Sexual Frustration...

[NewBirth]

Hi

I'm not going to answer this thread, because I know you guys won't take a girl seriously so I'm letting my boyfriend answer this thread

Here it is:
Hi Guys, well I think you really need to get out of these fixed ideas, otherwise you could lose out on meeting someone really nice who's right for you.. Yes a lot of guys out on a night tell me how lucky I am in a few seconds on how stunning my girlfriend is, and yes I do think she is VERY attractive, but what really keeps me turned on about her is the very fine new details I notice, and still learning about her after 2 years of our relationship. She is very deep and interesting to talk to, and we laugh so much sometimes, and at this point of the relationship, I find theres also little private jokes that would not make sense to anyone!! Don't get me wrong, its not easy either, as you get to know someone, you can have misunderstanding and conflicts, but as you develop together, you find more and more stuff you like and love about each other. OK I'll cut the long story short, but girls (and guys too) end up together based on an attraction which is barely based on physical looks. I'm sure you guys will find someone right for you if you forget and stop pidgeon-holing these ideas about women. We are all different and have our different stories. If a girl has been with 30, then maybe she has been through a hard time trying to find the right guy, or maybe she didn't want commitment, but that really is her choice, and if you were to come accross someone who has had more partners than you, just remember, they are choosing to be with you now. Thanks

P.s. Droplet again, just want to say that if you want an attractive girl who is not shallow then don't be such a hypocrite and be shallow yourself! An attractive girl who's not shallow will sniff out your shallowness and find it a real turn off! You need to treat human beings (and yes, that includes women) as human beings! RRrrant, LOL.

thats like so amazing. how ur bf types just like u. yall must b 2gether 4 a while 2 pick up each others speech patterns & everything. how i envy him. no matter how long i date a chick. i just never start talking like her or anything. itd b so cool 2. so i could post stuff 4 her. like hes done 4 u here

 

[NewBirth]

lol i have a feeling colette thinks all men r shallow pigs

I try not to make generalizations. Both men and women are capable of being shallow. Its a sign of insecurity and not a very attractive personality trait.

But this is not geared towards you two fine men. You seem to be very sweet.

this has me wondering if colettes in politics

 

[NewBirth]

i thought id just throw this in here 2. what a woman looks like doesnt matter 2 me. okay so w/1 exception. but wont get into that. the problem is personality. its very very hard 2 find a woman w/a decent personality anymore. i mean a real good personality. not just a good personality at 1st. then as soon as ur stuck on her. she takes the pitchfork or broom out the closet. i mean a real nice girl. whos really nice. & doesnt just pretend 2 b
2 ask 4 that girl 2 also b attractive would be like a huge tall order. i realize that. i used 2 date only fine looking women. but i got tired of their egos. the problem is that all women grow egos LoL as i date them though
thats my problem in a nutshell

 

[diamond-dancer]

I promise you when I find a nice, average, girl I will treat her as she should be treated and I will be a complete gentleman...

Hi Whoa.

I'm afraid I have to agree with Teach on this one.

If a guy was interested in me and I knew for a fact that he a) uses random girls for sex and/or b) lies to girls to get what he wants, I would run away very quickly.

There's nothing cool or fun about having no respect for women because they're not your "type".

Rather than becoming this great guy on the condition that you have to meet the right girl first, try becoming the great guy now. Women don't want loverats, and it will make you so much more attractive to them.

 

[Whoaisme]

Colette, I will be the first to admit I'm incredibly insecure... I don't know if it's a result of or a cause of my depression but I start therapy on Monday so I will have to bring that up

I have many issues from my childhood that basically shaped who I am and why I think the way I do. Add to that a family history of depression and you get the full picture.

Teach, on the issue of how long. Once I fall in love with the person then it won't matter what they look like anymore. Think of a wedding.. The groom will often make a remark that his bride is the most beautiful woman in the world. Does he really find her that attractive? I mean, how sad would it be if he, in reality, thought she's all I can get and I guess she's 'ok'. The mere thought that I might have to settle with something I never wanted in the first place scares me to death.

