You can prefer whatever you want but is it realistic? I know a woman who is 75, very ugly, disabled, poor, no skills, no personality, who is forever dreaming of getting a wealthy, handsome, young man with a terrific job, big house and red sports car. No way is it ever going to happen. She can't even get a poor man her own age.
That is because she's Delusional.
Aaanndddd the fact of the matter is that MOST PEOPLE are Delusional in some way or another.
I've had auditory and visual hallucinations since I was 7 years old.
I've adapted to learning how to cope with it over time.
What happens in the case of most delusional people in romance is that said delusional person has an inflated sense of self-worth counterbalanced only by their own insecurities. This can also happen inversely as well, wherein a person is totally unaware of their self-worth. The result is the the former, attempts (and often succeeds) in cannibalizing the later.
However, such is also not always the case.
It's more relativistic than it is an exaction.
If a person who does not know their own self-worth is experienced enough or well read enough to be aware of the spectrum of this conundrum, than they can very easily flip the script. Not to toot my own horn about it, but I am a God at doing this.
That can also go very badly though, which is a lesson unfortunately only learned the hard way.
What I mean is, it is very easy, VERY easy, to accidentally become the thing you once sought out to destroy defensively to keep yourself safe from that potential harm.
The way NOT to become that, is that you have to keep yourself in check and balance.
Don't get comfortable, don't get cocky.
Things don't have to be perfect, but you do have to get back on the horse that threw you with it.
Because honeysuckle can and will inevitably hit the fan.
