Ruthie
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First, this is not directed toward anyone on the forum at all.
Have you ever felt pressured when someone begins asking you personal questions that you don't wish to answer?
I wish I could be clear about my boundaries with others without sending them a negative, rude or unfriendly vibe.
I've been hurt so badly, traumatised even, and I fear most people.
They have no way of knowing that I feel fright when they begin asking me personal things in probably an innocent and friendly way, and it's unfair to think they could. They can't possibly know how fragile I am and I don't want to tell them. They may want nothing to do with me then and I'll still be lonely, and feel even worse.
They can't help it that I've been hurt (I'm not talking about romantically), and they have no way of knowing my needs in that area.
What can I do? How can I even hope to have friends if I feel uncomfortable with personal questions?
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation or felt similar to this? And did you ever come to terms with how best to handle it?
Thank you for reading.
Have you ever felt pressured when someone begins asking you personal questions that you don't wish to answer?
I wish I could be clear about my boundaries with others without sending them a negative, rude or unfriendly vibe.
I've been hurt so badly, traumatised even, and I fear most people.
They have no way of knowing that I feel fright when they begin asking me personal things in probably an innocent and friendly way, and it's unfair to think they could. They can't possibly know how fragile I am and I don't want to tell them. They may want nothing to do with me then and I'll still be lonely, and feel even worse.
They can't help it that I've been hurt (I'm not talking about romantically), and they have no way of knowing my needs in that area.
What can I do? How can I even hope to have friends if I feel uncomfortable with personal questions?
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation or felt similar to this? And did you ever come to terms with how best to handle it?
Thank you for reading.