T20
Well-known member
Hi, I'm Terry and I've been struggling with loneliness for a year or so.
I used to be able to go out and have a good time with friends (I had loads of friends back then). This was about 4 years ago when I was 16 and I hadn't any worries in the world. It was only when I started getting depressed for a number of reasons when I realised that I was lonely. I went through many memories of me being with people, back then thinking that everything was fine. It's only recently I've discovered that things weren't good at all. I felt the same feelings as I do now, only now they're much stronger and more damaging to me.
I can make "friends", but I don't feel like I'm in their company, I feel like I'm just drifting with them not knowing where I'm going if that makes sense. I've never felt a part of anything even when I'm having a good time because I know that I don't seem to fit in anywhere. I can get on with people great but only when I put on a front and I know many people seem to do that. When I am genuinely myself, I'm aggressive, annoying and can be quite immature at times. I started developing a new personality that was "fake" to try and fit in with people and even though it worked, I knew it wasn't me. I don't know where I belong and I don't know where I'm going. I'm just drifting in and out with people and I don't know how they truly feel towards me.
I try and be as nice as possible to people but most take advantage of this, resulting in them saying/doing something to hurt my feelings. When I didn't put on a front, I was often aggressive, but this often made things worse.
The bottom line is that I can make friends but only when I'm not myself. When I am myself people think I'm a joke. I want to be able to change my personality without putting on an act to please others. And I really care what people think because I want to be able to get married, have kids and have genuinely nice friends. Where are these genuinely nice people?
I used to be able to go out and have a good time with friends (I had loads of friends back then). This was about 4 years ago when I was 16 and I hadn't any worries in the world. It was only when I started getting depressed for a number of reasons when I realised that I was lonely. I went through many memories of me being with people, back then thinking that everything was fine. It's only recently I've discovered that things weren't good at all. I felt the same feelings as I do now, only now they're much stronger and more damaging to me.
I can make "friends", but I don't feel like I'm in their company, I feel like I'm just drifting with them not knowing where I'm going if that makes sense. I've never felt a part of anything even when I'm having a good time because I know that I don't seem to fit in anywhere. I can get on with people great but only when I put on a front and I know many people seem to do that. When I am genuinely myself, I'm aggressive, annoying and can be quite immature at times. I started developing a new personality that was "fake" to try and fit in with people and even though it worked, I knew it wasn't me. I don't know where I belong and I don't know where I'm going. I'm just drifting in and out with people and I don't know how they truly feel towards me.
I try and be as nice as possible to people but most take advantage of this, resulting in them saying/doing something to hurt my feelings. When I didn't put on a front, I was often aggressive, but this often made things worse.
The bottom line is that I can make friends but only when I'm not myself. When I am myself people think I'm a joke. I want to be able to change my personality without putting on an act to please others. And I really care what people think because I want to be able to get married, have kids and have genuinely nice friends. Where are these genuinely nice people?