How shud i go about living single?!

[exeronorama]

it may seem stupid to ask, and im still pretty young... just 17 to be honest, but still its torture to see all ur friends out there going out on dates almost all the time! ve it male friends or female friends (whom i have asked out before and have been rejected) all just seem to be happy with someone else... its a real heartache to see someone walk down the road ahead of u holding hands with their loved ones! infact, my hatred has gone beyond such a point that ever since i learnt of porn, i could never enjoy it like normal people... am i being stupid or is it just that i have yet to completely understnd myself??

 

[Bluey]

That is a difficult thing to answer. I mean the answer would probably be so complex that nether of us would be able to understand it.

I would say yes at 17 you have yet to completely understand yourself. I would say we all have to, to a degree try and understand moor about ourselves. I even now do not understand my self nearly as much as I would like to. I am 33 BTW.

Ask your self what well make you happy. If your not sure and there is a good chance that you wont be. I mean I have no clue what would make me happy. What am saying is try different stuff and only by that can you get to where you wont to be. Don't let it get you down that your mates have girls and you don't. At 17 there is plenty of guys out there that have never had a GF.

Continue to be the best person you can. Try and be friendly and know how to have a laugh with out anyone getting hurt and you should try and enjoy your life the best you can. Only when your happy with your self can you make another person happy. Asking how to life your life single is not really something you should be asking but rather how do I enjoy my life from where I am at this moment in time.

One thing I always remember reading somewhere is this. Never take life to seriously, No one gets out alive anyway

 

[Hijacc]

Ahhhhh I agree I am 16 and I feelpretty much the same way you do I have however been in relationships before but not happy ones they were all fakes not love just denial to be alone.

 

[lonelydude]

it may seem stupid to ask, and im still pretty young... just 17 to be honest, but still its torture to see all ur friends out there going out on dates almost all the time! ve it male friends or female friends (whom i have asked out before and have been rejected) all just seem to be happy with someone else... its a real heartache to see someone walk down the road ahead of u holding hands with their loved ones! infact, my hatred has gone beyond such a point that ever since i learnt of porn, i could never enjoy it like normal people... am i being stupid or is it just that i have yet to completely understnd myself??

Dude everybody has ups and downs in their lives. Just think of it as a temporary phase in your life and that it will go away soon. Thats what keeps me going and dealing with all the lonelyness , I know itll work for you too.

 

[Porman]

I was almost 18 before i had my first relationship, and at first i was really happy, but it wore off and yeah ended up being a very stressfull year. anywho, when your young being single is sooo much easier, you can do what ever you want, no restrictions or dependancies, you are more free then youl ever be.

just look at all the positive things about being single, i guess when your 18 your understand more, you wont be able to go out for a few beers with the boys without your girlfriend worrying/not wanting you to go out, your girlfriend wont like you going out to nightclubs and stuff. you always have someone you need to report to.

My advise is enjoy it while you can, youve got plenty of life ahead to get yourself wrapped up in all sorts of relationships

 

[exeronorama]

lolz... i will turn 18 this october... there r still no chances of me getting over my weird emotions... darn! what a pain in the backside!

 

[Chris 2]

I was almost 18 before i had my first relationship, and at first i was really happy, but it wore off and yeah ended up being a very stressfull year. anywho, when your young being single is sooo much easier, you can do what ever you want, no restrictions or dependancies, you are more free then youl ever be.

just look at all the positive things about being single, i guess when your 18 your understand more, you wont be able to go out for a few beers with the boys without your girlfriend worrying/not wanting you to go out, your girlfriend wont like you going out to nightclubs and stuff. you always have someone you need to report to.

My advise is enjoy it while you can, youve got plenty of life ahead to get yourself wrapped up in all sorts of relationships

I would like to disagree with Porman. Never actually been on a date, I can say life is extremely lonely. Not having someone to hold in bed with, not having someone to kiss, hold hand, cuddle up, but most importantly not having someone to love you is quite debilitating. To the OP, I'm only a couple of year ahead of you, and I still few like this mighty times. It break my heart, sometime I question my existence; and something I feel burn out. Some people say it life, and life dealt you a bad hand, maybe for a ridiculously amount of times (years), there still to be little hope, but were both still young. Like you said, your only 17, and if I'm correct you'll be going to college next fall? Well there plenty of time to meet either a gf/bf, I'm not sure what gender you are.

 

[Porman]

I was almost 18 before i had my first relationship, and at first i was really happy, but it wore off and yeah ended up being a very stressfull year. anywho, when your young being single is sooo much easier, you can do what ever you want, no restrictions or dependancies, you are more free then youl ever be.

just look at all the positive things about being single, i guess when your 18 your understand more, you wont be able to go out for a few beers with the boys without your girlfriend worrying/not wanting you to go out, your girlfriend wont like you going out to nightclubs and stuff. you always have someone you need to report to.

