I just thought I would say hello quickly, and skimp on the personal details as much as possible, I prefer not to write a detailed introduction as I tend to provide more information if/when I feel that I belong.
Just lurking for a few days and reading posts of interest here and there, I have noticed some things that could make-it-or-break-it in terms deciding to stay. I thought I would ask how things work, and whether the trends I've noticed are for real, or perhaps infrequent and unimportant as I'm hoping.
1) I've seen some posts, in particular from men who've shared frustration about "gettin' a girl," where the responses were essentially pessimistic. I would think this is a forum for support, not a place where it is encouraged that someone in pain should accept their problems and forget about hope.
2) I have also seen a lot of posts where the poster makes it a point about how accomplished he/she is. I'm not sure if that's because people like to counteract the negative perception of loneliness with the "but I'm so darn good in other ways!" or it's just this forum is full of accomplished people, or what. More to the point, I'm not accomplished in any way, and I wonder if that's acceptable. The very fact of my incredibly low productivity may be one of the biggest reasons for loneliness, among other issues caused by it.
All in all, many of the topics here--and the things I plan to discuss--are naturally difficult. I worry if there is some sort of "pecking order" in place that dictates who can dish "tough love" and who cannot. I think the best way to avoid the problems I have mentioned is for a supportive attitude to be in place, and I'm just not yet convinced that this is the operational rule here. I'm aware that the inherent crappiness of life means unpleasant things are said anyway, but by the same token, I'll admit I'm sensitive to criticism. I'm not sure this is the place for such a person.
Anyone?
Just lurking for a few days and reading posts of interest here and there, I have noticed some things that could make-it-or-break-it in terms deciding to stay. I thought I would ask how things work, and whether the trends I've noticed are for real, or perhaps infrequent and unimportant as I'm hoping.
1) I've seen some posts, in particular from men who've shared frustration about "gettin' a girl," where the responses were essentially pessimistic. I would think this is a forum for support, not a place where it is encouraged that someone in pain should accept their problems and forget about hope.
2) I have also seen a lot of posts where the poster makes it a point about how accomplished he/she is. I'm not sure if that's because people like to counteract the negative perception of loneliness with the "but I'm so darn good in other ways!" or it's just this forum is full of accomplished people, or what. More to the point, I'm not accomplished in any way, and I wonder if that's acceptable. The very fact of my incredibly low productivity may be one of the biggest reasons for loneliness, among other issues caused by it.
All in all, many of the topics here--and the things I plan to discuss--are naturally difficult. I worry if there is some sort of "pecking order" in place that dictates who can dish "tough love" and who cannot. I think the best way to avoid the problems I have mentioned is for a supportive attitude to be in place, and I'm just not yet convinced that this is the operational rule here. I'm aware that the inherent crappiness of life means unpleasant things are said anyway, but by the same token, I'll admit I'm sensitive to criticism. I'm not sure this is the place for such a person.
Anyone?