Almond said:
lonelyloser said:
My IQ is in the top 2%. I learned that people who have high IQ's have trouble socializing and functioning as adults. Is this the case for any of you? I'd be interested in knowing how your IQ has affected your life, whether it be in a negative way or a positive way. I am bothered by the fact that there are people out there who have average IQ's who seem to be much happier. It feels like being smart is a curse.
How my IQ has affected my life is that it makes it nearly impossible to have a relationship or communicate with men. It actually helps me interact with other women but when it comes to men, forget it. There isn't a man that I've met that doesn't automatically assume that just because I'm a woman, I'm somehow unintelligent. This is really frustrating. I've found myself having to pretend that I'm much less intelligent than I actually am just to be able to peacefully associate with men. Frankly I'm tired of having to dumb myself down but I don't see too many other options available. I think my intelligence intimidates men but I wish it wouldn't. Maybe someday I'll meet someone who isn't like this but right now that doesn't look very promising because I've dealt with this during my entire life.
I saw a show that addressed this problem. Their recommendation was to just "be a girl". Guys like girls who are very feminine. This doesn't mean dumb, but we like girls who try to make themselves look good and like girly things. Being intelligent will help you in the workplace. At work, men feel superior but if they see a competent women, they are very impressed (not necessarily intimidated). It will help you get promoted and help you advance your career. When it comes to dating, you have to be a different person. It's true that most guys don't want a girl who is smarter than them, I'm not going to deny that. But if you let the guy "take the lead", "be the man", whatever you want to call it, he'll feel more at peace with himself and will want to be with you.