I've a female friend who spends hours round my house, I look after her dog for her while she works, cook for her etc. She works unsociable hours as a nurse so drops in at any time of night (I have bad insomnia at the moment anyway). We will normally end up cuddled up under a duvet watching a film. However, she has absolutely no interest in a relationship with anyone at the moment and hasn't for a couple of years (she hasn't since she split with her ex a couple of years ago). We used to go out and regularly have a drunken kiss and then pass out on the couch together before I met my now ex. Now I'm single again she is back on the scene. She is very good looking, great fun to be with and I think the world of her but I sort of know that we have become such good friends that it makes it less likely we will get together and the really odd thing is I'm ok with that! I'd say I have a crush on her at most and she takes my mind off my ex, but I do wonder why I'm not falling hopelessly in love with her, its a relief really.
So I'm happy to live with just being friends generally, although she was sat round mine last night eating my food and wearing one of my tops and generally just looking stunning, it just struck me as weird that we act like a couple on so many levels. I'm the only male her dog doesn't growl at and she will only sit on my lap when we're watching the telly together, dogs have great intuition!
In can get confusing though, I've got quite close to one of her friends but she is engaged but I have turned her head apparently and My friend thanked me for having enough principles and not taking advantage when we were all out. I do get on very well with her friend and when I said well "she's my favourite new person but I think I can restrain myself" she said 'Oh Thanks!' I asked "is that a hint of jealousy" and she said "yes of course". To which I said something like "you're my favourite person, she is my favourite new person get it?" and she smiled and said "Hmm I suppose so". Moments like that do made me wonder a bit, but I'll never pretend to understand fully what a woman is thinking!
Anyway Dunno what my point is, its all a bit of a distraction to me but just what I need right now. Part of me wants more from her, but I know what we do have is very important to me too. I get a female perspective, someone to care about and hang out with and has been the one person who has helped me take my mind of splitting with my ex (who never liked her anyway which is also sort of satisfying ha!).
So yeah my point is having a close female friend who cares about you should not be underrated, it might be short of what you really want and can definitely at times be a little confusing, but if they were not around at all and you have no female friends in your life, it would be a poorer one. If you can show to yourself that women can trust you and value your friendship you know you are heading in the right direction to meeting the right person.
