GrannySmith111
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So I made a post a few weeks ago. Long story short, I moved in 8th grade away from my friends. We still hung out in person lots even though we moved but overtime especially last summer thats been changing. We never hangout in person much and they kept blowing me off every time I would ask them to hangout. Full post is here if you're interested but it's pretty lengthy http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=29303
This might be quite lengthy as well but I really need to get this BS off my head. I can't quite understand this and I hope you guys can help me? It gets a little more interesting towards the end for me. Lets refer to these friends as Friends A,B and C again.
Last week, Friend C asked me to come to their school's football game. We went and had quite a blast. Afterwards on Monday, he asked me if I could go to the next game (which was today). I told him yeah and he said he might go.
Yesterday, I asked all 3 friends if they could go. Friend B never responded to my calls or texts. Friend A said "idk maybe". Friend C told me "idk" since he had homework that was due at 12 today and he's been really tired the whole week. I don't know how you can have homework due at 12 but that's what he told me lol.
Lets go to today. This recently happened in the past hours. Friend A tells me this. "I can't go to the game. I mean I can go but I don't wanna since I gotta bring my little bro and I don't wanna do that". We have this conversation over text. I'm just asking him to see if he wants to just go and bring his little brother. I ask him if Friend B is still going and he says "idk he told me he would go but he doesn't pickup his phone a lot". I just tell him "friend b only texts me when he plays PS3 but never picks up when I call him lol". Friend A tells me "he probably can't go...".
While this is going on, I'm not quite sure whether or not they're going to the football game or not. I would love to go since it's been ages since we've hung out a lot. I told my mom that I was gonna go. After all this I told her I wasn't gonna go and I changed my mind.
And then, in the group message Friend C just says "guys meet up at the game". I'm really confused at this point and I just ask "r u guys going or not???". I text Friend A and say "Friend C is going all of a sudden lol?". No response for what seemed to be a good 5-10 min. Now by this point, I told my mom AGAIN that I was gonna go since my friends changed their mind.
All of a sudden Friend A texts me saying that Friend C was "just kidding and he was lying". I'm getting a little frustrated at this point. "wtf. r u guys going or not honestly" I reply to him. He replies back in all caps saying "WE'RE NOT GOING". We get into this little argument over text because i'm a little angry over why they kept changing their mind and they couldn't tell me that they weren't going in the first place. Like I said, this isn't the first time something of this nature has happened. I'm just telling Friend A that if they don't wanna go hangout then they should just TELL ME THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE. He says "I told you we weren't and Friend C was just kidding". First off, Friend B never picked up his phone and Friend C never gave me a definite answer and neither did Friend A. Friend A says "omg I'm with them right now they cannot go". After some more texts he says "dude i'm really busy right now talk to me later". I'm pretty furious at this point and getting sick of the BS so I ask him "how r u with them then?". Friend A is just like "lol u want a pic?"
Ok so out of nowhere Friend B (the one who hasn't been picking up his phone or saying crap to me) sends a picture of what appears to be Friend A doing some homework at Friend B's house over the group message. At this point I'm just like ??????????????? WHAT???????????.
I just get completely FURIOUS at this point alright. Why couldn't they have given me a definite answer in the first place if they knew they had HOMEWORK to do with each other? Friend A obviously CANNOT GO and neither can Friend B if he's RIGHT NEXT TO YOU DOING HOMEWORK. Why would Friend A give me this BS about how he wants go go but he doesn't wanna bring his brother. Why the heck did Friend B not pick up his phone until now? All these questions just appear in my mind so we just continue arguing for some time over text (me and friend A). I'm just asking him why the heck did he have to tell me all this "idk", "probably" "maybe" and this BS about how he wanted to go but couldn't because of his brother. Basically he tells me to F off since they can't go, and stop asking him about every detail in his life and telling him when to do his homework.
Any clarification you guys need please just ask. I barely understand wtf is going on so I doubt you guys will understand the full thing. Now that that's off my mind, what do you guys think?
Last post I made one user told me that I've had some history with this group of friends. My brain is probably telling me the right thing to do is move on but my emotions are making it hard. It's a decision only I can make. I guess at that time, I decided that yeah, these guys are great to hang around. I'll just keep acting normal until some BS happens when I absolutely cannot take it anymore. Is this it?
