sexually frustrated

[SolitarySol]

^ And you bake cakes as well, how on earth are you still single!!!!!

Maybe guys here don't like cakes? Lol nah... I'm a shy and reserved person living in a small town.

I am 30, a virgin, and very sexually frustrated. I don't know how to cure this.

I'm 32, not a virgin but sexually frustrated. Women in their 30s have CRAZY hormones! Once it got so bad I had to find ways to hook up with someone. I was lucky to find a guy who was fun and adventurous to have a fling with. But, that's soooo out of my character.

I'm not sure if this is an American culture thing. I'm from Southeast Asia and being virgin is not much of a big deal. Some of my friends are virgins til now (same age group). I was a virgin until I was 24. Yes, although I was sexually frustrated but it wasn't a big deal to me like now..... in my 30s. Sometimes I feel like a walking hormone. Being single doesn't help. I don't know how to cure this either.

Get a boyfriend?

There are many reasons why I don't. I'd rather have someone who is true to me than just to have someone to cure the loneliness.

 

[jzinsky]

I am 30, a virgin, and very sexually frustrated. I don't know how to cure this.

I'm 32, not a virgin but sexually frustrated. Women in their 30s have CRAZY hormones! Once it got so bad I had to find ways to hook up with someone. I was lucky to find a guy who was fun and adventurous to have a fling with. But, that's soooo out of my character.

I'm not sure if this is an American culture thing. I'm from Southeast Asia and being virgin is not much of a big deal. Some of my friends are virgins til now (same age group). I was a virgin until I was 24. Yes, although I was sexually frustrated but it wasn't a big deal to me like now..... in my 30s. Sometimes I feel like a walking hormone. Being single doesn't help. I don't know how to cure this either.

Get a boyfriend?

Oh my God, you make it sound so simple and obvious we'd have never seen that coming! It's like your mind's eye cuts through all the noise and just sees the unidirectional clarity shining like the path of enlightenment.

Hopefully the sarchasm will still be leaking out of your screen in a few weeks time... You, like a lot of other people I know, make it sound like you pick them up from a shop... Aisle 1: Sugar, flour, cake making. Aisle 2: Eggs, bread. Aisle 3: Boyfriends and "bit of fluff on the side" Aisle 4: Girlfriends and "psycho hose beasts"

 

[defenestrate]

Okay duff...

I don't know who you think your fooling... First you tell people it was the best thing in the world, that she clearly loves her job.
Then...
You proceed to inform us you already knew she was faking, and you aren't -that- daft.

Look, I've known a few navy and army veterans over the years. Many of them saw prostitutes while deployed and visited houses of ill-repute. One man jokes about it with his wife and neither of them seem to mind. But at least they're mature and honest with themselves. Are you honest with yourself? She clearly loved her job? Really? Then why did you feel the need to point out you knew she was faking it all along? Because you didn't want to look daft? Isn't that a bit immature?

Prostitutes rarely enjoy the job. Why? Because it's degrading to be a slab of meat tossed around the block. They've probably made poor decisions in life, but that doesn't mean they enjoy it. Johns are bad at performing. It isn't a hard concept. I only talked about the inexperienced Johns because I'm not sure what crossing the line will be. I'm familiar with a situation in which one prostitute had a line of men with one entering the room right after the other. All of the sex was terrible. Why? Geez, I don't know. Maybe because Johns are only interested in satisfying themselves? Can you imagine somebody paying cash to make sure the person you bought off is safe, has fun, and enjoys the moment? Unlike prostitution, in a relationship with two consenting adults, both spouses have wants and needs and each person usually tries to have those needs met. Prostitutes on the other hand -do not- gain anything pleasurable from the job. They're the ones who have to desperately pleasure the man who bought them off while gaining nothing in return. They're not allowed to have wants and needs to be satisfied. So they do this all with the risk of being beaten, murdered, kidnapped and raped, and then typically gives away all of their money to avoid further brutalization. You don't need to prove to me that your 'not a quick knee tremble in some grotty bedsit' because it doesn't matter. She still wouldn't enjoy it. In fact it can be physically and emotionally painful. Not to mention dangerous for both of you.

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Please don't break the law. I strongly implore you to not do anything illegal. You don't seem the type to do well in prison.

 

[blackdot]

I honestly have no idea what the term "sexually frustrated" means.

But then as a 39 yo virgin, I don't know what sex is either. HA HA HA!

 

[duff]

Okay duff...

I don't know who you think your fooling... First you tell people it was the best thing in the world, that she clearly loves her job.
Then...
You proceed to inform us you already knew she was faking, and you aren't -that- daft.

