Questions for the Women

[ardour]

You're just so cute, sorry I cant take it

Nah I had nothing worth saying. Not being left alone in public sucks, you're right. I get annoyed at that evangelical preacher out in the park ruining my lunchbreak.

 

[TheRealCallie]

So, I have a question it's not about dating or relationships it is more for analyzing what a women's perspective on this matter is.

My questions to the women are:

When you meet a man I real life and he builds up the courage to speak with you, what is going through your mind?

Do you automatically think (hey this guy is trying to hit on me) and respond to him quick stating your intentions?

Do you allow him to speak and try to make your decision about his intentions after he is done, or do you cut him off if he is boring?

Do you lie and say you have a boyfriend to throw him off?

Do you flirt with him to make him feel good or feel like he has a shot (when you have no intention of dating him?)

What if he is talking to you simply to engage in conversation, or is looking for friendship do you put him on a trail period?

Do you entertain this notion of friendship and give him your number or tell him you will see him around?

Do you judge the man on his appearance, or do you judge him on his actions?

There are more questions I have but this I feel is the top ones that come to my mind since the thread asks if we the (men) have a question for you the (women) these are genuine questions and would help me a lot if you would entertain these topics any one of them or all if you like, thank you for your time.

What enters my mind is entirely dependent on the person and the situation. It can't be a one size fits all scenario because everyone is different and every situation is different. Like if a guy walks up to me in a bar, it will have an entirely different meaning than if a guy were to walk up to me at a school.

I generally don't dismiss anyone unless they are extremely overbearing or obnoxious. If you come up to me all arrogant, there's a good chance I'm going to walk away. I don't have time for that honeysuckle. But, if you are polite and civilized, I will likely stand there and talk/listen. Little to no judgment on appearance. What's the point, for all I know, the dude is going to ask for directions. Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words for me, so they will always have more power than words on me and determining what kind of person you are.

I don't generally assume. I can't possibly know what he's thinking, but if there are clues, maybe. I don't use the boyfriend excuse. However, going back to the obnoxious overbearing guy, I DO use the husband excuse. It's not a lie, I do have one.....he just lives with his girlfriend.
Trial period? I suppose everything in life has a trial period, but I don't really put it that way when dealing with relationship (platonic or otherwise). I would put it more like getting to know him better.

 

[Bam111]

What enters my mind is entirely dependent on the person and the situation. It can't be a one size fits all scenario because everyone is different and every situation is different. Like if a guy walks up to me in a bar, it will have an entirely different meaning than if a guy were to walk up to me at a school.

I generally don't dismiss anyone unless they are extremely overbearing or obnoxious. If you come up to me all arrogant, there's a good chance I'm going to walk away. I don't have time for that honeysuckle. But, if you are polite and civilized, I will likely stand there and talk/listen. Little to no judgment on appearance. What's the point, for all I know, the dude is going to ask for directions. Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words for me, so they will always have more power than words on me and determining what kind of person you are.

I don't generally assume. I can't possibly know what he's thinking, but if there are clues, maybe. I don't use the boyfriend excuse. However, going back to the obnoxious overbearing guy, I DO use the husband excuse. It's not a lie, I do have one.....he just lives with his girlfriend.
Trial period? I suppose everything in life has a trial period, but I don't really put it that way when dealing with relationship (platonic or otherwise). I would put it more like getting to know him better.

thank you for answering some of my questions, I would like to compare some of these to other women's perspectives I that you 2 for sharing your insight with me.

 

[user 139760]

What enters my mind is entirely dependent on the person and the situation. It can't be a one size fits all scenario because everyone is different and every situation is different. Like if a guy walks up to me in a bar, it will have an entirely different meaning than if a guy were to walk up to me at a school.

I generally don't dismiss anyone unless they are extremely overbearing or obnoxious. If you come up to me all arrogant, there's a good chance I'm going to walk away. I don't have time for that honeysuckle. But, if you are polite and civilized, I will likely stand there and talk/listen. Little to no judgment on appearance. What's the point, for all I know, the dude is going to ask for directions. Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words for me, so they will always have more power than words on me and determining what kind of person you are.

I don't generally assume. I can't possibly know what he's thinking, but if there are clues, maybe. I don't use the boyfriend excuse. However, going back to the obnoxious overbearing guy, I DO use the husband excuse. It's not a lie, I do have one.....he just lives with his girlfriend.
Trial period? I suppose everything in life has a trial period, but I don't really put it that way when dealing with relationship (platonic or otherwise). I would put it more like getting to know him better.

...Can I have your number?

 

[Bam111]

...Can I have your number?

Poprocks take a number to get a number lol joking

 

[TheRealCallie]

...Can I have your number?

Sure.

867-5309

 

[user 139760]

Sure.

867-5309

...you want fries with the pizza that'll order?

 

[4No1]

So, I have a question it's not about dating or relationships it is more for analyzing what a women's perspective on this matter is.

My questions to the women are:

When you meet a man I real life and he builds up the courage to speak with you, what is going through your mind?

Do you automatically think (hey this guy is trying to hit on me) and respond to him quick stating your intentions?

Do you allow him to speak and try to make your decision about his intentions after he is done, or do you cut him off if he is boring?

Do you lie and say you have a boyfriend to throw him off?

Do you flirt with him to make him feel good or feel like he has a shot (when you have no intention of dating him?)

What if he is talking to you simply to engage in conversation, or is looking for friendship do you put him on a trail period?

Do you entertain this notion of friendship and give him your number or tell him you will see him around?

Do you judge the man on his appearance, or do you judge him on his actions?

