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Rammy
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Hi everyone, some of you may noticed me hovering around here occasionally commenting, even if I normally get to the thread a bit late well now I think it's time I asked for advice.
Apologies if this is incoherent, I just finished a 16hr shift and I'm a bit tired, so I may edit or amend what I'm trying to say later. While at work I had my question perfectly formed with everything I wanted to convey. But now....well we'll see.
So...a bit about me, I've lived on my own for a long time and have gone through quite a lot that I won't go into due to it's irrelevance to my topic. However, I tend to think I'm making progress and am quite positive in my outlook....most days Ive made a few friends at work and retained a few friendships for a while. I'm much more sociable than I used to be, though I clearly have some way to go.
Anyway, it's about a girl btw, I started to form a slightly closer friendship with a girl at work about 3-4 months ago. I also happened to get promoted at the same time and became her boss (yep you can see where this is going). So everything was normal, just two friends, for a while but I started to grow more fond of her until she went on holiday for two weeks. During this time I began to get more unhappy but I put it down to my increasing workload.
So last saturday she came back and although we had spoken to each other on Facebook while she was away, I felt a rush of feelings to see her again. My mood improved and I realised how attatched I was....but I was scared.
I don't feel ready for this, it's strange she makes me happy but in turn I feel I must keep my distance. I'd like to tell her how I feel, to let her know that she brightens my day and remains in my thoughts on the days I don't see her. To tell her how beautiful she is and how great she makes me feel about myself....you get the picture. But I can't, i'm afraid of losing a friend.
So that's it in a (very long) nutshell I may have left something out but even though I'm fine with speaking to women but for the first time I'm actually avoiding her, probably sending the message that she's done something wrong. So, should I tell her? I could probably man up and say it....I hope.... If I even knew what to say (see I'm a bit lost here) She knows I like her, but she doesn't know how much (I know being her boss puts another angle on things too)
anyway, thanks if anyone read my slightly long post.
Ps I'm not 17 tho it may seem that way I'm 27 and know that this is not a lifeshattering problem but still.........
Ps I may have started this thread in the wrong section, if so I'm sorry, won't happen again.
Apologies if this is incoherent, I just finished a 16hr shift and I'm a bit tired, so I may edit or amend what I'm trying to say later. While at work I had my question perfectly formed with everything I wanted to convey. But now....well we'll see.
So...a bit about me, I've lived on my own for a long time and have gone through quite a lot that I won't go into due to it's irrelevance to my topic. However, I tend to think I'm making progress and am quite positive in my outlook....most days Ive made a few friends at work and retained a few friendships for a while. I'm much more sociable than I used to be, though I clearly have some way to go.
Anyway, it's about a girl btw, I started to form a slightly closer friendship with a girl at work about 3-4 months ago. I also happened to get promoted at the same time and became her boss (yep you can see where this is going). So everything was normal, just two friends, for a while but I started to grow more fond of her until she went on holiday for two weeks. During this time I began to get more unhappy but I put it down to my increasing workload.
So last saturday she came back and although we had spoken to each other on Facebook while she was away, I felt a rush of feelings to see her again. My mood improved and I realised how attatched I was....but I was scared.
I don't feel ready for this, it's strange she makes me happy but in turn I feel I must keep my distance. I'd like to tell her how I feel, to let her know that she brightens my day and remains in my thoughts on the days I don't see her. To tell her how beautiful she is and how great she makes me feel about myself....you get the picture. But I can't, i'm afraid of losing a friend.
So that's it in a (very long) nutshell I may have left something out but even though I'm fine with speaking to women but for the first time I'm actually avoiding her, probably sending the message that she's done something wrong. So, should I tell her? I could probably man up and say it....I hope.... If I even knew what to say (see I'm a bit lost here) She knows I like her, but she doesn't know how much (I know being her boss puts another angle on things too)
anyway, thanks if anyone read my slightly long post.
Ps I'm not 17 tho it may seem that way I'm 27 and know that this is not a lifeshattering problem but still.........
Ps I may have started this thread in the wrong section, if so I'm sorry, won't happen again.