If you ask why I'm with these girls in the first place, it's because it sure beats being alone. I do have feelings for them, but I'm not head over heels in love. They say when you are in love that you know it. I can't honestly say I've ever been in love.

Diamond-Dancer... I wouldn't actually tell a girl about my past... that's crazy talk I've only had two major relationships... one for six years and one for six months... I'm probably going to get back together with the six month one even though I'm not fond of her. When I'm with her it hurts and when she's gone it hurts so I don't know what gives. She's really nice and has a pretty face.

 

[jales]

lol that was sum interesting reading..
that guy..yea i miss the physical stuff as well..we really need touch i guess...taking care of business yourself i guess yea...but at the end of the day we need someone to feel and to hug us and be intimate with and all that jazz... it's a part of loneliness (for the lonely and single that is). You will get through it though(married couples have been known to go that long without being together..so you'll be okay)...when you actually do get back out there though..lol that would be interesting. I dont know if anyone else worries that they will be too happy and make it ...seem weird. Anyway good luck that guy..n yea i know what you mean by missing physical stuff.
but i can only empathize..got no solutions

 

[Droplet]

Hi

I'm not going to answer this thread, because I know you guys won't take a girl seriously so I'm letting my boyfriend answer this thread

Here it is:
Hi Guys, well I think you really need to get out of these fixed ideas, otherwise you could lose out on meeting someone really nice who's right for you.. Yes a lot of guys out on a night tell me how lucky I am in a few seconds on how stunning my girlfriend is, and yes I do think she is VERY attractive, but what really keeps me turned on about her is the very fine new details I notice, and still learning about her after 2 years of our relationship. She is very deep and interesting to talk to, and we laugh so much sometimes, and at this point of the relationship, I find theres also little private jokes that would not make sense to anyone!! Don't get me wrong, its not easy either, as you get to know someone, you can have misunderstanding and conflicts, but as you develop together, you find more and more stuff you like and love about each other. OK I'll cut the long story short, but girls (and guys too) end up together based on an attraction which is barely based on physical looks. I'm sure you guys will find someone right for you if you forget and stop pidgeon-holing these ideas about women. We are all different and have our different stories. If a girl has been with 30, then maybe she has been through a hard time trying to find the right guy, or maybe she didn't want commitment, but that really is her choice, and if you were to come accross someone who has had more partners than you, just remember, they are choosing to be with you now. Thanks

P.s. Droplet again, just want to say that if you want an attractive girl who is not shallow then don't be such a hypocrite and be shallow yourself! An attractive girl who's not shallow will sniff out your shallowness and find it a real turn off! You need to treat human beings (and yes, that includes women) as human beings! RRrrant, LOL.

thats like so amazing. how ur bf types just like u. yall must b 2gether 4 a while 2 pick up each others speech patterns & everything. how i envy him. no matter how long i date a chick. i just never start talking like her or anything. itd b so cool 2. so i could post stuff 4 her. like hes done 4 u here

LOL, believe what you want. I was really cringing when he went on a brag fest about me, and I asked him if that really had anything to do with the topic, embarressing. Anyway, thank you for your complement, saying I write as good English as an Englishman is nice to know. I am Norwegian myself.. Anyway I hope you could get something out of his post, if not, then that's fine too

 

[NewBirth]

i wonder whatever happened 2 da original poster. do yall think hes out solving his problem LoLoL
maaaaaaaybe hell b bringing back some type of soluuuuuution. i could seriously use LoL that

 

[RogueTomato]

i wonder whatever happened 2 da original poster. do yall think hes out solving his problem LoLoL
maaaaaaaybe hell b bringing back some type of soluuuuuution. i could seriously use LoL that

I hope he brings one back soon. I need help. Desperately.

