Online dating

[TheWalkingDead]

Can't say it's very easy for me (female) to meet people. I get out, joined hobby clubs, volunteer, travel no guys ever approach me at anytime. I talk with people when I'm out but most of the time the man has a ring or says my girlfriend... Just went to a zombiewalk on Saturday the guys there were part of couples.

it's the same for some women as well.

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Actually I have known men who for whatever reason find sex incredibly easy to come by - sex we are talking, women are like moths to a flame to these men in certain situations such as hookup joints, clubs etc...

I guess it depends on what the concept of dating is.

I remember watching Porn: a Family business where Seymour butts was trying to find a date, he had sex in abundance whenever he wanted really, through his work, but it was more a barrier to a more emotionally intimate kind of relationship.

a lot of men bullshit about how much they get.

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That is true, but I was speaking of direct observations, I guess the bloke in particular I mean who would always leave with different women before the night was through, usually already half undressed - I guess he could have been bullshitting, but I don't think so!

There are also plenty of men who have 4-5 kids all with different women, these guys presumably also find sex quite easy to come by! You'd think the 3rd, 4th and 5th women would have more sense realising the guy has already run out on several mothers to his kids, but no, seemingly, unless they lie I guess :club:

 

[Batman55]

That statement is probably the biggest load of crap I have ever read on here !

Aye, I think it's a common view for confident men, perhaps, but for *most* guys I'd say that does not reflect reality.

 

[ardour]

Aye, I think it's a common view for confident men, perhaps, but for *most* guys I'd say that does not reflect reality.

So far from reality that I couldn't even fantasize about it.

 

[SofiasMami]

I just read a story on National Public Radio today about a British online dating company that was fined for fraud as they made fake profiles to lure guys in to paying for their subscriptions. They would have a free trial period and then throw out messages from fake women who seemingly matched the men but you couldn't read the "messages" unless you converted to a paid subscription. Ridiculous!

I tried online dating a few years back and met about 15 or so guys. No hanky-panky or anything, most were just one-time dates. A few I thought there was some chemistry but nothing panned out. On a lark, I changed one of my profiles to "atheist" (which I really am but I say agnostic because Americans tend to have a hugely negative reaction when they hear that word so they need to be eased into the idea of a regular person being an atheist) and met someone who responded because I put atheist. He was a former TV reporter and seemed interesting but not interested!

One must have an extremely thick skin to date online. Anyone who does it will face a lot of rejection, even though the pretty ads on TV for these sites seem to say otherwise.
So no more dating for this lady but who knows, when my kiddo gets older, maybe I'll have a momentary lapse of reason and sign up for some more punishment.

-Teresa

 

[Triple Bogey]

I just read a story on National Public Radio today about a British online dating company that was fined for fraud as they made fake profiles to lure guys in to paying for their subscriptions. They would have a free trial period and then throw out messages from fake women who seemingly matched the men but you couldn't read the "messages" unless you converted to a paid subscription. Ridiculous!

I tried online dating a few years back and met about 15 or so guys. No hanky-panky or anything, most were just one-time dates. A few I thought there was some chemistry but nothing panned out. On a lark, I changed one of my profiles to "atheist" (which I really am but I say agnostic because Americans tend to have a hugely negative reaction when they hear that word so they need to be eased into the idea of a regular person being an atheist) and met someone who responded because I put atheist. He was a former TV reporter and seemed interesting but not interested!

One must have an extremely thick skin to date online. Anyone who does it will face a lot of rejection, even though the pretty ads on TV for these sites seem to say otherwise.
So no more dating for this lady but who knows, when my kiddo gets older, maybe I'll have a momentary lapse of reason and sign up for some more punishment.

-Teresa

the fake women you mention is exactly what goes on !

 

[TheWalkingDead]

I just read a story on National Public Radio today about a British online dating company that was fined for fraud as they made fake profiles to lure guys in to paying for their subscriptions. They would have a free trial period and then throw out messages from fake women who seemingly matched the men but you couldn't read the "messages" unless you converted to a paid subscription. Ridiculous!

