You know the one, that (probably for most of us) solidified our social anxiety/shyness/relationship anxiety/loneliness/etc. Or maybe it changed you in a positive way. Either way it is one that made you or kept you the way you are for years, affected you in such a way that you still relive it like it was yesterday.
For me it was something that happened back in grade school. I've talked about this story before. We were having one of those forced upon school dances, one that was conducted during school hours so you had no choice. They were supposed to help build social skills and help us grow as young people.
In grade 8 I had this HUGE crush on a girl, Stephanie, she was popular, but she wasn't what you'd consider the "hottest" girl in our grade. She wasn't super skinny but she wasn't overweight either, pleasantly plump. I don't know what it was about her but I just liked her. Not like she ever talked to me or gave me the time of day. I was short, skinny, and horribly nonathletic.
Of course being 13 years old no one was dancing, the awkwardness filled the air. Teachers were trying to force us to mingle, and I was hanging out with my friends. One of the teachers was trying to get us guys to tell him who we wanted to dance with. None of us wanted to admit to it so we sold each other out, nice eh? One friend of mine got lucky and the girl we revealed he liked danced with him and so did a few others. I got sold out and the teacher asked Stephanie. She had this horrified look on her face, like it would kill her reputation if she danced with me. She refused, all in my ear shot and line of sight. The only saving grace was the apologetic look I got from one of her friends, and my friends saying some not so nice things about her.
After that I never asked a girl to dance or asked one out. Thankfully they asked me, but it made me so afraid of ever being humiliated like that again. Being as shy as I was to begin with it further pushed me into my shell forever afraid of coming out of it.
Years later, while shopping in the local Winners with my brother we ran into Stephanie who was working there. She remembered us even though we hadn't seen each other since elementary school. She was kind and chatted with us a bit, and **** she was a knockout! Guess I saw the swan before she blossomed, and some lucky guy married her. I realized it then that I still hold onto that humiliating moment, I don't like going into Winners.
So what's your one memory?
For me it was something that happened back in grade school. I've talked about this story before. We were having one of those forced upon school dances, one that was conducted during school hours so you had no choice. They were supposed to help build social skills and help us grow as young people.
In grade 8 I had this HUGE crush on a girl, Stephanie, she was popular, but she wasn't what you'd consider the "hottest" girl in our grade. She wasn't super skinny but she wasn't overweight either, pleasantly plump. I don't know what it was about her but I just liked her. Not like she ever talked to me or gave me the time of day. I was short, skinny, and horribly nonathletic.
Of course being 13 years old no one was dancing, the awkwardness filled the air. Teachers were trying to force us to mingle, and I was hanging out with my friends. One of the teachers was trying to get us guys to tell him who we wanted to dance with. None of us wanted to admit to it so we sold each other out, nice eh? One friend of mine got lucky and the girl we revealed he liked danced with him and so did a few others. I got sold out and the teacher asked Stephanie. She had this horrified look on her face, like it would kill her reputation if she danced with me. She refused, all in my ear shot and line of sight. The only saving grace was the apologetic look I got from one of her friends, and my friends saying some not so nice things about her.
After that I never asked a girl to dance or asked one out. Thankfully they asked me, but it made me so afraid of ever being humiliated like that again. Being as shy as I was to begin with it further pushed me into my shell forever afraid of coming out of it.
Years later, while shopping in the local Winners with my brother we ran into Stephanie who was working there. She remembered us even though we hadn't seen each other since elementary school. She was kind and chatted with us a bit, and **** she was a knockout! Guess I saw the swan before she blossomed, and some lucky guy married her. I realized it then that I still hold onto that humiliating moment, I don't like going into Winners.
So what's your one memory?