 

[mink]

i thought id just throw this in here 2. what a woman looks like doesnt matter 2 me. okay so w/1 exception. but wont get into that. the problem is personality. its very very hard 2 find a woman w/a decent personality anymore. i mean a real good personality. not just a good personality at 1st. then as soon as ur stuck on her. she takes the pitchfork or broom out the closet. i mean a real nice girl. whos really nice. & doesnt just pretend 2 b
2 ask 4 that girl 2 also b attractive would be like a huge tall order. i realize that. i used 2 date only fine looking women. but i got tired of their egos. the problem is that all women grow egos LoL as i date them though
thats my problem in a nutshell

It's just the same here on the women's side I guess. At least I think so, cos I'm almost done with guys cos I don't seem to see anymore out there who just have a decent personality. Just a normal person, you know? Even the nerds around here don't really act like nerds, it's so unreal. Oh and some men have such big gigantic egos that sometimes drives me up the walls. Not all though, I'm not stereotyping. I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, but it's still hard to find. What is all our problem? Lol..

 

[Colette]

this has me wondering if colettes in politics

Can't because the gov would be tapping my phones.

 

[NewBirth]

got news 4 u col... they already are LoL

 

[Colette]

got news 4 u col... they already are LoL

You're probably right because I'm a raging socialist. I'm waiting for the feds to knock down my door. This is why I need to live in Paris

 

[lonely2beeme]

It's just the same here on the women's side I guess. At least I think so, cos I'm almost done with guys cos I don't seem to see anymore out there who just have a decent personality. Just a normal person, you know? Even the nerds around here don't really act like nerds, it's so unreal. Oh and some men have such big gigantic egos that sometimes drives me up the walls. Not all though, I'm not stereotyping. I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, but it's still hard to find. What is all our problem? Lol..

i found when i stopped looking at the goodlooking guys and started accepting chats and dates with fat guys that i found alot of really nice men, i mean serious sweetys that once they get a decent looking chick they are so greatful they treat her soooooooo good .
i was surprised seriously , i kinda became a fan of all the typically things you find wrong with men
now with me a guy who has a chance is:

over 40 or bald
obese i mean .....very overweight
loves star wars/star trek geeks (basically 40yr old virgins)

these guys treat you so well its amazing and they have the patience of saints and usually financially secure

guys i dont date anymore:

extreamly good looking
younger than me
wrapped up in expensive cars and clothing,personal looks

these guys always break your heart and not worth thier trouble are worse at sex than they realize and always borrow money from you.....

anyway you have to look at yourself at what you can bring to a relationship and what that other person brings
if your a steroid drug user , who dates chicks for sex , cant stand the ugly or fat ones and battles depression you dont have a alot to offer the pretty normal girls , if she is overweight however with low self esteem , she might be willing to deal with ur problems if u deal with hers or if she is depressed also but pretty you would just become more depressed and insecure together and probably justify it as why you cheated on the other
its give and take in relationships, if ur a taker very few pretty girls with no hang ups will want what you seem to be offering, you should lower ur standards cause i found that if i gave a unattractive guy i wasent attracted to a chance , omg they are wonderful .......if i closed my eyes lol,......... as far as voice, job, personality and we talked for hours everyday, but nothing more than the feeling of best friends , sex i couldnt even think of it with this guy ewwwwww noooooooo way!
but then he felt me back off so he backed off one day and stopped chaseing even said to me "i dont have a chance with you"
i was surprised at how much i missed him, to the point of tears and it finally hit me .......omg i like him more than just a friend , yea i dont wanna see him nude ....thats for sure , but could we develope a relationship that was sexual , im sure we could!
again i may settle for closeing my eyes during but i will be with someone whos personality thrills me for hours and hours when we arent in bed , its a treade off im mature enough to realize needs to be made
unfortunately the reason those perfect people seem so rare is because perfect average people with perfect average lives and personalities dont exist very often , most all of us is lacking in some things and better in others , just gotta find someone who likes ur good things and can settle with ur bad things and u with thiers.
looks mean little after you enter your late 30's then its more aout a companion for the rest of your life, sex is just a bonus after you leave your 20s behind, choose the one who makes you happy emotionally all day , not the one who brings you joy but only in bed
finding both means you may pass up alot of good ones and you may be too old by time you find her and then she wont want to settle for that old guy lol
good luck anyway

