Hi guys, so I thought I'd post this up on this forum - see what kind of results this gets for other people this forum.
The backstory:
This long weekend I felt extremely lonely. No friends, weekend depression, very tired to move, etc.
Today, the loneliness peaked. I was looking for anything and everything that I could find to cure it. Went from video games, to porn sites, to sending people PMs on the forum asking them to talk to me, to dating sites, to craigslist, to watching TV shows. Everything I did, only got rid of the pain for a short bit of time, but it kept coming back. The loneliness feelings kept coming back, and I wanted to escape from them even more.
And then I had an idea. What if I just sat with my feelings of loneliness. What if I just stopped running from them, and trying to fill that void with anything that I can, and just sit there.
I gave loneliness the stage. If loneliness was an opera singer - she was on stage today singing (or screaming) her heart out. I sat there with the pain, with the cravings, with the wanting (wanting for anything to get rid of the pain).
After about 10-15 minutes of sitting there and just giving this feeling the floor - these feelings started to go away. Or at the very least, they became less burdensome. The intense desire to fill the void started to go away. I felt less under the control of this terrible feeling. I started to feel normal again. I'm pretty sure if I continue to do this every time I get lonely from now on - it will let me step over this horrible feeling.
So yea, I thought I'd share this with you. The next time you guys are feeling lonely - don't try to make it go away. Don't try to run away from these negative feelings, or try to drown them out. Instead, give the emotion the floor. Really feel it. See what it does to your body. What does it feel like? Listen to it. Give it the stage. Let it sing it's song.
Tell me if it does anything for you. I'm eager to know your reactions / opinions / experiences.
The backstory:
This long weekend I felt extremely lonely. No friends, weekend depression, very tired to move, etc.
Today, the loneliness peaked. I was looking for anything and everything that I could find to cure it. Went from video games, to porn sites, to sending people PMs on the forum asking them to talk to me, to dating sites, to craigslist, to watching TV shows. Everything I did, only got rid of the pain for a short bit of time, but it kept coming back. The loneliness feelings kept coming back, and I wanted to escape from them even more.
And then I had an idea. What if I just sat with my feelings of loneliness. What if I just stopped running from them, and trying to fill that void with anything that I can, and just sit there.
I gave loneliness the stage. If loneliness was an opera singer - she was on stage today singing (or screaming) her heart out. I sat there with the pain, with the cravings, with the wanting (wanting for anything to get rid of the pain).
After about 10-15 minutes of sitting there and just giving this feeling the floor - these feelings started to go away. Or at the very least, they became less burdensome. The intense desire to fill the void started to go away. I felt less under the control of this terrible feeling. I started to feel normal again. I'm pretty sure if I continue to do this every time I get lonely from now on - it will let me step over this horrible feeling.
So yea, I thought I'd share this with you. The next time you guys are feeling lonely - don't try to make it go away. Don't try to run away from these negative feelings, or try to drown them out. Instead, give the emotion the floor. Really feel it. See what it does to your body. What does it feel like? Listen to it. Give it the stage. Let it sing it's song.
Tell me if it does anything for you. I'm eager to know your reactions / opinions / experiences.