How many people over 20 are still virgins?

[loveshyness]

25 and still a virgin. life passed so fast. before i know it i might still be a virgin at 40

 

[kod_mako]

What if you hang around with people who are alot more outgoing than you, find it really easy to talk to people and have an approachable manner. I am a very shy introverted person and pretty much all of my friends are extroverts... I am NEVER the one to be approached or get any attention whatsoever. I know what I just wrote that can come across as if I expect women to come to me but that is not really the case. I do try and join in with the socializing but its hard because of lack of social experience and shyness. Strangely im alot better with direct conversations with one other person but it never gets to that stage ever.

Yes, but for most men there's no greater fear than asking a girl out. The guy who can just walk up to a girl and ask her out is an extremely rare thing. It's the same reason why sales jobs that involve cold calling have one of the highest turnovers of all jobs.

In today's world this is no excuse. There's text messaging, BBM, Facebook, and plenty of internet dating sites. Of all the women I've dated in the past several years I've never straight up asked any of them on a date. It's been a facebook message "hey, we should have coffee some time" an msn message like "wow, you're a fan of them too? we should go together" or something through an internet dating site.

It may sound lame but this is how it's been done forever. Before the internet and cell phones people were getting their friends to tell so-and-so they were interested in their friend. And of course alcohol-- alcohol has been used from the beginning of time almost to get oneself in such a state of mind they can just make an ass of themselves.

Again, it's unfortunately the irony of the virgin's mindset. Not only do they need the perfect girl they need to be asked out in the perfect way as well. No one picks up the hot blond at the grocery market on some idle Sunday.

 

[SamG]

Resurrecting this thread as this post was the way i got referred through to this forum and having read through every page i was wondering if anyone had made any progress.

To share my situation im a 24 year old virgin in every respect. I remember when i was 17 i used to say it wasn't a case of not having got to first base, i'd never even entered the field... Nothing has changed since then. I have relied for the past 6 years on lying whenever questions were posed to me on relationships by acquaintances or colleagues.

Today i have reached a stage where i am sick of lying and deceiving people about my inexperience. Recently i have started seeing a therapist for various interrelated mental health issues (depression, ED, social anxiety) and have been open with her on all my issues and spoke of core aspects of my life i'd like to change. However when i broached the issue of my inexperience being a major barrier in my ability to make progress in this area she essentially dismissed the notion that this would be a problem and evaded the question. Has anyone on here been able to overcome this whilst remaining honest and open?

 

[blackdot]

Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

 

[SamG]

Just came across an article that might supply a slight bit of reassurance: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201106/are-there-really-40-year-old-virgins

"Using data from the National Survey of Family Growth, the researchers tracked sexual abstinence among 2,469 men and 5,120 women age 25 to 45, and found that 122 of the men (5 percent) and 104 of the women (2 percent) said they'd never had partner sex."

I'm dubious but seeing as i've never seen any sort of figures.....

 

[Broken_n_Lost]

I wish I was a V peops, my regrets would be much much much much much much much much less than what they are now...

 

[passage]

I lost mine at 21. Didn't really see what the big deal was once I'd done it, but I can understand why it might be if you haven't.

 

[Ashariel]

I lost mine due to rape, at 17... So I definitely subscribe to the belief that you should have sex when you feel ready, and with the right person - and not before then!

 

[Unwanted94]

-_- I see myself still being a virgin at 28. I'm not in a rush to swipe my v-card either, but I have promised myself that if I were to ever have sex, I'd like to experience that with someone that I happen to really like, not just some random hookup. The chances of me losing my virginity seem quite slim, but oh well. There's more to life than sex anyway.

 

[Aube]

I lost mine due to rape, at 17... So I definitely subscribe to the belief that you should have sex when you feel ready, and with the right person - and not before then!

Hope you had a good, loving experience afterward or that you will have it eventually.

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Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

I bet if you put that bit of info on an online dating profile or include it in a conversation, you would get a lot of enticed women ready to ''unvirge'' you. It's a sexual fantasy for women as it is for men.

By the way, all you virgins waiting for Mrs. Nice sound exactly like my brother who is about to turn 30 and also flying Virgin Airlines (love the expression). He was once at a party when one friend divulged his mmm...''situation''. My brother's lesbian boss wanted to do him right there and then. He refused that ''wonderful'' opportunity. He would like to meet The Love of His Life but at the same time has lost all hope that women are worth it.

Just realize the power you have as a virgin: you can TURN A LESBIAN! No man can do that but a virgin.

 

[Ashariel]

Hope you had a good, loving experience afterward or that you will have it eventually.

Thank you - as it turns out, I did... Life is a surprising and sometimes confusing journey, and I now find myself divorcing my best friend, since we're not suited to be married. But we ARE still best friends, and I love him very much, and I am very lucky that he has graced my life

 

[Pandapanda]

Yes, I'm a 26 year old female and still a virgin. I just recently found this website and I've been lurking on it for the past three days. Personally, it's been a godsend because I didn't realize there were people exactly like me. Reading different threads however, especially where Lonesome Crow has replied (even though he can be a bit direct), I've realized I can't sit around waiting and doing the same thing I've always done.

Honestly, I think I'm self-conscious about my life right now. I'm a college grad working at the mall and I recently moved from Georgia to Connecticut. However, I'll be moving back to Georgia in a month. Not only will I be moving back, but I'll be moving back with my parents--I know so sexy right! So, I figure I've got a few weeks and a month to have sex.

I'm also am very insecure about my body, I have giant curly hair and I have acne scars all over my back from when I was a teenager. I have stretchmarks on my hips and behind my knees from a growth spurt when I was twelve. And I'm sort of afraid of my genitals being on display. I've tried waxing and shaving in the past, but I get terrible in grown hairs. I do trim though.

Other than that, I'm in shape. I always have been. Exercise keeps my mind off of sex, but I can't keep masturbating and watching romance porn anymore. I simply can't. It's driving me crazy. My other fear is being used, but someone on here made a good point, that you're ready to have sex when you're ready to accept that you might get used.

There's this live outdoor concert called Alive at Five happening today, and I know a lot of young guys will be there. I'm hoping to find one that I have at least some similarities with invite him to the beach next Sunday and have sex in his car (all a pure fantasy of mine, frankly).

I feel like doing all this makes me pathetic, but waiting makes me pathetic too. I just don't know what to do.

 

[putter65]

Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

pay for it !

best thing I ever did

 

[Ak5]

Nothing wrong with being a virgin.

Having sex isn't going to magically change you.

 

[kamya]

There aren't many perks to being a virgin either.

And yeah, losing it doesn't change much. It might give you a small confidence boost for a little while but that's about it.

 

[blackdot]

Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

pay for it !

best thing I ever did

Hell no! That would be the worst thing I ever did.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I am getting close to 30, and still a virgin.

 

[Felix]

Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

pay for it !

best thing I ever did

Mr. putter sixty five speaks with truth.

 

[Ak5]

I would not recommend paying a hooker.

 

[putter65]

Getting close to turning 39. Still a virgin.
woohoo!

pay for it !

best thing I ever did

Hell no! That would be the worst thing I ever did.

why ?

You never know until you try. It's more common than people think. The parlour I goto is safe and the women are nice. I am actually facebook friends with one of them. She is married and has these lovely kids. Seems to have a lovely life.

The talking before hand is more important than the sex. I've always thought that. Costs about 2 days pay that's all. It's fun !