Wow;
It's interesting to read this entire "thread," because many people have interesting insights, and perspectives, generally, because 1: the themes are ones I have considered, and it's interesting, for whatever reason, to get outside of myself, and 2: I like to read, and if I'm repeating a previously discussed concept, appy polly loggies.
One issue that I consider significant in my own loneliness is the fact that I am not a very interesting person. For the past few weeks, I've been watching persons who seem to enjoy life, and people, and the people around them always seem to be laughing, or at least interested. However, because, for whatever reason, my jokes aren't funny, or because whatever I'm talking about I don't have much to interest and entertain others to say about it, others nod and go on to more interesting things.
Self-esteem is something that is important, because without it, one won't have the capacity to think highly enough of one's own opinions, or jokes, or whatever, to express them.
But what if one has the esteem and whatever the opinions, jokes, whatever, aren't interesting? Is the self-esteem them useless, because it bolsters stupid, unwanted conversation (such as this post)?
And how does one become interesting, or fun?
I remember when I was young, people said, "Be yourself, and you will meet people, you will find a place in the world." What if oneself doesn't have a place in a community?
Note, I didn't say, "In the world," I said, "In a community."
How does one find a raison d'etre if that reason is so boring, and unwanted, that it shuts one out of the common, communal pleasures many people seem to enjoy?
This fits into the concept of finding love because the people I'm attracted to, or people generally, don't find me interesting enough to actually want to spend any time with me, and I find it very frightening and frustrating, as I'm just now starting to develop my own life, outside of the one built for me by the parents.
So.
Sorry for the extended wordishness; I hope all persons on this forum can find a way to develop in a way they want to.