Only child or had siblings?

[A new life]

Please see poll above.

I grew up as an only child and never wanted siblings
because all of my friends who had them, were always fighting with them.

But now that I've got one foot in the grave
and the other on a banana peel (only a joke, I think)
I wish that I had grown up with siblings because I
think I would have been better socialized.

I'm not lonely at all when I'm by myself
but really do some first class suffering when
people are around and want nothing to do with me.
I really do feel invisible.

Please vote in the poll above.

Edit:
Yes I know I haven't entered enough options, just do the best you can.

 

[Kathy]

None of your poll questions work for me.
I grew up with siblings. I don't wish I'd grown up an only child. But I do wish I'd grown up with nice siblings. Four older and meaner brothers.

 

[A new life]

None of your poll questions work for me.
I grew up with siblings. I don't wish I'd grown up an only child. But I do wish I'd grown up with nice siblings. Four older and meaner brothers.

There are not enough poll questions in the universe to cover all contingencies.
So we do the best we can by answering like you did.

Sorry about the older and meaner brothers.
Like I said, my friends all constantly argued with their siblings.
I guess real life is not like the Brady Bunch.
****!

 

[spaghettigirl]

hi a new life,
i have two sisters and one brother.

i must say i am glad i have them. it always felt like a crowd in the house. and yes, there's a lot of fighting that goes on, i think it's pretty much inevitable seen that each one of them is likely to different personalities, and because of sibling rivalries, and perceived preferential treatment from parents. but these usually ease off with the years, and i think that with a lot of efforts and hard work siblings can become really good friends.

and it's true, there is a lot to learn from these family situations that can later on help in social situations.

and im sorry you feel this way.

 

[Catcher]

I have 3 siblings and it's a mix between glad and wishing I was a only child. They all bug me on some level sometimes, but I still love them. I'm only really close with my older sister though. We used to fight like cats and dogs when we were younger and only started bonding and getting along during our later teen years.

I don't feel better socialized because I have siblings though. It's easy to be myself and act like a doofus in front of them, but I'm still shy and socially awkward with the rest of the population.

Having siblings can help with loneliness though if you appreciate that they're always around

 

[Ghost Boy]

I'm actually a weird exception. I am an only child of my parents marriage and I do have siblings from my parents previous marriages. I never really grew up with them because they were already grown and living with their families in another state. The only time when I came close with living with a sibling was when my brother from my father's side came to visit for the summer. I do wish I grew up with them. Maybe they could of helped me with my social life.

 

[A new life]

hi a new life,
i have two sisters and one brother.

i must say i am glad i have them. it always felt like a crowd in the house. and yes, there's a lot of fighting that goes on, i think it's pretty much inevitable seen that each one of them is likely to different personalities, and because of sibling rivalries, and perceived preferential treatment from parents. but these usually ease off with the years, and i think that with a lot of efforts and hard work siblings can become really good friends.

and it's true, there is a lot to learn from these family situations that can later on help in social situations.

and im sorry you feel this way.

Oh well we must play the cards we're dealt.

P.S.
Mom always liked you best!

 

[paulo]

i have 3 sisters.
lots of females in the house when i grew up

 

[Bread]

Two brothers, one sister. Didn't really get along well with my younger brother, but my older brother is the closest family member I have. I have somewhat lukewarm relations with my sister, but we've been building bridges somewhat in the last few years.

 

[Sci-Fi]

There are times I wish I was an only child, sometimes I want to beat the living crap out of my brother. We're twins so growing up we had the same toys and always had someone else to play with.

 

[I'm Fine]

I love my brother to pieces (he's older than me) despite him being an annoying <insert appropriate adjective here>. I don't think siblings DO always help you learn to socialise. Mine didn't. And it's not because he can't socialise because he can - he's one of those people that everybody likes - somehow it just didn't rub off on me.

Technically I've also got 3 step-sisters and a step-brother but since they were grown up (with kids of their own) when my mum married their dad and I was about 18ish myself, they didn't bother trying to integrate me (or my mum) into their families. Actually they barely saw their dad anyway so I tend to forget about them.

 

[Firefly]

I'm an only child and I've always hated it. I remember when I was a kid, nagging my parents for a brother/sister !
I would love to have a sibling to spend time with, share things with etc

 

[Ender]

I'm the oldest of the three brothers and I honestly wouldn't change a thing.
Actually, my brothers were and are some of the best friends I've ever had. They are some of the only folks I feel comfortable talking to for advice.

One of my brothers has also never been on a date/in a relationship and has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (and has depression). While being alone does not bother me as much as him, it's nice to have someone in a similar situation to talk to. If I was an only child, I would probably be in a much worse position...

 

[WishingWell]

I am the oldest of 3. My Sister is 4 years younger, and my Brother is 7 years younger. Growing up my Sister and I were best friends and spent a lot of time together. Since she married and had kids, we drifted apart. Now we live in separate apartments in the same house, but don't have much in common. I never really got to know my Brother much. I got married at 19, and he was only 12 at the time. We don't have much in common either.

Come to think of it, I don't think anyone would believe, outside of resembling each other physically, that we were born of the same parents. We are so different in every which way you could possibly think of!

 

[Peter Lorre]

I'm an only child. I've always wanted siblings, but I've never gotten them.

 

[floffyschneeman]

I have two older sisters, an older brother and one younger.They are my oldest and probably my closest friends. As we were never rich, we always have to share. Being the youngest girl, I was always last of the hand-me-down line. Of course it pissed me off before but not to a point that I wished I was an only child. I love them and I would protect them to death.

 

[flaneur]

I have a young brother. He's fine.

I also have younger sister, whom I abhor with every fiber of my being. She's only one year younger than me but she's still an immature child, the type to get a rush from being rebellious (leading to multiple arrests). She's also very well aware that she's the bad seed of the family, which has lead her to try to slander me out of jealousy at every opportunity, a problem compounded by the fact that my family is oblivious enough to fall for her tricks. I'm not going to compromise my peace in order to compete or play head games with her, but her very presence can be infuriating. The best I can do is refuse to speak to her, a silence I've happily kept up for at least 2 years.

 

[Okiedokes]

I have a sibling (older sister) and while we didn't always get along, we had some great times doing things together despite 8 year age gap. It has only gotten better as we aged. I miss her and being able to see her on a regular basis...

 

[Sterling]

I'm the youngest of three. Older half brother and older sister. I wish it could have just been the older brother though.

 

[Gutted]

This is something that I could never answer properly. I have 2 older brothers. 1 of which I get on with and one of which made life incredibly hard for me when I was younger. I haven't seen that one in years. Because of this, I can't say weather I'd prefer siblings or not as it would depend on the sibling.