I tried online dating a few years back and met about 15 or so guys. No hanky-panky or anything, most were just one-time dates. A few I thought there was some chemistry but nothing panned out. On a lark, I changed one of my profiles to "atheist" (which I really am but I say agnostic because Americans tend to have a hugely negative reaction when they hear that word so they need to be eased into the idea of a regular person being an atheist) and met someone who responded because I put atheist. He was a former TV reporter and seemed interesting but not interested!

One must have an extremely thick skin to date online. Anyone who does it will face a lot of rejection, even though the pretty ads on TV for these sites seem to say otherwise.
So no more dating for this lady but who knows, when my kiddo gets older, maybe I'll have a momentary lapse of reason and sign up for some more punishment.

-Teresa

the fake women you mention is exactly what goes on !

They had fake guys as well, I knew someone who was on a trial and then got a message from a guy saying he was the owner of the dating site, and her profile had stood out so much that he had to message her himself. So she signed up, and guess what after a few more messages the guy vanished. I told her it was ridiculous from the start but her loneliness made her vulnerable to that kind of play. I bet a lot of other women got exactly the same message. And I did hear that one dating company had a full time team of 15 people whose job it was to hook people in by sending messages back and forth.

It's one thing having a few fake pictures and profiles to make a site look busier than it is, but that kind of deception with vulnerable and lonely people (men or women) is just criminal. And of course in the end people will shun online dating sites because of this fakery - or you would think so but apparently business is booming

 

[jjam]

It would be nice to see people organize to ABOLISH online dating.

 

[TheLonelyNomad]

I just wanted to add my 2-cents to this thread.

First of all, avoid dating websites such as Zoosk.

That dating website is full of fake accounts, and a lot of the women on that dating site are single moms with two or more kids from a previous relationship.

Match.com and E-harmony.com are not good either. I only met two girls, one from each of these two dating websites, and nothing turned out good. One of the girl was visiting the city I used to live in, and basically was a gold-digger who made me pay for her dinner, lunch, and made me drive her back to the airport. I thought we were going to stay in contact with each other. Turned out that she never even bothered to return my text messages, voice mails, emails. Screw her.

Then the second girl, our relationship only lasted two weeks. We were definitely not "compatible" as the CEO of E-harmony.com states his website's software is promoting to do.

I have not tried PlentyofFish yet.

OKCupid.....so far, I have NOT had any luck.

Only girls who find me attractive. But when I send these girls a message, none of them respond to my messages.

Overall, online dating is a scam, or maybe it's just that i am fugly and will not get a GF due to God's curse placed on me.

 

[Batman55]

It would be nice to see people organize to ABOLISH online dating.

I'm with you on this, my friend!

 

[African_weasel]

It would be nice to see people organize to ABOLISH online dating.

I'm with you on this, my friend!

Just let me try out tinder at least!

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I just read a story on National Public Radio today about a British online dating company that was fined for fraud as they made fake profiles to lure guys in to paying for their subscriptions. They would have a free trial period and then throw out messages from fake women who seemingly matched the men but you couldn't read the "messages" unless you converted to a paid subscription. Ridiculous!

I tried online dating a few years back and met about 15 or so guys. No hanky-panky or anything, most were just one-time dates. A few I thought there was some chemistry but nothing panned out. On a lark, I changed one of my profiles to "atheist" (which I really am but I say agnostic because Americans tend to have a hugely negative reaction when they hear that word so they need to be eased into the idea of a regular person being an atheist) and met someone who responded because I put atheist. He was a former TV reporter and seemed interesting but not interested!

One must have an extremely thick skin to date online. Anyone who does it will face a lot of rejection, even though the pretty ads on TV for these sites seem to say otherwise.
So no more dating for this lady but who knows, when my kiddo gets older, maybe I'll have a momentary lapse of reason and sign up for some more punishment.

-Teresa

The online dating must be desperate for money if they're resorting to scamming people. Zoosk also has fake profile bots as well. I got the same message from two different accounts.

I'm American and I am finding myself on the atheist side.(I don't believe in god) Many people use religion as an excuse for being a terrible and underachieving person. Overall it just depends on where you are.

I see that online dating gives you more of a choice in who to "date". But I could be wrong. I prefer real life for the most part.

 

[EveWasFramed]

...and a lot of the women on that dating site are single moms with two or more kids from a previous relationship.

