Having a bad moment/day/week
Recently I've met a nice guy. We were hooked up by friends on a wedding.
First I thought he was very funny and he made me laugh with his jokes, his jokes were even including me, since I do like to laugh about myself it was ok
(I paid him back too ). So it was obvious we found each other attractive.
So, I directly talked to him about what I want; and I do want a relationship. He was honest and said that he was just out of a long term
relationship so he wouldn't want it go that far. That was fair to me.
Well, I admit, since he is very sexy to me, we had a good time two months long. But I was
really trying to keep a distance, but he was not. I admit I could have stoped him a little, but it felt so good anyhow.
He texted me from early in the morning till late in the night. We saw each other every day and we didn't
have sex each time. It was like being a couple. He invited me to the movies and going out with his friends. Then he was in conversations speaking about
trips we could do in a couple of months. Umm....well, I kinda thought: for a guy who is not interested in a relationship he is planning too much.
But I didn't say anything, I don't know why, I was like an observer of a development, like someone watching a science show. Of course I've found it cute, too.
Anyways, since he had much to do, he is a student (preparing for many exams) and moving into a new appartment which he has to renovate, he didn't pay much attention
to all when he has met me. But as I said, I didn't force him. I anyways went to my job the only thing I missed was doing my sports regularly.
But since a week or two he is very unfriendly, still making jokes (about me) but this time very mean ones. Ok, I thought, I get it, he wants to get rid of me.
So I ignored him and left him alone, because I don't need another a***ole guy in my life. I had them in the past. But he kept on calling, wanting me
to go to the movies with him. Then he was being nice and easygoing.
The day after he kept on making mean jokes. When I told him they weren't funny he apologized.
But now he is keeping the distance to me. When I text him asking when we'll see each other, he wont reply as fast as he used to and then I just get a no.
Without an explanaiton or an "unfortunately" like he used to write or say before, at the beginning.
You know, am I so desperate to misjudge the signs? I knew this wasn't going anywhere but then he started doing stuff like a boyfriend and caring so much
doing stuff for me, showing his (and my) friends he was the guy by my side. I really don't get it. I didn't ask him to do it. Since I've suffered 4 years
because of a guy who didnt deserve me (and my own fault was I was idealizing him and wasting my time). SO for that not to happen again to me, I became very
cautious. I'm not in love with this actual guy but I thought I might like him alot in future. But since he is behaving like this I keep asking myself why me again.
Why is there no cute, sweet guy. I mean I'm not ugly, I'm funny, witty, smart, caring, I cry watching romantic or sad movies, yeah I can be a annoying too, I'm a woman for god's sake.
So why the hell is that always so, that I never meet a man who appreciates that? I know so many women like me, in the same situation. Are there any guys
who really want that kind of a woman and relationship? Or am I an idiot who watched too many Disney-movies.
Thanks for reading, please don't rip me off people.
Recently I've met a nice guy. We were hooked up by friends on a wedding.
First I thought he was very funny and he made me laugh with his jokes, his jokes were even including me, since I do like to laugh about myself it was ok
(I paid him back too ). So it was obvious we found each other attractive.
So, I directly talked to him about what I want; and I do want a relationship. He was honest and said that he was just out of a long term
relationship so he wouldn't want it go that far. That was fair to me.
Well, I admit, since he is very sexy to me, we had a good time two months long. But I was
really trying to keep a distance, but he was not. I admit I could have stoped him a little, but it felt so good anyhow.
He texted me from early in the morning till late in the night. We saw each other every day and we didn't
have sex each time. It was like being a couple. He invited me to the movies and going out with his friends. Then he was in conversations speaking about
trips we could do in a couple of months. Umm....well, I kinda thought: for a guy who is not interested in a relationship he is planning too much.
But I didn't say anything, I don't know why, I was like an observer of a development, like someone watching a science show. Of course I've found it cute, too.
Anyways, since he had much to do, he is a student (preparing for many exams) and moving into a new appartment which he has to renovate, he didn't pay much attention
to all when he has met me. But as I said, I didn't force him. I anyways went to my job the only thing I missed was doing my sports regularly.
But since a week or two he is very unfriendly, still making jokes (about me) but this time very mean ones. Ok, I thought, I get it, he wants to get rid of me.
So I ignored him and left him alone, because I don't need another a***ole guy in my life. I had them in the past. But he kept on calling, wanting me
to go to the movies with him. Then he was being nice and easygoing.
The day after he kept on making mean jokes. When I told him they weren't funny he apologized.
But now he is keeping the distance to me. When I text him asking when we'll see each other, he wont reply as fast as he used to and then I just get a no.
Without an explanaiton or an "unfortunately" like he used to write or say before, at the beginning.
You know, am I so desperate to misjudge the signs? I knew this wasn't going anywhere but then he started doing stuff like a boyfriend and caring so much
doing stuff for me, showing his (and my) friends he was the guy by my side. I really don't get it. I didn't ask him to do it. Since I've suffered 4 years
because of a guy who didnt deserve me (and my own fault was I was idealizing him and wasting my time). SO for that not to happen again to me, I became very
cautious. I'm not in love with this actual guy but I thought I might like him alot in future. But since he is behaving like this I keep asking myself why me again.
Why is there no cute, sweet guy. I mean I'm not ugly, I'm funny, witty, smart, caring, I cry watching romantic or sad movies, yeah I can be a annoying too, I'm a woman for god's sake.
So why the hell is that always so, that I never meet a man who appreciates that? I know so many women like me, in the same situation. Are there any guys
who really want that kind of a woman and relationship? Or am I an idiot who watched too many Disney-movies.
Thanks for reading, please don't rip me off people.