 

[NewBirth]

got news 4 u col... they already are LoL

You're probably right because I'm a raging socialist. I'm waiting for the feds to knock down my door. This is why I need to live in Paris

yep. this makes no sense LoL. since the usa is socialist
all our phones r tapped. it has nothing 2 do w/political beliefs

 

[NewBirth]

It's just the same here on the women's side I guess. At least I think so, cos I'm almost done with guys cos I don't seem to see anymore out there who just have a decent personality. Just a normal person, you know? Even the nerds around here don't really act like nerds, it's so unreal. Oh and some men have such big gigantic egos that sometimes drives me up the walls. Not all though, I'm not stereotyping. I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, but it's still hard to find. What is all our problem? Lol..

i found when i stopped looking at the goodlooking guys and started accepting chats and dates with fat guys that i found alot of really nice men, i mean serious sweetys that once they get a decent looking chick they are so greatful they treat her soooooooo good .
i was surprised seriously , i kinda became a fan of all the typically things you find wrong with men
now with me a guy who has a chance is:

over 40 or bald
obese i mean .....very overweight
loves star wars/star trek geeks (basically 40yr old virgins)

these guys treat you so well its amazing and they have the patience of saints and usually financially secure

guys i dont date anymore:

extreamly good looking
younger than me
wrapped up in expensive cars and clothing,personal looks

these guys always break your heart and not worth thier trouble are worse at sex than they realize and always borrow money from you.....

anyway you have to look at yourself at what you can bring to a relationship and what that other person brings
if your a steroid drug user , who dates chicks for sex , cant stand the ugly or fat ones and battles depression you dont have a alot to offer the pretty normal girls , if she is overweight however with low self esteem , she might be willing to deal with ur problems if u deal with hers or if she is depressed also but pretty you would just become more depressed and insecure together and probably justify it as why you cheated on the other
its give and take in relationships, if ur a taker very few pretty girls with no hang ups will want what you seem to be offering, you should lower ur standards cause i found that if i gave a unattractive guy i wasent attracted to a chance , omg they are wonderful .......if i closed my eyes lol,......... as far as voice, job, personality and we talked for hours everyday, but nothing more than the feeling of best friends , sex i couldnt even think of it with this guy ewwwwww noooooooo way!
but then he felt me back off so he backed off one day and stopped chaseing even said to me "i dont have a chance with you"
i was surprised at how much i missed him, to the point of tears and it finally hit me .......omg i like him more than just a friend , yea i dont wanna see him nude ....thats for sure , but could we develope a relationship that was sexual , im sure we could!
again i may settle for closeing my eyes during but i will be with someone whos personality thrills me for hours and hours when we arent in bed , its a treade off im mature enough to realize needs to be made
unfortunately the reason those perfect people seem so rare is because perfect average people with perfect average lives and personalities dont exist very often , most all of us is lacking in some things and better in others , just gotta find someone who likes ur good things and can settle with ur bad things and u with thiers.
looks mean little after you enter your late 30's then its more aout a companion for the rest of your life, sex is just a bonus after you leave your 20s behind, choose the one who makes you happy emotionally all day , not the one who brings you joy but only in bed
finding both means you may pass up alot of good ones and you may be too old by time you find her and then she wont want to settle for that old guy lol
good luck anyway

i sure wouldnt wanna b the guy whos girl cant even stand 2 look @ him nekkid. ooooooooh big turn off there

 

[Colette]

got news 4 u col... they already are LoL

You're probably right because I'm a raging socialist. I'm waiting for the feds to knock down my door. This is why I need to live in Paris

yep. this makes no sense LoL. since the usa is socialist
all our phones r tapped. it has nothing 2 do w/political beliefs

The U.S.A. is socialist? Since when? All we have here are some poser socialists and they go by the name of democrats.