There are more questions I have but this I feel is the top ones that come to my mind since the thread asks if we the (men) have a question for you the (women) these are genuine questions and would help me a lot if you would entertain these topics any one of them or all if you like, thank you for your time.

I'm not a woman men like so I don't think he has some romantic intentions.

0. I'd be suprised. I always am when people speak to me.

1. Absolutely not

2. Allow to speak if it's smth meaningfull how else would I know what he's going to say. But if he's drunk/a teen who wants to make some fun/a seller or smth like this, I go away

3. I try not to interrupt people if they are polite and not agressive. And if I'm not in a hurry as I won't miss my train for a man, I've never seen before.

4. Only if he is a threat and I'm afraid of a physical abuse. If a man tells me he want to date me and I don't want, I tell him smth like "sorry but I don't feel so". I'd also prefer an honest answer from a man if I ask.

5. Not intentionally at least. The same answer as ^.

6. A trial period? )) I'd like to have a friend, so if I feel that we can be friends, I'd give it a try.

7. I give no number to people I don't know. I can add him in a social net or give my email if he likes so.

8. Both. I'd be aware of people in a durty(not that durty when smth happened or if he is with a big bag in a train returning from somewhere, I mean unwashed for ages) clothes for example.

In fact I don't think it's a big difference if a woman speaks to me, my algorithm is the same.

 

[Bam111]

I'm not a woman men like so I don't think he has some romantic intentions.

0. I'd be suprised. I always am when people speak to me.

1. Absolutely not

2. Allow to speak if it's smth meaningfull how else would I know what he's going to say. But if he's drunk/a teen who wants to make some fun/a seller or smth like this, I go away

3. I try not to interrupt people if they are polite and not agressive. And if I'm not in a hurry as I won't miss my train for a man, I've never seen before.

4. Only if he is a threat and I'm afraid of a physical abuse. If a man tells me he want to date me and I don't want, I tell him smth like "sorry but I don't feel so". I'd also prefer an honest answer from a man if I ask.

5. Not intentionally at least. The same answer as ^.

6. A trial period? )) I'd like to have a friend, so if I feel that we can be friends, I'd give it a try.

7. I give no number to people I don't know. I can add him in a social net or give my email if he likes so.

8. Both. I'd be aware of people in a durty(not that durty when smth happened or if he is with a big bag in a train returning from somewhere, I mean unwashed for ages) clothes for example.

In fact I don't think it's a big difference if a woman speaks to me, my algorithm is the same.

thank you so much for responding to my questions and taking the time to answer them you didnt have to answer them all and I appreciate you for it I am reading the information as we speak.

I read it and I am also re reading my questions to match your answers.

 

[Azariah]

Big boobs or big butt? Choose one.

 

[Bam111]

Big boobs or big butt? Choose one.

lmao sometimes you crack me up bro quick question for the Azariah why the hell did you stop playing your silly superpower game? that honeysuckle was looking super fun

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Big boobs or big butt? Choose one.

Big personality thats all men want, right?

 

[Claudia1794]

Can someone please tell me why no one talks about sex. Surely I am not the only female on here who has had a few complicated experiences that need to be discussed. If not then maybe someone can point me in the right direction. Maybe I'm just to dumb to realize that this is out of bounds. If so, someone can tell me. It will not hurt my feelings. I will not be offended. I seriously want to know has anyone else been through this situation and if so how long ago. Will it ever really go away?

 

[Finished]

Can someone please tell me why no one talks about sex. Surely I am not the only female on here who has had a few complicated experiences that need to be discussed. If not then maybe someone can point me in the right direction. Maybe I'm just to dumb to realize that this is out of bounds. If so, someone can tell me. It will not hurt my feelings. I will not be offended. I seriously want to know has anyone else been through this situation and if so how long ago. Will it ever really go away?

Are you talking about a back door blowout or like some kind of tea bag incident?

 

[Claudia1794]

Are you talking about a back door blowout or like some kind of tea bag incident?

Neither

 

[user 139760]

Can someone please tell me why no one talks about sex. Surely I am not the only female on here who has had a few complicated experiences that need to be discussed. If not then maybe someone can point me in the right direction. Maybe I'm just to dumb to realize that this is out of bounds. If so, someone can tell me. It will not hurt my feelings. I will not be offended. I seriously want to know has anyone else been through this situation and if so how long ago. Will it ever really go away?

Well, you can talk about sex, but, you know, as stated in the forum rules,
" This is an ALL AGES forum, so please keep that in mind when posting"
So I would imagine some things may be a bit out of bounds.
I guess a mod would have a better answer to that question.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I would imagine it's like Richard said. There have been people as young as 11 that I know of here, so it's just one of those things that you have to censor yourself. Maybe if you put it in code that we could still understand but a kid couldn't? You could also sneak into the chat room and discuss it, we have a room specifically for no one under 18 (no porn allowed, though).

 

[user 139760]

I would imagine it's like Richard said. There have been people as young as 11 that I know of here, so it's just one of those things that you have to censor yourself. Maybe if you put it in code that we could still understand but a kid couldn't? You could also sneak into the chat room and discuss it, we have a room specifically for no one under 18 (no porn allowed, though).

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[Bam111]

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[Claudia1794]

Well, you can talk about sex, but, you know, as stated in the forum rules,
" This is an ALL AGES forum, so please keep that in mind when posting"
So I would imagine some things may be a bit out of bounds.
I guess a mod would have a better answer to that question.

Thank you for the reply. I did read through the rules yesterday after reaching out.