Look, I've known a few navy and army veterans over the years. Many of them saw prostitutes while deployed and visited houses of ill-repute. One man jokes about it with his wife and neither of them seem to mind. But at least they're mature and honest with themselves. Are you honest with yourself? She clearly loved her job? Really? Then why did you feel the need to point out you knew she was faking it all along? Because you didn't want to look daft? Isn't that a bit immature?

Prostitutes rarely enjoy the job. Why? Because it's degrading to be a slab of meat tossed around the block. They've probably made poor decisions in life, but that doesn't mean they enjoy it. Johns are bad at performing. It isn't a hard concept. I only talked about the inexperienced Johns because I'm not sure what crossing the line will be. I'm familiar with a situation in which one prostitute had a line of men with one entering the room right after the other. All of the sex was terrible. Why? Geez, I don't know. Maybe because Johns are only interested in satisfying themselves? Can you imagine somebody paying cash to make sure the person you bought off is safe, has fun, and enjoys the moment? Unlike prostitution, in a relationship with two consenting adults, both spouses have wants and needs and each person usually tries to have those needs met. Prostitutes on the other hand -do not- gain anything pleasurable from the job. They're the ones who have to desperately pleasure the man who bought them off while gaining nothing in return. They're not allowed to have wants and needs to be satisfied. So they do this all with the risk of being beaten, murdered, kidnapped and raped, and then typically gives away all of their money to avoid further brutalization. You don't need to prove to me that your 'not a quick knee tremble in some grotty bedsit' because it doesn't matter. She still wouldn't enjoy it. In fact it can be physically and emotionally painful. Not to mention dangerous for both of you.

...
Please don't break the law. I strongly implore you to not do anything illegal. You don't seem the type to do well in prison.

I'm actually friends with her on facebook believe it or not. She is not what people would imagine, nice husband, 2 nice kids. I know the difference between decent people and lower working class rubbish.

I put about the faking bit just to make you lot happy. I would say the truth is she likes me screwing her. I would say she looks forward to it.

It's not breaking the law, I'm paying for her company, what happens is up to us. I can afford it so I don't see the problem. Safe sex is always maintained, not had any problems in 15 or so years.

What harm does it do ? If you didn't have women like her then you would get more sexual attacks on women by frustrated men. It's a service, the oldest by the way. Some men, like myself, we can't attract women. Whatever we do is not good enough. So I'm supposed to go my whole life not knowing what sex is like ? Ive choose this path and like I say it's not for everyone.

 

[defenestrate]

Be honest here duff, have you ever managed an escort service before?
Do you have the perspective of a manager?
Then how do you honestly know whether or she enjoys it or how she even feels?

As a child I have been involved in the escort service for years from the management side.
Although I never had a choice, these where the actions and responsibilities of my father, not me. I was never given the choice of being born into this household. I'm glad to no longer be a part of his life.
Let me tell you; you obviously have no idea how we exploit other people into earning us money. You have no clue how dire the situations are for these wives with husbands and children. You don't know how we persuade them to enter the business or how they fare. It's sick. It's sick, and it isn't always clear to anyone whether or not they've been forced into selling themselves. Prostitutes often portray themselves having made their own willing decision and consent, despite typically being shanghai'd. My only regret is that the man who ran this escort service, in the household I grew up in, was not arrested. There are also severe mental illnesses which compel people to commit seductive actions. Children who have been raped, abused, orphaned, or abandoned sometimes turn out very histrionic as adults. They cannot imagine themselves being anywhere else but the very center of attention and feel compelled to behave as sex toys to remain there. Some people have no problem manipulating them, or taking advantage of them. To each their own, but the law is the law and it does vary worldwide. If you wish to be a part of civil society, you need to follow the law. Otherwise there are people who I'm sure are more than happy to remove you from society.

Rape is about control, not lust, thank you very much. Prostitution is not the valuable service to society that you make it out to be. There really isn't any reason to believe prostitution prevents rape. To believe what you believe is to look through the world with a skewed lense. An associate of mine worked a housing facility for juvenile sexual offenders. I am always amazed by the stories of their distorted views of reality which allows them to commit these horrific actions. Some of which included soliciting a prostitute. I know this might not change your beliefs. But I hope you take a good long look into the mirror. I hope you never have a daughter of your own...

Not until you learn to respect women and view them as normal human beings. Not objects. Not playthings to be purchased. Not property.

 

[MellyVinelli]

Going back to OP, I see the "other frustrations in life" being a higher priority than the sexual frustration. I'm in a relationship and still not getting laid because of a myriad of other problems going on right now. You said you have difficulty getting off, I presume through the time tested method of buffing the helmet.

Please deal with other frustrations first. If you want someone to chat with just PM me and I'll be there for you.

 

[duff]

A statistic I saw a few years ago - 1 in 8 british males have paid for sex !

 

[MellyVinelli]

1 in 8 pay for companionship. The sex is consensual