Ox Blood said:
I just wanted to let you know that I read this... And that I can relate to some extent.
I'm proud of you for having the will-power to turn away the alcohol to cope.
My dad was an alcoholic. He drank himself to death. I vowed never to do the same.
Lonesome Crow said:
Come on man.....stop walking on eggshells and let all that honeysuckle out.
I relapsed...but Im determind to really this time to fresia it all up. i aint ******* around.
I dont drink alone....i party hard with a bunch of lost souls. We're going stright to hell
and beyound.
Hell ain't a bad place to be ~ AC/DC.
Ashariel said:
Sorry you're feeling down! I have issues that seem to plague me forever, no matter how hard I try to cope with them... Every now and then I get fed up with it too! *hugs*
*hugs back*
putter65 said:
you need a passion in your life, something you are interested in. Something that gives you a great deal of joy, something to look forward to.
For me it's playing golf.
I used to write songs and sing them with the acoustic guitar. I've written over a hundred songs, and they're not all honeysuckle.
Hoffy said:
Solitary man said:
hopsfox said:
I read some of your posts and became interested in what you do fill your void with solitary one? I know I fill mine partly as you have quoted in your signature. I am at a place in my life where I have, after much struggle, come to accept that I am becoming a loner and allowing myself to be and also to be happy or content and not letting others coach me into activites that aren't good for me.
You seem to be interested in a good debate and other people's attitudes, opionions - Do you skype?
Only if you're a female with large breasts.
Srsly, I'm ******* human.
I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at that. Also foreigners aren't all that bad. If she turned out to be a little odd you can always just stop talking to her.
Not starting to talk to her is the approach I'm taking. She's 50 years old. Nuff said.
putter65 said:
Don't feel that bad. I've just joined this online dating site. Within 2 minutes of joining somebody started chatting to me, an obvious scammer. No pic or profile, wanted my email address etc.
What a joke !
I've been contacted by Russian dating scammers, fake profiles (created by the owners/admin of dating sites), worthless trollops, one of whom I was foolish enough to respond to, and despite knowing that I was making a mistake, went head and allowed myself to make that mistake, and paid the price ..I'm not allowing loneliness, isolation, and a sense of urgency to compel me to make any more mistakes. One was enough.
floffyschneeman said:
you want a friend? you have to be nice to people first. If you re not trusting, what makes you think other people will trust you as well? I'm not saying owe your life to anyone. But to find a friend, we need to be a bit more open and accepting of people balanced with enough caution.
Caution being the key word. There is an abundance of phoniness, fraudulence, and illusion on the internet. There are con-men and con-women scanning these sites for lonely, vulnerable people who they can deceive, manipulate, and exploit. The only way I would trust another potential date/person on the internet, was if they videoed themselves cutting one of their arms off, then posted their arm to my home address. Even then I would still have doubts about their authenticity. That may seem like a jaded and deeply cynical attitude to some, but I got hurt foolishly trusting a person who contacted me on the internet, and I will not allow that to happen again.
Barbaloot said:
Yeah, it would probably be helpful if you weren't mean to someone innocently trying to offer you their friendship. It would probably also help if you didn't act like you were somehow entitled to specify what kind of person can offer you their friendship - large breasted woman or not.
Large breasts are what I live for. The unfortunate part being that most large breasts are attached to women, and most women have common personality characteristics which I do not like. No, I'm not a misogynist, just a guy who has seen an awful lot of phoniness and deceitfulness in women. Is there even such a thing as a "genuine woman", or is that just a contradiction in terms? Not cynicism, just truth acquired from life experience.
Tiina63 said:
Hello solitary man, I have no family either and am single with no children, so I can understand how isolated you are feeling.
Like you, I try to keep as busy as I can to stop feeling lonely all the time, but the emptiness is always there, just waiting for me to stop and then it hits me again like a pile of bricks. You are doing really well not to drink and to eat healthily-it can be a big temptation to drink and to comfort eat when you are so alone.
I hear you. Been there, done that. Heavy drinking and comfort eating were how I used to cope, but those two activities caused problems, especially the over-consumption of alcohol. I rarely drink now, and try to eat as healthily as is humanly possible. I'm not actually fat, just overweight; but "overweight and friendless" doesn't have the same ring to it as "fat and friendless".
I understand "the emptiness" only too well. It's been a permanent feature in my life for 16 years. I hope you find something/someone to fill your void. No sexual pun intended.
putter65 said:
friendly people are popular, just smile and chat to people. Ask them about their day. It is not hard to say 'how are you ?'
I've always been introverted and socially awkward. I don't make friends easily, but when I do, that person has a good natured and loyal friend. Regrettably that loyalty hasn't always been reciprocated.
Lonesome Crow said:
That empiness feeling you're feeling is telling you to go out and meet people....
Until that void get fllled..it's alway gonna be there.
It's there to HELP YOU. Your feelings help you.
Learn how to listen to your feelings in a positive light.
Pain tells you...there's something not right.
Why do you think isolations is use to punish criminals or prisoners????
When you're not facing it head on or diverting yourself from what your body,
mind and soul is telling you then whatelse would you expect?....
It's like your driving with a flat tire and ignoring it. Pretending it's not flat
by turning on the freaken stereo super loud....
The flat tire isnt going to get fix until you deal with the flat tire and fix it.
I've tried ignoring the loneliness and isolation, and you're right, it doesn't make it go away. But you can't allow yourself to become obsessed and consumed by it, you have to let it go, and try to distract your mind from negative and depressing thought patterns, as once you are on that negative thought train it can be very difficult to get off.
Keeping your spirits up and salvaging your ailing self-esteem is a daily challenge. Mental health requires maintenance, and after many years of depression, I have acquired the tools to perform DIY psychotherapy, but sometimes I mislay them, and at others don't realise that I need to use them.
I am an outsider, a misfit, and a social recluse. That is my natural state of being. I am a misanthrope, I just don't like people. Specifically, I don't like their disingenuousness, egotism, selfishness and corruption. I am not perfect either and have my own faults, but I'm not a bad person.
I guess my problem is social awkwardness coupled with a plain and simple dislike of
most people. I understand the mental and physical health implications of a lack of social contact, but I don't want to associate with anyone who is a complete and utter waste of time simply to prevent a heart attack.
I'd prefer to be true to myself, keep my self respect in tact, and die with honour and dignity than waste another single moment of my time being honest and genuine with another phony, deceitful, person.
Thank you all for allowing me to begin many of my sentences with "I", and without protesting about what would appear to be self absorption.
I spend too much time alone. Like 24/7 for the last 16 years.