 

[Colette]

Yes but again we are making assumptions based on looks. You're saying that goodlooking men are shallow and fat or ugly men aren't. That isn't the case.

It's just the same here on the women's side I guess. At least I think so, cos I'm almost done with guys cos I don't seem to see anymore out there who just have a decent personality. Just a normal person, you know? Even the nerds around here don't really act like nerds, it's so unreal. Oh and some men have such big gigantic egos that sometimes drives me up the walls. Not all though, I'm not stereotyping. I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, but it's still hard to find. What is all our problem? Lol..

i found when i stopped looking at the goodlooking guys and started accepting chats and dates with fat guys that i found alot of really nice men, i mean serious sweetys that once they get a decent looking chick they are so greatful they treat her soooooooo good .
i was surprised seriously , i kinda became a fan of all the typically things you find wrong with men
now with me a guy who has a chance is:

over 40 or bald
obese i mean .....very overweight
loves star wars/star trek geeks (basically 40yr old virgins)

these guys treat you so well its amazing and they have the patience of saints and usually financially secure

guys i dont date anymore:

extreamly good looking
younger than me
wrapped up in expensive cars and clothing,personal looks

these guys always break your heart and not worth thier trouble are worse at sex than they realize and always borrow money from you.....

anyway you have to look at yourself at what you can bring to a relationship and what that other person brings
if your a steroid drug user , who dates chicks for sex , cant stand the ugly or fat ones and battles depression you dont have a alot to offer the pretty normal girls , if she is overweight however with low self esteem , she might be willing to deal with ur problems if u deal with hers or if she is depressed also but pretty you would just become more depressed and insecure together and probably justify it as why you cheated on the other
its give and take in relationships, if ur a taker very few pretty girls with no hang ups will want what you seem to be offering, you should lower ur standards cause i found that if i gave a unattractive guy i wasent attracted to a chance , omg they are wonderful .......if i closed my eyes lol,......... as far as voice, job, personality and we talked for hours everyday, but nothing more than the feeling of best friends , sex i couldnt even think of it with this guy ewwwwww noooooooo way!
but then he felt me back off so he backed off one day and stopped chaseing even said to me "i dont have a chance with you"
i was surprised at how much i missed him, to the point of tears and it finally hit me .......omg i like him more than just a friend , yea i dont wanna see him nude ....thats for sure , but could we develope a relationship that was sexual , im sure we could!
again i may settle for closeing my eyes during but i will be with someone whos personality thrills me for hours and hours when we arent in bed , its a treade off im mature enough to realize needs to be made
unfortunately the reason those perfect people seem so rare is because perfect average people with perfect average lives and personalities dont exist very often , most all of us is lacking in some things and better in others , just gotta find someone who likes ur good things and can settle with ur bad things and u with thiers.
looks mean little after you enter your late 30's then its more aout a companion for the rest of your life, sex is just a bonus after you leave your 20s behind, choose the one who makes you happy emotionally all day , not the one who brings you joy but only in bed
finding both means you may pass up alot of good ones and you may be too old by time you find her and then she wont want to settle for that old guy lol
good luck anyway

i sure wouldnt wanna b the guy whos girl cant even stand 2 look @ him nekkid. ooooooooh big turn off there

 

[lonely2beeme]

nah not all good looking ones are shallow
and believe me some fat guys/ugly ones can be just as bad as pretty ones
just like i asked a guy who is 40 never been married why not? he said none of the girls he was interested in gave him a chance......i said did you try dateing single moms? he said no motherhood should be sacred , i told him they maybe mothers but they are also women the love from a child is different than that of a mate , they need love too.
so just like that there is alot of nice people available who seually or for whateer reasons are a turn off but given a chance they are great people you wouldnt have noticed before.........
but dateing people you are the least sexually interested in can turn out to be some of the better relationships
i would rather date somone i dont wanna see nakid who otherwise is a great person and deserves a good relationshipp regardless of thier looks than to date someone who turns me o sexually but i cant stand to hear a word they say outside of the bedroom
then again wen i was younger i made alot of the same stupid vain mistakes the younger kids do and well
marrying a vain shallow good looking man only caused me alot of heartache over the years cause they do cheat when the wife is pregnant and unappealing ........
but then again u boys are young , time will teach you lessons and pretty much from all the comments i read here
about females you guys got alot to learn still about alot of things