Any advice you guys have for me? Thoughts? Just anything? I don't know what to do about this. Obviously, that user was right. They don't need me and they never needed me. Leaving won't matter to them. But honestly guys, is it finally that time when I should just move on?
This might be quite lengthy as well but I really need to get this BS off my head. I can't quite understand this and I hope you guys can help me? It gets a little more interesting towards the end for me. Lets refer to these friends as Friends A,B and C again.
Last week, Friend C asked me to come to their school's football game. We went and had quite a blast. Afterwards on Monday, he asked me if I could go to the next game (which was today). I told him yeah and he said he might go.
Yesterday, I asked all 3 friends if they could go. Friend B never responded to my calls or texts. Friend A said "idk maybe". Friend C told me "idk" since he had homework that was due at 12 today and he's been really tired the whole week. I don't know how you can have homework due at 12 but that's what he told me lol.
Lets go to today. This recently happened in the past hours. Friend A tells me this. "I can't go to the game. I mean I can go but I don't wanna since I gotta bring my little bro and I don't wanna do that". We have this conversation over text. I'm just asking him to see if he wants to just go and bring his little brother. I ask him if Friend B is still going and he says "idk he told me he would go but he doesn't pickup his phone a lot". I just tell him "friend b only texts me when he plays PS3 but never picks up when I call him lol". Friend A tells me "he probably can't go...".
While this is going on, I'm not quite sure whether or not they're going to the football game or not. I would love to go since it's been ages since we've hung out a lot. I told my mom that I was gonna go. After all this I told her I wasn't gonna go and I changed my mind.
And then, in the group message Friend C just says "guys meet up at the game". I'm really confused at this point and I just ask "r u guys going or not???". I text Friend A and say "Friend C is going all of a sudden lol?". No response for what seemed to be a good 5-10 min. Now by this point, I told my mom AGAIN that I was gonna go since my friends changed their mind.
All of a sudden Friend A texts me saying that Friend C was "just kidding and he was lying". I'm getting a little frustrated at this point. "wtf. r u guys going or not honestly" I reply to him. He replies back in all caps saying "WE'RE NOT GOING". We get into this little argument over text because i'm a little angry over why they kept changing their mind and they couldn't tell me that they weren't going in the first place. Like I said, this isn't the first time something of this nature has happened. I'm just telling Friend A that if they don't wanna go hangout then they should just TELL ME THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE. He says "I told you we weren't and Friend C was just kidding". First off, Friend B never picked up his phone and Friend C never gave me a definite answer and neither did Friend A. Friend A says "omg I'm with them right now they cannot go". After some more texts he says "dude i'm really busy right now talk to me later". I'm pretty furious at this point and getting sick of the BS so I ask him "how r u with them then?". Friend A is just like "lol u want a pic?"
Ok so out of nowhere Friend B (the one who hasn't been picking up his phone or saying crap to me) sends a picture of what appears to be Friend A doing some homework at Friend B's house over the group message. At this point I'm just like ??????????????? WHAT???????????.
I just get completely FURIOUS at this point alright. Why couldn't they have given me a definite answer in the first place if they knew they had HOMEWORK to do with each other? Friend A obviously CANNOT GO and neither can Friend B if he's RIGHT NEXT TO YOU DOING HOMEWORK. Why would Friend A give me this BS about how he wants go go but he doesn't wanna bring his brother. Why the heck did Friend B not pick up his phone until now? All these questions just appear in my mind so we just continue arguing for some time over text (me and friend A). I'm just asking him why the heck did he have to tell me all this "idk", "probably" "maybe" and this BS about how he wanted to go but couldn't because of his brother. Basically he tells me to F off since they can't go, and stop asking him about every detail in his life and telling him when to do his homework.
Any clarification you guys need please just ask. I barely understand wtf is going on so I doubt you guys will understand the full thing. Now that that's off my mind, what do you guys think?
Last post I made one user told me that I've had some history with this group of friends. My brain is probably telling me the right thing to do is move on but my emotions are making it hard. It's a decision only I can make. I guess at that time, I decided that yeah, these guys are great to hang around. I'll just keep acting normal until some BS happens when I absolutely cannot take it anymore. Is this it?
Any advice you guys have for me? Thoughts? Just anything? I don't know what to do about this. Obviously, that user was right. They don't need me and they never needed me. Leaving won't matter to them. But honestly guys, is it finally that time when I should just move on?