In November a friend of mine visited NYC and we went to a bunch of bars & clubs.
I approached about 8 groups of girls to try to get them to come over and have drinks with us.
They all said no.
I almost never do that -- I just stick with escort agencies.
But I wanted to try to get some girls to come over so my friend would have a better time.
That was really the only thing that disappointed me. I got shot down trying to be a good wing man.
He swears he still had a lot of fun here though.
P.S.
The girls I approached were all at least 30 years younger than me.
Also, it was pretty upscale places.
I suppose the women in those joints can afford their own drinks.
Maybe we should "slum it" next time...
I don't think bars and clubs are good places to meet women, for this very reason - you're just going to find a lot of egotists there, who are looking for similar/like-minded/compatible personalities - egotists looking for other egotists. If you're not like that, I don't think it's going to work.
Plus, there's no basis for a conversation - the only thing anyone knows they have in common with anyone else at the bar or club, is that they're both at that bar or club at that point in time.
I think the fact that they were 30 years younger, AND that it was upscale places, only made it harder - most likely those aren't going to be nice girls you're talking to, who might be friendly, but rather the kind of person that thinks they are better than everyone else, just for existing - and they're looking for guys with the same attitudes, beliefs, values, and views, and personality traits.
I don't think "slumming it" would work either. I don't think anything will work unless there is a good reason that brings you together. It can't be like, a "wanting" thing. Like you guys were wanting the companionship of the women, because they're women - but why would they want to come over? NOT that I'm saying anything bad about you guys. It's just that it puts you at a "disadvantage" of sorts, and there has to be some reason why you both want to talk to each other.
I think the only thing that has any real chance of working, is going someplace where you have something in common with the people there, and hopefully have enough to talk about to have real conversations and real connection.