 

[NewBirth]

The U.S.A. is socialist? Since when? All we have here are some poser socialists and they go by the name of democrats.

yep. all u have 2 do is look at all our socialist programs. 2 know were socialist

Yes but again we are making assumptions based on looks. You're saying that goodlooking men are shallow and fat or ugly men aren't. That isn't the case.

It's just the same here on the women's side I guess. At least I think so, cos I'm almost done with guys cos I don't seem to see anymore out there who just have a decent personality. Just a normal person, you know? Even the nerds around here don't really act like nerds, it's so unreal. Oh and some men have such big gigantic egos that sometimes drives me up the walls. Not all though, I'm not stereotyping. I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, but it's still hard to find. What is all our problem? Lol..

i found when i stopped looking at the goodlooking guys and started accepting chats and dates with fat guys that i found alot of really nice men, i mean serious sweetys that once they get a decent looking chick they are so greatful they treat her soooooooo good .
i was surprised seriously , i kinda became a fan of all the typically things you find wrong with men
now with me a guy who has a chance is:

over 40 or bald
obese i mean .....very overweight
loves star wars/star trek geeks (basically 40yr old virgins)

these guys treat you so well its amazing and they have the patience of saints and usually financially secure

guys i dont date anymore:

extreamly good looking
younger than me
wrapped up in expensive cars and clothing,personal looks

these guys always break your heart and not worth thier trouble are worse at sex than they realize and always borrow money from you.....

anyway you have to look at yourself at what you can bring to a relationship and what that other person brings
if your a steroid drug user , who dates chicks for sex , cant stand the ugly or fat ones and battles depression you dont have a alot to offer the pretty normal girls , if she is overweight however with low self esteem , she might be willing to deal with ur problems if u deal with hers or if she is depressed also but pretty you would just become more depressed and insecure together and probably justify it as why you cheated on the other
its give and take in relationships, if ur a taker very few pretty girls with no hang ups will want what you seem to be offering, you should lower ur standards cause i found that if i gave a unattractive guy i wasent attracted to a chance , omg they are wonderful .......if i closed my eyes lol,......... as far as voice, job, personality and we talked for hours everyday, but nothing more than the feeling of best friends , sex i couldnt even think of it with this guy ewwwwww noooooooo way!
but then he felt me back off so he backed off one day and stopped chaseing even said to me "i dont have a chance with you"
i was surprised at how much i missed him, to the point of tears and it finally hit me .......omg i like him more than just a friend , yea i dont wanna see him nude ....thats for sure , but could we develope a relationship that was sexual , im sure we could!
again i may settle for closeing my eyes during but i will be with someone whos personality thrills me for hours and hours when we arent in bed , its a treade off im mature enough to realize needs to be made
unfortunately the reason those perfect people seem so rare is because perfect average people with perfect average lives and personalities dont exist very often , most all of us is lacking in some things and better in others , just gotta find someone who likes ur good things and can settle with ur bad things and u with thiers.
looks mean little after you enter your late 30's then its more aout a companion for the rest of your life, sex is just a bonus after you leave your 20s behind, choose the one who makes you happy emotionally all day , not the one who brings you joy but only in bed
finding both means you may pass up alot of good ones and you may be too old by time you find her and then she wont want to settle for that old guy lol
good luck anyway

i sure wouldnt wanna b the guy whos girl cant even stand 2 look @ him nekkid. ooooooooh big turn off there

y was my text included in this LoL
but since it was.......
if ppl wanna make assumptions based on looks. thats their right. what works 4 1. cant always work 4 everybody