M_also_lonely said:
Where to find these people??? I searched all around.
Why would people like me for what I am?? They dont..I wait for everybody, nobody waits for me. I bring for everybody, nobody brings for me. I share with everybody, but nobody shares with me. I respect everybody, but nobody respects me. I care for everybody around me, but nobody does that for me..
You see the situation, if what they do is not much important, people worship them. I always speak politely, I care for others, do anything tjat could make them happy, but at night, I cry realizing the fact that I mean nothing to them, because nobody has ever done anything special for me. Like fans do to their fav. celebs, friends do to their friends.
So obviously, if caring, loving, respecting would make us happy, I would already be happy.But why am I not?
Do you want my honest opinion?
It is because while you care so much about everyone else you are completely forgetting to care about yourself. You have no self esteem. Self esteem is incredibly important. You aren't seeing the real you when you look in the mirror, you're seeing an illusion.
If you want friends, if you want someone who loves you, you need to look in that mirror and see the real you. If you don't know who that person really is, then how will someone else? And if they do, then how would you know it? You would feel like they are looking at someone else who is not you.
Look in the mirror and see the real you:
The person who cares about everyone and just gets bad luck that others are so mean to him.
The person who is so concerned about other people's feelings that he is afraid to stand up for himself.
The person that can go out of his way to care about other people who don't care about him.
And the person that loves the world but is too afraid to really take part in it because he is too preoccupied with becoming someone he is not.
And do not get caught up in superficial appearances, either. The mirror is the real illusion. Allow yourself to see yourself in your own mind, to be the person who you really are and who you really want to be. Don't get caught up in appearances.
A beautiful flower quickly loses its beauty, but a beautiful painting will last as long as those who appreciate it.
You say no one cares about you, but you're probably just overlooking the people who do care. I believe you have mentioned your mom before. Do you really believe she does not care about you? If you have her, that is at least one more than some people get.
Most importantly, the person who really does not love you is you. You need to learn to love yourself. If you do not know how to do that then how is anyone else supposed to know how? Are they supposed to know you better than you even know yourself? Why hold people to such high expectations?
Finding people who are mature, understanding, loving, and caring is difficult. These people are not just around every corner.
And that is exactly why you are special, why you are unique. You are or can be one of those people. Not the celebrity who gets loved for someone they aren't, but you can be someone who gets truly loved for the person they are. Lasting love.
Not everyone gets that opportunity, M. Don't waste it. You already have it, you just don't know it yet.
M_also_lonely said:
I just want to feel special for once. I want to show that I exist, too.
I know. I know what that is like, too. It's not a good feeling.
But you are holding yourself back from the truth - you don't need other people to be happy. You can love yourself and just be happy being yourself.
What could make you feel more special than that? Having the ability to be happy by just being yourself?
When you do realize this it becomes much easier to find other people who will love you, too. And they do love you and will love you. You just aren't looking in the right place yet. This is because you haven't found yourself, yet.
I know it sounds wrong but people are not the answer to loneliness. If this were true then it would not be possible to feel so alone in a crowd, or with other people around.... but it is actually some of those times when we feel most alone.
The solution to loneliness is therefore an internal process. You must discover your true self before you can discover others who are like you. You must know yourself before others can know you. You must love yourself before others can love you.
... Understand? Try.
And by the way, if I didn't care do you think I'd even post? And I don't even know you. Do you realize your potential here? Don't overlook the people who care about you. I'm not going to be around here forever to tell you that.