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wolfshadow
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Since I joined ALL, I've been searching in the hopes of discovering a thread that explores the relationship between boredom and loneliness. Thus far, I haven't found anything that completely encapsulates that criteria, so have posted this topic to try and explain what I mean.
Already, I have come across many examples in this forum of people who find themselves in the frustrating postion of being observers, as opposed to participants, when placed in a social situation. This is something that I can relate to completely and I have often asked myself why this happens, to both me and others of a similar disposition. Sadly, I don't think there is a universal reason (well, certainly not one that I can grasp) but I would like to touch upon something that I believe to be an important factor in my instance -an excessively low boredom threshold.
At first, that may strike one as being a trivial problem and an attribute that connotes a shallow mind. Perhaps the latter could well be true because I find the motions of interaction unbearably tedious. As a result, I can never really concentrate on what people are saying (or indicating) to me, so am seldom able to formulate a meaningful or appropriate response. This is where the shyness kicks in - I know in advance I'm going to look foolish and I want to hide.
Ultimately though, if I don't find anyone else particularly interesting, how an earth can I seriously expect anything but the same in return? Quite obviously, I can't. Yet that is an utter divergence from the needs of a social animal, which fundamentaly every human being is supposed to be.
I'm not looking for advice or solutions but I am curious to know if there is anyone else out there that feels boredom can be a major catalyst for ending up lonely?
Already, I have come across many examples in this forum of people who find themselves in the frustrating postion of being observers, as opposed to participants, when placed in a social situation. This is something that I can relate to completely and I have often asked myself why this happens, to both me and others of a similar disposition. Sadly, I don't think there is a universal reason (well, certainly not one that I can grasp) but I would like to touch upon something that I believe to be an important factor in my instance -an excessively low boredom threshold.
At first, that may strike one as being a trivial problem and an attribute that connotes a shallow mind. Perhaps the latter could well be true because I find the motions of interaction unbearably tedious. As a result, I can never really concentrate on what people are saying (or indicating) to me, so am seldom able to formulate a meaningful or appropriate response. This is where the shyness kicks in - I know in advance I'm going to look foolish and I want to hide.
Ultimately though, if I don't find anyone else particularly interesting, how an earth can I seriously expect anything but the same in return? Quite obviously, I can't. Yet that is an utter divergence from the needs of a social animal, which fundamentaly every human being is supposed to be.
I'm not looking for advice or solutions but I am curious to know if there is anyone else out there that feels boredom can be a major catalyst for ending up lonely?