TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Locke said:When my father abused me and kicked me out at 15, leaving me alone and homeless in the world, I got angry. I used that anger to help get me through cold winter nights on the street.....
See, every time life kicks my ass, I get up and do something about it! Because a boy complains, and a man fights for what he wants out of life.
Wow Locke, I mean, I must say you have been through a lot worse things than I have so far. I mean, my life so far has not been in any kind of immediate danger from the elements or anything like that. And fortunately I have not yet been kicked out. I also have to say you've gotten through more than I have and stayed sane. Thankfully no one has ever beaten me up. One, for the obvious reason. Two, if they did, I would not be able to think about anything but vengeance until I got it.
But anyway I'm sure that's not the point. Specifically, what did you do about it to keep from slipping into a rage? What did you wind up doing instead?
You're right in saying that "a boy complains and a man fights for what he wants in life". When I look back on today I pretty much wasted all of it complaining and it's not a good feeling. I guess the things that get me are that sometimes, actually all the time, I can't help but wonder - what if the rest of my life will just be all fight? Like, I'll just never get there. The rest of my life will be an uphill battle and I'll never win. I don't think I would kill myself and I don't think I would ever act on some of my more violent wishes, even though sometimes I'd certainly like to. No. Most likely, most of the time I feel that whether I fight for what I want in life or not, it will be no use. I worry that I'll never arrive at my desired destination.
You, and everyone say I should find someone who loves me for who I am instead of trying to get the girl I want. What if someday I do meet someone who would love me for who I am - but I don't love them? Then what? That's all I get, so if it turns out I'm not impressed, I just get to go without then. I just don't think the kind of girl I'd attract would be someone I'd actually want. I certainly would not be attracting them on purpose. I think I would attract someone nice, but homely and not very bright or exciting. That's just the way it seems it will be based on who is available and how I can't ever attract anyone I want. And then I'd either get angry and be alone, or I'd just get complacent and comfortable with this person I don't much care for, always wishing I could have gotten what I wanted instead and wishing I could be somewhere else.
Locke said:People actually do care about you here you know. You could use that care and support to your advantage, just as you can use that misplaced anger. Will you Ska? Will you stand up with me, stop talking about the same things, and carry on? Will you find the strength and determination to improve yourself and your life? That strength is within you, but if you're short I'll lend you some of mine.
I don't know. I am short on this strength, I suppose. But even improving myself and my life seems so futile. What can I do to change what I get? What good will it do? It doesn't seem like anything I do will ever be enough to get anywhere I want to be.
I've met enough of them to know that there are very few who have the traits that I want. And I can't seem to be good enough for them so all that's left are the rest. Other guys get to be with their dream girl so why can't I do it too? Meanwhile, my whole life I'll either be alone or with someone who is "just okay" and wishing every day I could have just gotten what I want, only to wake up to shitty, boring reality day in and day out desperately wishing the one I want would take me away.ladyforsaken said:Have you met all the single women in the whole wide world? I don't think so.. so I don't think you should judge and assume this is how it will be with all the women you'd meet in the future. I haven't said this before, but others have, but right now I find that kinda insulting, the way you see women out there. I understand where you're coming from, but if you don't change this mindset, it's not going to get you anywhere, dude.
Yea, it's going to bring me to a dull life, that's what. I hate to do this to you but unfortunately, yes, I do think this is where it ends for me. I can't get the ones i want so all that's left is someone boring and unexciting and that's all I get because it's a bad boy's world and I'm just living in it. It seems so futile.ladyforsaken said:We're here for you. Not to drive you crazy, but to try to get you to see what we have experienced ourselves in life. It doesn't end where you think it ends. We all think that at some point when something breaks us.. but somehow it brings us somewhere else in life.