your mouth speak.
but you totally can.
