Hi lonelygirl,
I agree with you: I think you're right when you suggest what to do to meet people.
I want to tell you my situation:
sometimes I go out at night, with one or two friends - I haven't got many friends in my hometown. Now it's summer and there's quite a lot of ppl around at night. My hometown is a small city in the south of Italy. Every time I go out I find the same jerks which I was hanging with last year. They weren't true friends, and among them there's also the woman which I often talk about. She's the worst that i've met in my life: last year she always criticized those people when I was hanging out with them, refusing to meet them all, saying they are too young, too stupid to her (she's 31 and is not a genius but just a very attractive woman - those ppl are 4-5 years younger than her). When we split she immediately connected with them, hanging out with them every day. This caused my resentment from the very day she joined us: we had a violent quarrel, finally we even told each other "F**k yourself!" in front of those jerks which enjoyed the scene (they usually get pleasure from other's disgrace...). Now she's still hanging out with one or two of them. I wonder, is she insane or what? I'm happy they aren't my friends any longer - they've never been true friends and fortunately I could get easily rid of them.
These people are very mean in my opinion, even childish. And I've made my errors too: I should have never connected with them.
So, why I wrote all this? Because now this makes me feel so stupid (and I think I am indeed), so idiot that I don't even dare to look again a woman.
I know I should try to leave everything behind me, but it's so hard that I always fail.