What? Single moms aren't entitled to be there? Are they considered second class citizens? Does having brought a child into the world make them repulsive and something to turn your nose up at? Does it make them less valuable as human beings because they have a child/children to care for? Are they dirty in some way? Please - I'd like to know.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

...and a lot of the women on that dating site are single moms with two or more kids from a previous relationship.

What? Single moms aren't entitled to be there? Are they considered second class citizens? Does having brought a child into the world make them repulsive and something to turn your nose up at? Does it make them less valuable as human beings because they have a child/children to care for? Are they dirty in some way? Please - I'd like to know.

I was going to post the same thing - but I thought you'd be along to do so

There is a major irony in the "I don't want to be judged on dating sites, but while I'm here I'm going to judge every other group and individual on these sites" :club:

 

[EveWasFramed]

...and a lot of the women on that dating site are single moms with two or more kids from a previous relationship.

What? Single moms aren't entitled to be there? Are they considered second class citizens? Does having brought a child into the world make them repulsive and something to turn your nose up at? Does it make them less valuable as human beings because they have a child/children to care for? Are they dirty in some way? Please - I'd like to know.

I was going to post the same thing - but I thought you'd be along to do so

There is a major irony in the "I don't want to be judged on dating sites, but while I'm here I'm going to judge every other group and individual on these sites" :club:

We all have our buttons I guess.

 

[Batman55]

Just let me try out tinder at least!

How thick is your skin?

I haven't tried Tinder, but from what I know it is horrible, perhaps the most shallow dating site available.

 

[ardour]

...and a lot of the women on that dating site are single moms with two or more kids from a previous relationship.

What? Single moms aren't entitled to be there? Are they considered second class citizens? Does having brought a child into the world make them repulsive and something to turn your nose up at? Does it make them less valuable as human beings because they have a child/children to care for? Are they dirty in some way? Please - I'd like to know.

There's a perception that single mums are looking for someone to take on the provider role - maybe a guy they wouldn't have looked at twice when they were younger.

Yes, it's a nasty and unfair judgement (about single mothers), but not every man can cope with that, especially not those who have never had relationships before, with the prospect of suddenly finding themselves thrown in the deep end with a partner and her kids and little life experience to draw upon.

 

[VanillaCreme]

That's just a perception - not the truth in every case.

 

[EveWasFramed]

It's one thing not to prefer dating a woman with children, for whatever your reasons, but quite another thing entirely when single mothers are looked at as undesirable because they've been in relationships and had children. That's generally the natural course of a lot of relationships.
It doesn't mean single moms are looking for fathers for their children or financial support either.
I know not every man out there thinks this way, but the generalizations really piss me off.
As I said - it's ok if you aren't intresed in dating someone who already has a child, but to show DISDAIN for them because they've been living life already (relationships, children) is offensive and bigoted. It's not the preference that bothers me - it's the attitude.

But more on topic...most of the guys I went out with from the sites were fathers and a number of them were single fathers.

 

[Peaches]

hey, what about all that fuss about M(others) I(d) L (ike) to F(uck)?
guys say they love them, in magazines at least

 

[SofiasMami]

It's one thing not to prefer dating a woman with children, for whatever your reasons, but quite another thing entirely when single mothers are looked at as undesirable because they've been in relationships and had children. That's generally the natural course of a lot of relationships.
It doesn't mean single moms are looking for fathers for their children or financial support either.
I know not every man out there thinks this way, but the generalizations really piss me off.
As I said - it's ok if you aren't intresed in dating someone who already has a child, but to show DISDAIN for them because they've been living life already (relationships, children) is offensive and bigoted. It's not the preference that bothers me - it's the attitude.

But more on topic...most of the guys I went out with from the sites were fathers and a number of them were single fathers.

I noticed that comment about single mothers too lol. I suppose if you're in your 20s, you have the luxury of not dating someone with children if you choose. But once you get past 35 or so, if you decide you won't date anyone with single mothers or fathers or if kids are just "baggage" to you, you've wiped out about 95% of the single population (male and female). Every man I met online had kids of varying ages.

-Teresa

-Teresa

 

[ardour]

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