stork_error
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As a teen I was a sentimental collector. I'd save cards, poems, pictures, flyers, dance tickets, vacation gifts, stuffed annimals, roses, dairies and basically anything that had an emotional attachment to it.
When i turned 26, I had my first serious life crises and I became so angry at myself for all the silly memories that I kept and I felt because I felt that the sentiment was so one sided. The poems for boys that never loved me disgusted me because I remember how I felt. The roses from boys that never loved me disgusted me because I remembered that I believed them. The stuffed animals that I hugged to while I cried over people that never loved me. The diaries all full of delusional feelings and fantasies. I read them and thought " my god you are an idiot "
I remember as i purged each thing, I said a swear word as i shredded it or called myself an idiot as I read it for the last time.
At 26, I threw everything out and it was so nice to feel clutter free.
I lived clutter free for many years until about 4 years ago I experienced a traumatic event.
The aftermath of the year eventually resulted in a collection of legal papers, however they are not organized nicely. It sits in a walmart bin mixed up with papers of unrelated importance such as, internet cables, wires, medical files, old bills, pens, old files etc..
I'ts a big bin of mixed content from the time frame of 2009-2010. The bin currently sits in my locker downstairs.
Attached to this bin are extremely negative memories and feelings. The kind of feelings that induce PTSD.
Ive considered dumping and burning the entire bin and if I'm going to do that I will need to do it soon because It's getting cold out.
Ideally id like to be able to sort it out as there may be important tidbits amongst the debris such as unrelated medical files. The problem is that I'm not interested in triggering such awful memories by having to review each item, and by having to look at the legal stuff and relive that time period.
So I'm sort of stuck. Should i burn it all? I feel like this bin is somehow keeping bad energy alive, which is strange for me to say because I dont really believe in that kind of stuff so I'm not even sure in what context i mean this when i say it. I just know it bugs me and i want it gone.
Ive held on to this stuff because I always thought that one day I would be desensitized and indifferent to it and would be able to sort it out. However, Im beginning to realize, I don't think that will ever happen. I'm realizing that whether i sort this bin out now or in ten years it will inevitably cause PTSD, and I'm just not sure how long it will last after that and I don't want that.
I haven't held on to papers like this since I was 26. It bothers me a lot.
I realize I need to do something about it because its affecting my sense of peace. I don't feel in good organized order. I feel negative clutter.
So what should I do?
1. Do I sort it out and live out the PTSD.
2. Do I junk the whole bin and risk throwing out important stuff.
3. Do I leave it indefinitely and hope that the day will come where I can sort it.
It's been 4+ years now
When i turned 26, I had my first serious life crises and I became so angry at myself for all the silly memories that I kept and I felt because I felt that the sentiment was so one sided. The poems for boys that never loved me disgusted me because I remember how I felt. The roses from boys that never loved me disgusted me because I remembered that I believed them. The stuffed animals that I hugged to while I cried over people that never loved me. The diaries all full of delusional feelings and fantasies. I read them and thought " my god you are an idiot "
I remember as i purged each thing, I said a swear word as i shredded it or called myself an idiot as I read it for the last time.
At 26, I threw everything out and it was so nice to feel clutter free.
I lived clutter free for many years until about 4 years ago I experienced a traumatic event.
The aftermath of the year eventually resulted in a collection of legal papers, however they are not organized nicely. It sits in a walmart bin mixed up with papers of unrelated importance such as, internet cables, wires, medical files, old bills, pens, old files etc..
I'ts a big bin of mixed content from the time frame of 2009-2010. The bin currently sits in my locker downstairs.
Attached to this bin are extremely negative memories and feelings. The kind of feelings that induce PTSD.
Ive considered dumping and burning the entire bin and if I'm going to do that I will need to do it soon because It's getting cold out.
Ideally id like to be able to sort it out as there may be important tidbits amongst the debris such as unrelated medical files. The problem is that I'm not interested in triggering such awful memories by having to review each item, and by having to look at the legal stuff and relive that time period.
So I'm sort of stuck. Should i burn it all? I feel like this bin is somehow keeping bad energy alive, which is strange for me to say because I dont really believe in that kind of stuff so I'm not even sure in what context i mean this when i say it. I just know it bugs me and i want it gone.
Ive held on to this stuff because I always thought that one day I would be desensitized and indifferent to it and would be able to sort it out. However, Im beginning to realize, I don't think that will ever happen. I'm realizing that whether i sort this bin out now or in ten years it will inevitably cause PTSD, and I'm just not sure how long it will last after that and I don't want that.
I haven't held on to papers like this since I was 26. It bothers me a lot.
I realize I need to do something about it because its affecting my sense of peace. I don't feel in good organized order. I feel negative clutter.
So what should I do?
1. Do I sort it out and live out the PTSD.
2. Do I junk the whole bin and risk throwing out important stuff.
3. Do I leave it indefinitely and hope that the day will come where I can sort it.
It's been 4+ years now