Cupcake Dog
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Hello, I've been looking at these boards for about a year now, but I have just now decided to make an account and post here.
I have a serious problem with expectations. Not only do I make unrealistic expectations about myself, but I also feel like I have unrealistic expectations about other people as well. If I do not meet these expectations, I become very frustrated and angry at myself (and sometimes other people).
I've been living with this mentality for as long as I can remember, but I've only recently realized that it's a problem. I do Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and we always do sparring for the last 30 minutes of class. However, I can't seem to get it out of my mind that it is not a competition, and whenever I get submitted I get very upset at myself. I also lost all interest in video games because I always go in expecting one result and when that result isn't met, I'll just stop playing.
This problem has affected my social life as well. I hate making plans because I'm always scared that people will flake out on me. It has happened so many times I just expect it now. The only time I'll go out is when people invite me to come with them, which happens every now and then. I'm also terrible at dating because once again my unrealistic expectations set me up for failure.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anything I can do to get rid of this mentality?
I have a serious problem with expectations. Not only do I make unrealistic expectations about myself, but I also feel like I have unrealistic expectations about other people as well. If I do not meet these expectations, I become very frustrated and angry at myself (and sometimes other people).
I've been living with this mentality for as long as I can remember, but I've only recently realized that it's a problem. I do Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and we always do sparring for the last 30 minutes of class. However, I can't seem to get it out of my mind that it is not a competition, and whenever I get submitted I get very upset at myself. I also lost all interest in video games because I always go in expecting one result and when that result isn't met, I'll just stop playing.
This problem has affected my social life as well. I hate making plans because I'm always scared that people will flake out on me. It has happened so many times I just expect it now. The only time I'll go out is when people invite me to come with them, which happens every now and then. I'm also terrible at dating because once again my unrealistic expectations set me up for failure.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anything I can do to get rid of this mentality?