Tear of the Goddess said:
It is funny that even in these forums (where i would least suspect it) people are assuming that the dad is crazy or a lunatic. But do not know anything about the family.
Its not that i know how the family situation is, but i have been in the worst-case scenario and can in relate to this dad very well. Because my sister was the most terrible kid out there ( a serious problem child ) this even led up to threatening and beating my mom when me and my dad were out. But she also tried to threaten me with a kitchen knife, drugs, bad friends etc everything was messed (typically the kid you never want your kid to turn into). And believe me a kid like that doesnt listen to a punishment and doesnt give a fresia or two about what you're saying against her or try. What did help is the moment that my parents kicked her out on new years eve, probably seems to harsh. BUT it worked, and luckily shes growing out of it now and is becoming a ''normal'' girl. And of course we had everyone around us who were so wise with saying we needed to be more strict etc. And these where all people that thought the knew what we were living through but didnt knew honeysuckle about our situation. Even special instances couldnt help us.
So please, think twice before you judge a dad or parents for that matter. Without knowing anything about the family
The non judgamental card... quite boring approach. I agree we cant know everything about this guy but still its clear that hes still got anger issues, he acted crazy in there. Which is not the same as saying hes a complete lunatic or that he is like that all the time.
Hes the grown up, he shuold have figured out a better way of punishment that doesnt involve violence and humilliation.
He could have just have taken the laptop. He could have tried to connect with his own doughter by talking to her and taking interest in whats causing her behaviour. He could have tried to find professional help, a therapist, read a parenting book... Assume his own fault as his parent.
But instead he chose the path of violence. That choice makes me able to determine hes most likely a nice guy most of the time, even reasonable in some of his opinions, but hes got issues.
Theres also ego thing. Parents often think their way is the best and only seek guidance as a last resort. Funny they find help if they want to remodel a bathroom or learn to cook or whatever small meaningless problem they have but whaen it comes to raising a person they brought into this world often they rely only their own instincts.
Id say to this dad, suck up your pride... If shooting something is the best solution you can find, admit your inhablility to deal with the problem and get help.