My advise is enjoy it while you can, youve got plenty of life ahead to get yourself wrapped up in all sorts of relationships

I would like to disagree with Porman. Never actually been on a date, I can say life is extremely lonely. Not having someone to hold in bed with, not having someone to kiss, hold hand, cuddle up, but most importantly not having someone to love you is quite debilitating. To the OP, I'm only a couple of year ahead of you, and I still few like this mighty times. It break my heart, sometime I question my existence; and something I feel burn out. Some people say it life, and life dealt you a bad hand, maybe for a ridiculously amount of times (years), there still to be little hope, but were both still young. Like you said, your only 17, and if I'm correct you'll be going to college next fall? Well there plenty of time to meet either a gf/bf, I'm not sure what gender you are.

I guess its all up to your attitude in life. iv had both experiences, and as soon as a broke up with my girlfriend, i felt relieved, no more stress.

I agree that being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, tho i beleive at a young age you dont need it. dont let it get you down, Always remember that the bad comes with the good. you will learn once you get in a relationship that it my not always be as perfect as you would have thought/hoped.

All i was trying to say really was that there is plenty of fun to be had being single. its all about your attitude. i myself am pretty lonely, tho i dont seek a girlfriend as the cure. Im more searching for close friends and activities, do things with friends, go places, go on an adventure, live life, and most of all a job lol

Girlfriends are great but not always the answer. I probably felt the sadest ever when i was in a relationship, it was going sour lol. tho everyones experience is different i guess. I know the feeling of never having a girlfriend, it sucks. i felt like i would prob never have one. its that feeling thats worse then the feeling of not having a girlfriend. But i guess thats me, im not the type of person that needs one, not now anyway.

 

[Chris 2]

I was almost 18 before i had my first relationship, and at first i was really happy, but it wore off and yeah ended up being a very stressfull year. anywho, when your young being single is sooo much easier, you can do what ever you want, no restrictions or dependancies, you are more free then youl ever be.

just look at all the positive things about being single, i guess when your 18 your understand more, you wont be able to go out for a few beers with the boys without your girlfriend worrying/not wanting you to go out, your girlfriend wont like you going out to nightclubs and stuff. you always have someone you need to report to.

My advise is enjoy it while you can, youve got plenty of life ahead to get yourself wrapped up in all sorts of relationships

I would like to disagree with Porman. Never actually been on a date, I can say life is extremely lonely. Not having someone to hold in bed with, not having someone to kiss, hold hand, cuddle up, but most importantly not having someone to love you is quite debilitating. To the OP, I'm only a couple of year ahead of you, and I still few like this mighty times. It break my heart, sometime I question my existence; and something I feel burn out. Some people say it life, and life dealt you a bad hand, maybe for a ridiculously amount of times (years), there still to be little hope, but were both still young. Like you said, your only 17, and if I'm correct you'll be going to college next fall? Well there plenty of time to meet either a gf/bf, I'm not sure what gender you are.

I guess its all up to your attitude in life. iv had both experiences, and as soon as a broke up with my girlfriend, i felt relieved, no more stress.

I agree that being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, tho i beleive at a young age you dont need it. dont let it get you down, Always remember that the bad comes with the good. you will learn once you get in a relationship that it my not always be as perfect as you would have thought/hoped.

All i was trying to say really was that there is plenty of fun to be had being single. its all about your attitude. i myself am pretty lonely, tho i dont seek a girlfriend as the cure. Im more searching for close friends and activities, do things with friends, go places, go on an adventure, live life, and most of all a job lol

Girlfriends are great but not always the answer. I probably felt the sadest ever when i was in a relationship, it was going sour lol. tho everyones experience is different i guess. I know the feeling of never having a girlfriend, it sucks. i felt like i would prob never have one. its that feeling thats worse then the feeling of not having a girlfriend. But i guess thats me, im not the type of person that needs one, not now anyway.

I agree with everything you said this time around. Yes I am looking for close friends as well and if it lead to a possible relationship, that would be a dream come true. Nevertheless I do believe it fun to be single a times, you get to hang out with your friends and do stuff that is very hard having a love one, but it the feeling that you don't know if it possible for anyone to love you. It would be so much easier if you have had a gf, and are no longer with her. And I understand where your coming from Porman, because you already dated, and now you feel so relief it over because you want to enjoy your life, and that perfectly alright. But the feeling is very different for someone like myself, because we are seeking answer to our loneliness, and until we find it, we are not content.

 

[Porman]

I believe there is someone out there for everyone, its all about finding them. I know the feeling chris, i lived 17 years without ever kissing a girl and always felt like i was repuslive or something, could never understand why. I know now what it was, and it was confidence, i had none of it. Never asume its your personality or looks that is getting you no where.

Something someone once told me that really opened my eyes was that there very well may be someone that does really like you, and thinks about you but are to scared to show it/tell you. And this is mostly the case. Think about how many girls youv liked and they never knew it. she might be just as shy as you are.

Most of the time you are your own enemy, if you think someone is to good for you, or your not good enough, then you wont get anywhere. Iv seen couples where im like how the hell did he score that, and its all because of his confidence.

anyway to rap this all up, if you think your worthless, people will see that, and then think it aswell. if you think your good person with good character, people will see it and think more of you. its all about how you present yourself.

Im lonely because i dont get a chance to meet new people, i live in almost a retirement village. great little place but no young people, nothing to do.

 

[exeronorama]

hmm... i see...