So the title of this thread is about the struggle for attracting and approaching women ... first of all why it is a struggle for some while comes naturally and unforced for others ... and I think the answer it's because you either (1) don't play this game within the right league (meaning material things like physique or money) or (2) you miss something spiritual in nature that could overcome the gap between ..........................
so you're saying that it's a struggle to attract women if
1) you don't have money or looks - I agree with that for the most part these days, but there are always women that aren't so shallow and greedy
2) you miss something spiritual in nature that would make money and looks unnecessary - possibly true for a certain type of woman I guess
... and I think the thing that has the best chances to succeed with this goal is what is generically called love ...
I can't grasp what you're trying to say here
... now the love for others I think presupposes the courage and hard work to look at the ugly truths about yourself (self knowledge) and the courage and hard work to love yourself in spite of it (where that attractive, "irresistible" confidence comes from) ... as for myself I'm too old and lazy to choose this second path
Understanding your failings and limitations is required, and then if you wish to succeed in attracting a woman, of course you would need to work on those aspects. But the work doesn't have to be difficult to undertake, but if you're too lazy to do the work, then the fault lies with you. Age has nothing to do with it.
What about just having some pride in yourself, having some self worth and just improving your well-being, which benefits everyone that you interact with, not just women that you may attract. My biggest motivation for self improvement in my physical and mental self is so I don't hopefully find myself bedridden for a long period of time with illness before I die. I would rather die quickly, doing something I was enjoying, like getting hit by a car while I ride my bike, or fall off a cliff while hiking, etc.